What's your boy to girl ratio?

[GirlieAmanda]

This is something I have been thinking about for a long time. Inside right now I feel about 25% boy and about 75% girl on average. I believe that I should have been a girl no doubt at birth. I feel like there is a 16-20 yer old girl who lives inside me and shares my brain and body. I let her envelop me when I let her out and the boyness shrinks inside of sorts as I immerse myself in her. My therapist even recently talked about when you are an embryo, you are female. Then at around day 10 or something there is a testosterone "wash" that envelopes the embryo if its to be male. He and I both agree that at this crucial time, not all always goes as it should. I think that people like us have both boy and girl in us. The chemistry of the brain dictates who we are. How else would CDs start at such a young age way before puberty or with regular, ultra normal loving families. I don't believe this is learned at all. I feel it in me so much and it just depends on how much of a ratio of sorts that one has that dictates how strong a desire they have to be feminine. I would love to hear what others feel inside right now as you sit. How much boy and how much girl?

[Danielle.N]

Very thought provoking question. I'd say right now today, 60-40. Fluctuates often of course, but the majority always toward the femme side - even as tomorrow will be one of the most significant days my male side has had, career wise.

[t-girlxsophie]

On average just ball park figure,I would say I spend 75% as Sophie.A lot of the time,Although in drab I have many thoughts that are femme which muddies the waters a little

[steftoday]

60/40 at the moment. but, like Danielle, it varies depending on what I'm doing and what day it is...

[LitaKelley]

If you follow Tao, Buddhism or Chinese philosophy, you would have a greater understanding, that ALL human beings are BOTH male and female, and that these polar opposites are interconnected and interdependent upon each other to achieve balance, harmony, virtue, integrity and peace

[Janine cd]

Probably about 75% Janine and 25% male me.

[JenniferDiaz]

95% Male, 5% Female.
(The 5% is just dress sense!)

[sissystephanie]

I am really going to upset the cart!! I am most likely 90% male and 10% female. I was born a male, and the Good Lord willing will die a male!! I like to dress as a female, but that is as far as it goes!! As LitaKelley said, we are all part of both!

[Rachel Morley]

Hi Amanda - I agree with everything you have written. It's describes almost exactly how I feel about me, us (CDers), and why we might be the way we are. I think my percentages match yours too. Inside, I feel about 25% boy and about 75% girl.

[juno]

I think my brain is divided with the left half male and the right half female. The left brain is dominant, so I feel 75% male.

Given the complexity of gender diversification, I am surprised there are note more people that don't self-identify as all male or female. That is why my signature reads "Normal people are weird"; I think that 100% male or female (textbook "normal") is the exception and most people just deny their minor gender component.

[Marissa]

70% male, 15% for the clothes + 15% for the feelings and thoughts of a woman. No part in my life have I thought I was in the wrong gender and even now its mainly the dressing that is enjoyed so transition is not part of the future at this time.

[Miranda09]

I feel I'm about 60/40 or sometimes 50/50. Seems like there's always a bit of conflict between both halves, but I enjoy both. :)

[Madilyn A.]

For me, 65% female, 35 % male. And yes, it does vary some depending on what I am doing at the time.

[WillowWriter]

For me, it's a bit different. Mind, 50/50. Dressed, 75/25. I don't really have any clothes, so that kinda hurts the dressing bit.

[gwenbeth]

Right now I would say 50/50. I don't get to spend enough time as Gwen, but I keep leaking out when in guy-mode.

And I feel the same way as you do Amanda about my girl-age versus my guy-age. A while back I described myself to my friend as a "40 year old teen-age girl"

[Erica G]

Gotta say 70/30 male.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

At work I have to be 80 percent male and 20 percent female. Need to be sympathetic at times. When i get home, 95percent female and 5percent male. Need that male part to undo the lids on bottles. I usually am a thirty something female even though I am 53 but sometimes become Nana mode when someone has a problem.

[CarlaWestin]

Physically, 100% male and totally enjoying it! Then I dress up and....and.....WOW!!

