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Tiffy
09-20-2005, 04:10 PM
Well ladies I am out. Atleast to most of my family now. My mom and her husband have known for about a year now and I told my mother in law this spring. And of course my wife knows.

Well today I was a little grumpy about the way things were going and in male mode I am grumpy most of the time. Well I went to town with my grandmother and we were shopping for a blood pressure monitor for my mom. Well we found one and I tried it out and my BP was out of sight. After we bought it we were driving to lunch when she asked me why I was so uptight and stressed all the time. I proceeded to tell her it was partly because mom, her, and myself lived to close together. All living in different homes but all on the same 5 1/2 acres. And I tried to tell her that she expects me to do all for her all the time. Which in turn leaves nights for me to dress. And in doing this without trying to hurt her feelings I tried to describe the fight within me. Being a CD. Which I did not say for a while. Then it just popped out that I am transgendered. She looked at me like I was losing my head. I even got lost driving to lunch. She started asking alot of questions and I was trying to answer in ways she would understand. (granny is very closed minded) Anyway, we got to lunch and talked for the better part of two hours. And to my surprise she did not freak. She just looked at me and said she was trying to understand. The she said "that must be why you liked panties when you were young". I laughed and said yeah. Didn't it ever occur to you that it was not sexual since you found panties in my room well before I was old enough to know what sex was? She just kinda looked like a light came on in her head.

Anyway, she knows now and I am not even sure why I told her. I guess being here and reading about all of you that have told your family made me want to get it out as well. We shall see what happens next. But the funniest thing is, my house was given to me by her for a gift because my wife and I cared for her after an auto accident for over a year. Today she said, if you had told me sooner I would have bought you a house away from me and your mom. I just smiled and said I was not ready to tell anyone when you bought us this house. She also asked me if there was any medication to fix it. I told her no and that I would not change it even if I could. Then she asked if there was any cure at all. And I told her no.

Thanks for reading and listening. I love you all and love this place. Thank you so much for being here.

Love, April

Kimberly
09-20-2005, 04:16 PM
Thanks for reading and listening. I love you all and love this place. Thank you so much for being here.
Awwwww... well, that's all right. :p

This sounds a lot like me... I'm telling people slowly but surely. Told a very good, and old, friend of mine yesterday, actually!! Coz he said the words, "you know, you can always talk to me about anything you want." ... Well, I'd just told his girlfriend, so I may as well have told him - so I did. This was on messenger, mind... much easier face to face. you can guage their reaction ;)

But I'm pleased for you, April!! And thank God your Nan didn't freak. :)

You keep at it, honey, and try to relax!! ;) xx

Emily Ann Brown
09-20-2005, 04:16 PM
Well April, it looks like it didn't go too badly so far. For that I am very happy for you. Now comes how many will she tell, but it sounds like she is a pretty cool old gal so you may get lucky there too. At least now you can breathe freely around her.


Emily Ann

Cissy Suzie
09-20-2005, 04:26 PM
I don't know what you have done, but it sure looks like you are doing it right!

I just told my little sister a few months ago about Suzie, and she is ok with it, but we both feel like there is no reason to bother our 77 year old mother with it.

She would just be confused and worry, "What did I do wrong? How could I have kept this from happening to my son?" That kind of thing.

I do wish I had come out many years ago, but I didn't ... good for you that you are doing it and it seems to be working for you!

You go grrl!

MichelleGray502
09-20-2005, 04:29 PM
Way to go April i am pleased to hear that your gran took it very well, th best she problay could at these early stages in knowing 'bout it. As far as her telling other people it seems to be that she problay wont due to how she acted when you told her 'bout it during your lunch gathering you had with her 'th other day and if she even does lov Just take in pride when someone comfronts you 'bout it and tell 'th person to what you think is right lov.
Good luck with everything

Kimberly
09-20-2005, 04:51 PM
She would just be confused and worry, "What did I do wrong? How could I have kept this from happening to my son?" That kind of thing.
This has made me think; maybe I'll have to tell me parents before I truly grow up out of their reach... hmm. So they come to terms with it before they start going senile, and maybe whilst they can still see that I'm an okay person at home!!

Tiffy
09-20-2005, 04:59 PM
Thanks girls, it has been a strange day. I am 29 and have been dressing over 21 years already. It took me a long time to tell her. Hell, I never told anyone but my wife until just about a year ago.

Kisses, April

Julie York
09-20-2005, 05:06 PM
Good for you.
I liked the comment about panties before you were sexually aware. That's a real pointer for everyone to think about. If it's all about sex then....erm...erm..erm...Oooooh!!! Maybe it ISN'T!




:thumbsup:

Marla GG
09-20-2005, 05:10 PM
April,

Fabulous post. I am glad it went so well. You have a very cool granny!

Tiffy
09-20-2005, 05:15 PM
April,

Fabulous post. I am glad it went so well. You have a very cool granny!


Marla, today I will agree with that. But any other day I would have said you were losing your mind. :D

Kisses, April

Marla GG
09-20-2005, 05:17 PM
Marla, today I will agree with that. But any other day I would have said you were losing your mind. :D

Kisses, April

LOL April -- and you would be right! :p

Tiffy
09-21-2005, 07:29 AM
When my wife came home last night I told her what I had done. She knows how granny usually is. And she thinks there is something wrong with me. I told her that I did not mean to tell granny but it just happened. So we will see what kinda form granny is when I pick her up in about two hours.

Kisses, April

Thanks ladies for taking the time to read this.

uknowhoo
09-21-2005, 10:06 AM
It's heartwarming to hear stories like these. It just shows the power of love. People you wouldn't dream could accept CD'ing as a concept can still accept their loved ones who happen to CD. Thanks for sharing your experience with us. hugs, Tammi


Oh, btw, we love you too April (and not just 50/50).

Tiffy
09-21-2005, 05:41 PM
Tammi, thank you and big hugs and kisses. :)

Love, April