Mothers Always Know

[Dannigirl]

I have been dressing since I was at least 5 or 6, of course not fully dressing, just my sisters panties and bras back then. As I got older I graduated to mom's dresses and accessories. I remember when I was around 8 or 9 my mom found a few pairs of my sister's panties in my dresser, I can't really remember what happened when she did. In my teens I used to dress up whenever I could, I almost got busted so many times and I think I really wanted to but I was never confronted so I figured I was fine.

O.K zoom ahead to 2011.......

I am driving my mom home to pick up a few for her and my dad as my dad is in the hospital as he just had a quad bypass, he is doing great. My parents live about an hour from me so we had alot of time to chat about things, I tried to steer the conversation away from my dad and what has been happening because my mom has been saturated with it over the last 4 days. Anyway, we were talking about Valentine's Day and what I was going to buy my SO, I mentioned probably something slinky and see through but of course it would be more for me (meaning she would wear it but I would still benefit by getting to see her in it) to which my mom responded: "why do you still like to dress-up and wear make-up" ? Insert shock and silence here !!!!! I figured why deny what she obviously knew about so I just said, sure, whenever I have a chance. She wanted to know if I had told my SO which I have, and how she felt about it (doesn't mind at all and helps me shop and get ready sometimes). I asked her if my dad knew and she told me he didn't but my sister did because I always screwed up her make-up and didn't put her bras back correctly. For those of you that are wondering if your mom knows... it is true, moms know everything !!

Another little weight has been lifted. Although she didn't ask and I didn't offer to show her the finished product. Maybe someday........

Happy dressing,

Danni

[Elle1946]

I figure that my mother knew, but she never said anything about it. I know what you mean when you said "Mothers Always Know", it is just a feeling that one gets.

[Billie Jean]

Ditto Elle, I never had my mother say anything but I always had the feeling she knew. Billie Jean

[Dallas46]

Mothers know all and suspect the rest!

[DAVIDA]

I always thought that my mother knew too. Until the evening that I told her!:eek:
She said that she had no clue!:doh:

[Zoe Preston]

Excellent story. We always fear rejection by those we love and it's re-assuring to hear that your mother was so matter-of-fact about it.

Zoe

[S. Lisa Smith]

My mother didn't have a clue until I told her. She was really surprised. I guess she didn't pick up the clues...

[Danielle Gee]

Danni:

My Mother knew,so did both of my Sisters................But it was my Dad who bought me my first pair of ruffled panties for Christmas one year when I was eight or Nine.....How's that for a weird family?

Danielle

[Kari Lynn Franks]

both my mom and dad found out when i was in grade school caught me wearin sisters panties, then I turned into the black sheep of the familly oh and got my a** beat for imbarrassing them.

[Raychel]

Sure my mother knew, I was having a talk with her one time and she said that she didn't rememberit was me, She thought it was my brother. But now that I think back. She must have just been saying that to make me feel better. Or to maybe give me a clue that my brother likes to play dressup also.

She truely was a remarkable woman, I wish she was still here.

[Jocelyn Quivers]

Glad it went well for you. My mother :love: had always suspected with me. Even though I became skilled in hiding my dressing from her after the first couple of times getting caught. She really was not all that suprised when I finally told her.

[Cindygirl65]

Mothers may not like it but they still love you. Mine told me once "You're a better daughter than (Hollywood actress name which I won't mention). I try to be a good daughter/son and she knows that. That's why she loves me.

[lil red]

It is true that moms always know Two weeks ago told my brother, sister,mom, and a few friends. To my surprise mom said that she knew but didn't know if I still did it or if it was only when I was a kid. What a relief - 100% acceptance from all that were told. Now to get the guts to have a heart to heart with dad, that ones not gunna be easy (he knows but don't get it).

[Gocaps14]

My mother caught me several times and even offered to buy me panties once. I was always embarrassed and denied my true self. Too bad for me because she would have been so supportive!