[WillowWriter]

Well, I did some thinking, Mind is more like 75% Female, 25% Male, but vise-versa for dressing. I'm would say I'm 19 years old as a guy, but as a girl, more like 16 or 17. :P

[thechic]

I'm about 80% Female 20% Male

[BillieJoEllen]

I've always felt 100% female. Its just that I have to go through life impersonating a male. Wish I could go back about forty years. Things would be so much different today. At one time I thought I was the only one in the world going through anything like this. So much excellent information out there now.

[kimdl93]

I don't honestly know how to allocate my identity - but I'd have to say I'm weighted more heavily toward female than male....65:35 perhaps?

Your therapist is right - the presence of hormones in theintra-utero enviroment does seem to play a role in later gender identification, even when one is genetically male. For example, having older male siblings has been assocated with a statistically significant increase in the likelyhood of female gender identification among younger brothers (provided there are not alternating female and male siblings, which seems negates the effect). The speculation is that some lingering hormones from the earlier male sibling influence thier younger sibling's gender identification. Maybe this has some sort of evolutionary advantage.

I can't say this is the cause, but I have six older brothers, with no intervening sisters. Maybe that explains everything!?!

[Karren H]

Have too many equations and not enough variables to solve for either of those...

[Cynthia Anne]

I still get a male attitude once in a while, so I would say 20% male 80% female! Looking at your avatar I would guess you at about 101% FEMALE!!!

[EllieOPKS]

This is a really good question. I feel as though I swing to both sides of the pendulum. Generally, I am 100% male, but I wake up some days, or maybe my mind drifts during the day and I feel like 100 percent femme. If I happen into a department store and see the wonderful clothes for women, I get totally femme feeling and enjoy it greatly. Some times when I go to bed I have that femme feeling and it's a wonderful night. Ho-Hum, maybe instead of Ellie I should have chose Cybil. LOL!

[christinek]

I am really going to upset the cart!! I am most likely 90% male and 10% female. I was born a male, and the Good Lord willing will die a male!! I like to dress as a female, but that is as far as it goes!! As LitaKelley said, we are all part of both!

I totally associated with this statement a few years ago. I even said just this last sept that I was only a CD and now I am looking at going all the way. Go figure.

[tommi]

Emmotionly I'm a 75% female I can break down real easy with the stress and that trips a male rage response followed by my femme side crying. I don't get the chance to dress nearly as often as I would like but I still have alot of dreams about how nice it would be to be a women and be taken care of.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

I say 90% girl and only 10% boy now.

[MrKunk]

it is about 60/40 I diffenately feel girly and acknowledge the fact that I believe I should have been a girl. However I am physically and anatomically and man with
man emotions mixed and I don't plan to alter my gender through surgery.

[SusanMarie]

Well...if I have to assign something to the boy side...
67% female(subcontiously) and 33% male (if I force myself)...
My SO says I am 99% female and I fake the 1% male.

[Rachel 23]

An interesting one this. As my work is a very male environment I would say about 90% male 10% female. However once done, its about 80% female 20% male. For me its the age old statement about always seeing a female and yes I may find her attractive, but more than that I want to know where she got her outfit, wonder what it would look like on me etc. The more I go along this road, the more the female % goes up. And to be honest the happier I am.

Rachel, xx

[KellyCD]

For me it's really 90% guy, 10% girl.

[Jonianne]

I told my therapist back in 1993 I felt like I was 25 -35% female and the rest male. That ratio has pretty much stayed the same. I think the emotional part of who I am is more female than male, however.

[Marcia Blue]

I have to say I am usually 75% Male 25% Female. I have never felt the Female side exceed 50%.
I have been riding this crazy roller coaster, for so long I really feel, I understand my need and female point of balance.

[faltenrock]

I think it's about 70 % male and 30 % female for me - very hard one...

[PretzelGirl]

[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][SIZE="3"][COLOR="blue"]I have to say I am usually 75% Male 25% Female. I have never felt the Female side exceed 50%.

I have found the changing of the feeling interesting lately. I hadn't thought about it, but this question has been asked here more than once and I probably gave different answers each time.

At my last Tri-Ess meeting, one of the wives asked this same question. And that is when it clicked that I was giving different answers. So what can cause the sliding feelings? I don't know, maybe stress, satisfaction (or not) with the time allocated to either side, or really just any kind of life issues could bring out one side more than the other.

Oh, and my answer at the meeting was 55% female/45% male. I want to say 55% each and that I am giving the team 110%!

