Jamie Parks
02-04-2011, 02:37 AM
OK, I know I am going to really upset allot of people with this but I am not trying to offend anyone just throw my point of view out there, I am not saying I am right or wrong just my opinion. There are allot of variables in the equations between us and our SOers, like did we disclose our dressing early in the relationships, or wait till much later or maybe still hiding it...are you a CD, or a tg...the frequency with which we dress, all the time or rarely...the extent to which we dress, under dress or all the way or maybe somewhere in the middle. Then there is society, also the way we are stereotyped...sexual deviants, perverts, freaks, weirdos now if someone approached us on the streets while we were dressed and started throwing those stereotypes at us we would assume that they are uneducated about our true situation and know that they are somewhat prejudiced toward us...that is there right and probably nothing will ever change there way of thinking of us(I am not saying everyone is like that but most are, even if they only think it in there head and not speak it aloud). On that same line of thinking I am sure most of us know someone who is from a older generation where racism was accepted(well at least tolerated) and there is nothing in this world that is going to change there minds about it, no amount of education or pressure from society is going to make them realize there way of thinking is wrong(I speak from experience my father was like that, I tryed to reason with him but he wasn't going to budge from his way of thinking)now it is these peoples right to think how they want but IT DOESN'T MAKE THEM RIGHT. At one time society taught us that to be a person of color meant they were beneath a person of the Caucasian descent, it was accepted and taught that was just the way it was...once again society said it was alright to be a raciest but THAT DID NOT MAKE IT RIGHT!!!! not then and most defentaly not now. Now closer to my point, society now says that being a CD or a TG is somehow wrong, a few enlightened people know better but the world view as a whole is very negative about us, that is most likely where our SO got there point of view from and for some no amount of education or pleading from us is going to change there minds and it is there right to have that point of view but THAT DOESN'T MAKE IT RIGHT!!! We no longer apologize for how racists feel why do we keep apologizing for how some of our SO's feel I see absolutely no difference between the two, both are based on zero facts and alot of stereotypes, and both ways of thinking should be left in the past. Now I realize that cross dressing can still be a deal breaker for some SO(for many reasons) and that is there right but I believe that for most of them it all comes down to a preset prejudice and why are we apologizing for someones prejudice. Now for my disclamer...I know not everyone is prejudice toward us and I am not speaking of anyone in particular, I also realize that some (in my case) GG's will never accept our way of life even if it doesn't affect there way of life, my point is we should stop making excuses for them and call it as we see it. Once again I am not trying to offend anyone CD, TG, GG whatever just saying what I think(I am also not saying I am right or wrong, just my opinion). Before some of you chain me to the whipping post to give me my lashings ask for clarification I am not a scholar or a writer, I know what I mean in my head but that doesn't always translate 100% to my writings.
let me also add this I am using stereotypes for this post, i realize not all CD,TG's feel like me, I know not all of society feels like we are deviants, and I know not all GG's have a prejudice towards us, as a matter of fact I am fortunate to be one of the lucky ones who has a SO who accepts me for who I am. I also know that even if a GG accepts us it could still be a deal breaker some peoples life long desire is to grow old with a person from the opposite sex that they are madly in love with. I am not condemning anyone just pointing out that we don't need to protect those who see us as "criminals and deviants" just because society told them we are
let me also add this I am using stereotypes for this post, i realize not all CD,TG's feel like me, I know not all of society feels like we are deviants, and I know not all GG's have a prejudice towards us, as a matter of fact I am fortunate to be one of the lucky ones who has a SO who accepts me for who I am. I also know that even if a GG accepts us it could still be a deal breaker some peoples life long desire is to grow old with a person from the opposite sex that they are madly in love with. I am not condemning anyone just pointing out that we don't need to protect those who see us as "criminals and deviants" just because society told them we are