[Dannigirl]

I think my dad would be fine with it. He has gotten very sentimental over the last few years and would just be happy that we are still all around to enjoy each others company. Over the last 4 years now he has beaten cancer and now a quad bypass so I think he realizes that life is too short to sweat the small stuff. If I told him I had to talk to him about something I know he would be relieved to hear that I am just a CD and I didn't go to the Doctor and found out I have something wrong with me as well. But I know it is not easy to get people to think like that.

[edina1]

A few years ago after a life of hiding I went to counselling to try to unlock all the shame and guilt and self-hatred. The first time I told anyone about dressing, and then I wanted to tell everyone, and admit the joy it could bring. I wanted to ask my mother about the early years, having denied anyone would know, as I recollected us walking together when I was maybe 7 or 8 and her asking if I wanted to get a kilt (we lived in Scotland, and quite a few boys had them for formal occasions). When I didn't quite turn down the idea, she added that of course I would have to wear girls' dark blue school knickers underneath. These being my passion of the time (I've grown up since), I very quickly said no, in as much of a tone of disgust as I could find. I used to wonder sometimes what would have happened if I'd responded more enthusiastically. And then, trpped in my guilt and denial, why had she asked?
My mother died last year, and I didn't ever open out about that old story, nor did I want to trouble her as she might have felt responsible for how I was, even if I'd try to assure her otherwise. But a few months after her death, battling through a lot of difficult stuff, I promised to cheer myself up by finally getting a kilt - a ladies' kilt, and found a lovely one in blue-green tartan soon after in a local charity shop. And wearing my grown up underwear, coloured pantyhose, a matching top, and a great big smile, I stood in my lovely kilt in front of the mirror and said hello to my mother, told her that yes, to answer her question of so many years ago, I loved wearing these clothes, I was sorry not to have been able to tell her, I might not have been the prettiest girl, but it made me very happy and I hoped she would like to see this, wearing a kilt at last, that she would understand, and love me. And I accepted that my mother did know, and I felt since then that it was all right after all.

[Jay Cee]

That was touching, Edina. :hugs:

I sometimes wonder if my sister or my mother knew that I had borrowed their things. I would like to think "no", but I also know that generally speaking, women tend to notice details way better than men do. If either of them have noticed, they had the tact not to mention it to me. If they had said anything, I doubt I would have been capable of dealing with it back then.

[edina1]

Thanks Jay Cee, a lot of mixed emotions, as ever....

Tact can be a great virtue at times - and I hope things feel Ok for you now. I eventually told my sister that I dressed, which seemed to be a surprise for her... said I would tell her anything she wanted to know (in full confessional, unburdening mode by then) .. but she didn't want to ask more and we still get on well, and talk to each other about lots of other personal feelings.

[Rachel Mari]

I stood in my lovely kilt in front of the mirror and said hello to my mother, told her that yes, to answer her question of so many years ago, I loved wearing these clothes, I was sorry not to have been able to tell her.

This brought tears to my eyes. Every now and then I miss my mother (like right now) and wonder how things would/could have been different with me if she had known. I can't help but think that she would've been supportive.
I don't know if she ever suspected and I'll never find out. Don't have a clue if my father knew (he passed away 36 years ago).

[edina1]

So difficult to tell but how comforting to imagine there could be acceptance and support. In my case and in those times (late 1950s) it would probably have been embarrassed kindness and concern, referral to a child psychologist, and a well-meaning aim to 'cure' things, though decades later this might have been far more like acceptance. Things have come a long way.... and for us all.

[julie w]

my mom caught me when I was very young wearing my sisters clothes I wonder if she remembers ,she has never mentioned it

[linnea]

I wish that I knew that my mother knew; alas, she died quite a few years ago. I don't think that she knew, but next month I'm going to talk to and tell my older brother. If my mother knew, it's a pretty sure thing that she asked him about it. It won't surprise me if they both knew long ago.

[t-girlxsophie]

A few years ago after a life of hiding I went to counselling to try to unlock all the shame and guilt and self-hatred. The first time I told anyone about dressing, and then I wanted to tell everyone, and admit the joy it could bring. I wanted to ask my mother about the early years, having denied anyone would know, as I recollected us walking together when I was maybe 7 or 8 and her asking if I wanted to get a kilt (we lived in Scotland, and quite a few boys had them for formal occasions). When I didn't quite turn down the idea, she added that of course I would have to wear girls' dark blue school knickers underneath. These being my passion of the time (I've grown up since), I very quickly said no, in as much of a tone of disgust as I could find. I used to wonder sometimes what would have happened if I'd responded more enthusiastically. And then, trpped in my guilt and denial, why had she asked?

Speaking as both a crossdresser and a proud Scot that story really tugged at my heartstrings am glad in your own way you reconciled your feelings about your dressing.if you believe in the afterlife maybe you could wear the kilt when you are reunited with your mother

In my case my mother knew from early about me wearing her clothes (i was worlds worst at hiding it) and never approved,she always tried to dissuade me from doing it,also taking me to councillors etc,after I left home I was never sure if she thought I still did it until my ex told all.Fast forward to a cpl of years ago when she offered to house sit for me,She must have saw my hesistancy because she said to me not to worry she wouldnt snoop about my things,my dad well he still refers to it as "my little problem" so yeah I would say Mothers have a sixth sense and always know

[DaniPat]

I know my mother knew and father knew then and he still may suspect. I got caught when I was about 12. My mother found my stash of panties, bra, and stockings. My father and I took a ride so he could talk to me. Looking back at that day I am still so shocked that my parents didn't blow a gasket. The drive and talk had more to do with the "question" than what I was doing. The "question" from my father was - "Are you Gay?", to which I replied - no, I am not Gay, I love girls. I just want to dress as a girl. Since my mother passed away 7 years ago I have noticed that I have more traits from my mother than my father. When I dress to the nines, I can actually see my mother when she was younger. I swear to god I was supposed to be a girl.
As my ancestry is Scot and I am very proud of that fact, I have to ask. What clan was the skirt? I lay claim to Donnachaidh and McDuff. Robertson on my mothers side and Tennant on my fathers. I do have a kilt, "Prince Charlie", and the rest. I actually love the way the back swishes from side to side. When I wear it I actually enjoy the feeling. This feeling is the same feeling when I wear a skirt and "hose" as when I wear a kilt and "hose". To those uninitiated "hose" with a kilt is just very tall socks. Anyway sorry to ramble, TTFN.

Danielle Patricia

[SamanthaS]

Wow, what a great opportunity to tak with her about your fem side. Your lucky. When my mom caught me in her pantyhose and heels; she beat the crap out of me.

[Dannigirl]

Edina, I am crying over here !

Mom hasn't saif anything more to me but we haven't really had a chance to talk anymore. I will have to wait until we are alone again to ask her some questions.

Danni

[susan2010]

When I was about 5 my mother caught me naked in my sister's room with my sister's petticoat on the floor next to me. After my sister married and moved out I frequently wore mom's slips, pettipants, and nightgowns. She never caught me again, and never said anything, but it's hard to believe she didn't notice that her clothes were disturbed. I still wonder waht would have happened if I'd talked to her. I know what would have happened if my father caught me; it would not have been pretty.

[Samantha Thomson]

yea mothers know my mother new for yrs but had a different way of telling me by buying me clothes,make-up,nail polish purfume jewerly etc

[Valerie1973]

It was a wonderful feeling for me when I told my mother. She said she always knew because she remembered her stuff was always moved. Another weird thing is, she said when she was carrying me she felt she was having a girl. My name would have been Valerie, so thats were Valerie came from. Only a mother could ever understand. As for my dad, NO WAY MAN, I cant tell that dude.

[Daintre]

My mom never knew, I never once "borrowed" her things, my sister's things, well that's another story.

My father found out I dressed though, and that was a very ugly story.

[TxKimberly]

As with Davida, I had always thought that my mother knew and was surprised to find out that she had no idea. I wouldn't assume Mom knows no matter how sure you are . . .

[Stephanie47]

She probably knew I was wearing her clothes- or at least the 34B bra with a non stretch bra strap that I snapped! I do not know how she could not have seen that.

[drushin703]

My mother came in my room once and asked if there was something wrong with my stomach.Puzzled, I said no.
You see she had found some seemen stains in her favorite short leg girdle.Ime sure she knew then and knows now.
But what she didnt know was that her favorite girdle was also my favorite girdle......lol...dana.

[Erica G]

My mother caught me a few times when I was like 10-12 yrs old. I know she said something to my uncle because he made a few comments at the time. She probably still suspects that I CD.

[Matt2Marissa]

I opened this out of curiosity. Then I realized, I think my mom at least knows something. I never thought anything of this because she's never said anything about it. However, she is always showing new dresses that she buys, and always asks me about a new haircut or nails. I always give my honest opinion, but now I realize that she never shows my dad those things, usually just mentions a new haircut or style or whatever to him, and never says anything about the nails. Also, more recently, she asked me to help her remove nail polish. My dad wasn't home, and he usually gets home after her (and its before he gets home when she asks me those things.) I don't wear her dresses, I wear my sisters because she's doesn't live at home anymore so I figure, less risk, but I do wear my mother's underwear. So she may know or at least know something. I don't want ask because I may just be over thinking, right?

[Vickii*]

No way.

My parents never suspected anything at all. Not once. Ever. They had no idea. They knew plenty of things were wrong with me: I have ADD, I've abused tons of different types of drugs, been black out drunk plenty of times, went to the hospital for depression back in high school, I was never good at sports, had problems with more than half of my teachers, listened to pretentious, complicated, difficult music, always got perfect grades, never did any homework.

But they never would have guessed that I get kicks from dressing and acting like a girl. They were completely dumbfounded when I told them. It was like they'd never heard of something like that. Nobody I ever told ever suspected anything and were very surprised - my ex girlfriend, 3 of my guy friends, two of my girl friends, nobody. Every single one of them told me they had no idea one right after the other. And I have long hair, ears pierced, and wear clear nail polish and jewelery. Granted, it's male jewelery, and I don't hold myself in any sort of feminine manner.

Whatever, I guess I just shatter the mould.

[LilSissyStevie]

I don't think my mother would suspect me of being a crossdresser today even though I would sometimes dress up in my sisters clothes in front of her when I was little. She did confronted me with her suspicions that I might be gay because I didn't seem to have any interest in dating girls when I was a teenager even though girls were always chasing after me. I was interested in girls, I was just incredibly shy. But, truthfully, I wondered too. It was a great relief to her when I announced that I was getting married.

[Gillian Gigs]

This brought back a memory. My Mum once asked me to go and get a couple of rags for her from the rag bin. This was a bin in the laundry room that any discarded clothes were put into for future rag purposes. When I looked for a couple of rags I came across some of her panties, which were in good shape. They were on the top of the rag pile and could not be missed. Was she showing me something? I used them instead of raiding her dresser. She said nothing about the panties, but she always seemed to know when I had been in my Mum and Dads bedroom. Several of her dresser drawers got moved around by her also and most of what I would wear seemed to end up in one drawer. I never took any thought about this until reading this thread.

[rachael devry]

i know my mom knew. she didn't catch me red handed but she did find what i had just stripped off myself. i really felt so pretty. i wished she would have caught me dressed. i was only 11 or 12 at the time

[JustineFallow]

Yep, mine always knew. We never discussed it until last year when I had a break-in and I was reluctant to show her the ransacking in the bedroom when she came over, because I had femme stuff laying out. "It's all right; I already know what's in there", she said, "and it's really nobody's business but yours." Apparently during all those childhood/teenage years, I hadn't done as good a job as I thought of putting her clothes back properly! Since it was out in the open, I took the opportunity to apologize for using her stuff all that time; I was aware even then that appropriating others' property, especially for those purposes, wasn't cool, but when I was able to afford my own stuff and have the mobility and confidence to actually go out and buy it, I stopped raiding her wardrobe. While she let me know she wasn't pleased about it, she said I wasn't hurting anyone and that there were far worse things I could be into. With that conversation (which we had while waiting for the police to show up), she took some of the sting out one of the worst days of my life.

[Sophia]

my mother knows that and she was so mad at me

but I never talk to her about it

& I still too afraid to face her

even I have nightmares about she seeing me again

I'm thinking about sending her a letter about my feelings

at least to take out this fear out of my life

[monica.missil]

My mother caught me in her bra one night when she came home from work. I was in bed watching TV, wearing her underwear, and she walk in unexpectingly. Asked what I was doing, I replied all flustered "please get out". I was about 12 then. The next morning I laid in bed not wanting to face her or my dad, who I just knew she must have told. But when I got up, and went to the breakfast table not a word was said.
My mother was a nurse, worked the 3 to 11 shift. So from 3 till about 5 I was free to dress up. About a month later, my aunt, who never comes by when mom was working, showed up. Fortunately for me we had a long drive way and I saw her coming and was able to change quickly. I always wonder to myself if she hadn't shown up because my mom had told her about catching me and asked her to stop by and see if I dressed while she was gone.

Now many years later, I often wish I had talked to my mom about my feeling of wanting to be a girl and hating being a boy. She may have been of some help. But it was the 60's and things like this were not discussed.

[Sarah Doepner]

My mother knew I'd tried her things on, and done it on more than one occasion. She was frustrated with me but never really sat down to have the discussion, just a couple of comments and a little outrage when she made the discovery. What she did was to send me off for the summer to live with my dad, but without explaining my newly exposed interest in wearing her clothes. Dad put me in a basement bedroom that had a large wardrobe full of girl clothes that fit me. Once again we see that communication wasn't the strong suit in their relationship and my crossdressing got a chance to develop beyond anything either my mother or I would have expected.

Mom died over 25 years ago. That was quite a while before I finally came to terms with my crossdressing, so there was never an opportunity to talk to her about it. I think she would have never understood this side of me, but she would have still loved me, preferring to leave that door closed so she could focus on everything I did that she did approve of and understand.

[Bootsiegalore]

both my mom and dad found out when i was in grade school caught me wearin sisters panties, then I turned into the black sheep of the familly oh and got my a** beat for imbarrassing them.

Funny how now you can go to jail for beating your kids! Half the beatings I received would have kept mine in prison for years!

[MichelleP]

My mother pasted away about 6 years ago. I visited her last year en femme for the first time - it was a real emotional moment for me. I think she knew about me but I wish I'd said something before...

[JustAlex]

I suspect my mother knows, but never said anything or acted differently. I just can't believe she never ever noticed that her clothes have been used. I was always extremely careful and obsessive about leaving all in pristine condition exactly in the place it was folded exactly the same way. But I couldn't have been that good.

Funny thing, as someone mentioned, my mother also expected a girl.

[JenniferLynn0370]

My parents and sister all know; mom saw me completely dressed as a kid and caught me naked in her closet once (I gave some lame excuse why I was there but I'm sure she never bought it), once I inadvertently left bra filler on her dresser just above her bra drawer...I forgot about it when the phone rang and I answered it (ironically it was my mom on the phone saying she was heading home so I changed clothes!) and I used to play dress up with my sister all the time in which I wore mom's clothes to the hilt. I got those vague questions from dad asking what my siter and i had done that day and I would what I thought were safe answers. However, there has never been a formal acknowledgement of my CDing but that will change some day!

[Donna June]

As careful as I was I'm sure I left a few clues around, but I honestly believe my mother never knew.

[edina1]

Hi - and sorry, I don't visit too often - hadn't replied to earlier posts - tgirl-sophie - thanks for your message, a kilt is always an interesting option, and I wonder if there's an afterlife what sort of identities would we have and how would our clothing define us? Imagine the possibility of merging in and out of shape, personality and our inner and outer apparel, moving from one scene to the next, suddenly changing, without fear, with delight perhaps, in front of people we loved, feared, had been enemies or critics, or with whom there had been a spark? And they might be doing the same!
DaniPat - I had to check this out ... according to various tourist shops, I think the nearest tartan would be McIntyre - a greeny, blue. I was dreaming about wearing it just recently, which was a bit silly as I could have got up and put it on, but the dream had me wearing it in front of family, which of course was different....

[Julie S]

My mum knew.

When I was four or five she used to let me wear her tights. I also used to try on her leotards.

It isn't mentioned now, though.

J

[AmberKatieJenter]

Mothers know all and suspect the rest!

Well said. My mom found a couple things I'd taken when I was in my early teens. She scolded me not so much on the crossdressing thing so much as taking stuff from other people. It was crazy-awkward.:sad: Even though it's a couple decades later, I still sometimes get the feeling she's eyeing me up to see if I'm wearing anything out of the ordinary.

[Nicole L.]

My mom found my thing's when I was 10 or 11. But she never said a word to me about it. She throwed them all away, though. I've alway's had the feeling that we should have talked. My mom would have never stopped loving me, no matter what.

[Bobbi McCarthy]

I was nine when I started to secretly wear my sister's panties. She was a year younger but nearly the same size in everything! Initially I used the laundry hamper as my source of underwear, but freshly laundered panties from her lingerie drawer were better still and offered the opportunity for a little choise as opposed to the "panties du jour" that the hamper allowed. I would sneak on a pair of her panties whenever I found the opportunity, wear them all day and deposit them in the hamper without anyone's knowledge, or so I thought.
Her underwear were mostly cotton but a few were silky nylon and especially girly, and well, in a word – wonderful. One day, my mother caught me wearing them! More to the point I think she observed the increased "panty count" in the laundry and questioned me adding a stern rebuke and threatened to tell my father. I was of course mortified and frightened sufficiently that I did not raid Susan's panty drawer again for months. But in time her threat wore thin, but the memory of those panties remained. I attempted to be stealthier but I guess she knew, because one day I found my underwear drawer stacked with newly purchased Vanity Fair nylon panties in my size and in a variety of colors. I ran to her and gave her a big kiss without providing a word of explanation. She smiled.
That moment signaled for me an open door to be able to talk about my desires to dress. Not just in panties but pretty from head to toe. Mom was sympathetic to a limit, and continued to add to my secret wardrobe. My father was at sea in the navy for much of my life and he was not a partner to or ever knew of this secret. It was a mutual conspiracy that included my sister, but she was supportive as well. My mother even went so far as to be encouraging, enough so that she also introduced me to shopping enfemme -Mom, Sue and Bobbi. I was ten and loved it so.

[Janine cd]

I'm sure my mother knew about my crossdressing. She must have realized that her underthings had been worn and replaced. She never mentioned anything about it, but I know she discussed my curiousity with feminine things with my dad.

[Wendy_Marie]

A few weeks before my mother passed away we were sitting around talking and she brought up the subject of a certain pair of her High heeled Sandals which would disappear for days or even weeks on end and the mysteriously return to her closet. Now I can't imagine what hapened to those sandals during all those times, but I too believe that Mothers alwaysknow....

[VioletJourney]

My mom didn't know until I told her. Then again, even the FBI couldn't have known, I was so damn sneaky.