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Current ratio as of Feb 2011 70% Male 30 % Female. My male side is starting to over again. :eek:

[Teri Ray]

Well I guess my answer to this question mya be a bit different. Since I can only dress on rare occasions I guess I am mostly male but when dressed I feel 100 % female. If I answer the question about how much time my mind spends thinking of male things v.s. female things I figure I am 70% male and 30% female.

[Rianna Humble]

I think my ratio would probably be about 95% woman to 5% male. It is the 5% that gives me the greatest cause for concern

[Annaliese2010]

What's your boy to girl ratio?

40/60 probly... Fluctuates...I'm strongly affected by who I'm with...I think...maybe.

[Girl]

Inside I feel 100% girl and 0% boy.

[Charise52]

I like what Lita said... and at home, I am 100 percent female... and in public it varies... even though I wear women's jeans and tops and shorts and tops and ear rings all the time... I can come across as very male when the situation calls for it... even with nail polish... LOL I can not put a percentage on it... although I love to feel like a woman...

[Sojourner]

Id say im probally 90 percent male and 10 percent female (in the dressing up sense, i like the clothes, though i dont consider myself to be female)

[izzfan]

I used to think that it was about either 50:50 or, a long time ago, probably 80% male.

However, over the past year or two, I've come to the conclusion that it is probably 80% female at the least (even though I often outwardly appear/act male, it usually just doesn't feel quite right.)

[Anneliese]

Hmmm..

I am very male in that I'm a natural slob who forgets birthdays and anniversaries.

I am very female in that I've always cried at movies.

I'm very male in that I love playing sports and working out.

I'm very female in that I love women's clothing and feeling as though I AM a woman.

I'm very male in that I don't listen very well (most of the time).

I'm very female in that movies with car crashes, explosions, large breasts, and guns rarely interest me, preferring instead character studies with real people.

I'm very male in that I can't dance (or have never really tried)

I'm very female in that I sing on pitch, and, although a natural tenor, am able to switch easily to soprano and imitate women.

50/50 when outside of my home.

10/90 inside...

[Nicole Brown]

100% female for me. No, actually make that 98% female, I still have to overcome that male urge to get even when someone cuts me off while driving at 80 MPH down Route 95.

[Karen__Starr]

Since I am more comfortable as female than male I only wear male clothes one percent of a week’s time. With that said, my ratio is 99.99 percent female. If society were not so screwed up about accepting transgender, I would have fully transitioned by now with zero regrets to anything to do with my male parts and or appearance.

[suchacutie]

Five years ago I considered myself 100% male. By that I not only mean that I had never presented as female, but that I had no idea that I considered the world from a woman's perspective in any way.

Then Tina appeared one morning (quite literally!).

As we've allowed Tina to have the adventure of exploring who she is, it's become more and more clear that there is a significant feminine perspective in my thinking. More than that, after many hours of conversation with my wife we've begun to uncover ideas that I'd never thought about, and they lead farther into the feminine side.

So, I'm looking at this from the notion of what my perspectives are on issues of everyday life. Not a day goes by when Tina is not present in my life. Heck, just look at all the time I spend taking care of this body in ways that could only be thought of as feminine! And those eyebrows are sure not masculine! Then again, my time on the tractor yesterday moving tons of snow was pretty male! :)

But looking at the balance, I'd say that it's probably 55% male and 45% female at this point. That's a guess, but I can't imagine it's far from wrong.

tina

[britney]

I would say i am about 50/50 inside. I think i could have been born either way. My sense in most aspects of life is quite female. I am emotional, i like cute things, i like lots of girly stuff.

On the flip side, i am very male in my sexual preferences. If i would have been born female, i would have definitely been lesbian.

[Proteus]

More male than female, but I can't begin to set a ratio. A while back I would take just about every opportunity to dress, but right now I hardly dress at all, apart form my nightgown.

[Jennifer Freeman]

I read somewhere that it may come down to genetics.:daydreaming: The female has XX and the male has XY.:daydreaming: So it seems that a man is actually a woman with a bit missing - the Y instead of an X makes him 12.5% less than female!:eek:
So on that basis, am I right in saying that I'm 12.5% male and 87.5% female???:o
Jennifer Freeman:devil: