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BreenaDion
02-17-2011, 10:09 AM
I was sick for a few weeks with nausea ,vomiting, dehydration coinciding with an infected tooth. I lost 22 lbs in 12 days as a result, had the tooth extracted an was givin antibiotics for the tooth. These pills eased the nausea an vomiting some what and at the end of that period I felt fine. I, wife an son went for a nice walk cuz seamed like the systoms had passed like most stomic bugs. NOPE the next day after not vomiting for a few days, just as I finished the medication it came back with a vengeance.

During this period I had recieved a call from my Health Care Plan ( health insurance) an she just was curious how I was doing with my over all health, because I have Type II Diabetes. The RN's calls once every 3 months for a check up on my situation an if I have any other questions. I filled her in what was going on an she recomended I see my PCP an have him order tests to why I am not getting better. Ok I said an next day after the call I did but it came from no where as I thought an shrugged it off but was concerned.

Week later it was back again is then I called my PCP, got appt, an gave me orders for tests at the near by hospital. He said you should get most of these done today, Im thinking ok. I handed the secretary them an she said You have to wait for approval from THE INS CO first( OMG Im thinking as my will just crashed). Is when my Wife stepped in an took over an yelled an argured with the secretary. She said
BS im taking (him) meaning me, to the hospital right away an away she did. I had no will at that point I was in need of an advocate cuz I was going down for the count..

She is a retired/disabled CNA for 30 yrs at a Hospital School for Handicapt children. She is my wife of 23 yrs and my best friend, supporting me in the best way she can but its ruff for her, I know this and I am patient with her even as I have episodes over the lack of calling me with the proper nouns . I am resolving those issues in a more productive manner after the last outburst but in my defense I was totally sick, physically and mentally, but I have learned and I am making corrections.

I had calledmy Gender Specialist about my next appt and my current health issues. She rescheduled myappt and said If I get hospitalized make sure I tell them that I am Transgenered and they will give me a private room through out my stay. I didnt know this but ok , so I went into the emergency room untile it was time to addmit me is then I told them I have to Disclose some thing.

No avalable private rooms yet but sent me to ICU for 1 day. When it was time for my spouce (wife) to see me she made sure that they are giving me my Transgenered medications. Is when I put her in as my Health Care Proxy.

I am a Leader/Loner and I pave my own journey to suit my income and my needs. I dont know every thing as I learn through asking and seeing .

I am totally gratefull for the transwomen before me that have made my journery easier to pave. In this I thank You

Breena.

Katesback
02-17-2011, 10:54 AM
You do realize that your wife is VERY likely..... no almost certain to divorce you! You do know right?

She did marry a man! Your not a man now are you?

BreenaDion
02-17-2011, 11:16 AM
I am one of the luckiet Transgendered with a spouce. When I married her I was her First in every thing and I mean every thing. I didnt take this gift lightly and concidered the options at that time 24 yrs ago. I was married for 5 yrs before to a Trophy wife and vowed not again. We met in a dating service and on 9 dates in 10 days with her I proposed. 1 week later I told her what I was as what I thought I was back then. We married a year later an both of us have no regrets about the marriage. There is a hitch about my being Transgendered which makes me even more rare than the TS to the gerenal population. I think this hitch is what saved our marriage through these tuff an trying times as we go forward.

I have gained a multitued of communication sckills in my life time,but not by choice. I have used them extensively to resolve issues an make compromises.

Breena.

DeeDee1974
02-17-2011, 05:52 PM
You do realize that your wife is VERY likely..... no almost certain to divorce you! You do know right?

She did marry a man! Your not a man now are you?

Every marriage is different. Some survive, some don't, but I dont think it was fair of you to say this.

After a rough patch, and separation, my wife and I are back together, stronger and intimate more than ever. For some people it is about emotional connections

TerryTerri
02-18-2011, 08:08 PM
I agree with Dee Dee on this one Kate. You seemed sort of quick to judgement and it was kind of unrelated to the OP. Although my marriage was a casualty, my ex-wife is still my Best friend and invaluable person in my life. We were always respectful and honest with each other and that has, and continues, to reep huge benefits for oue friendship. This is a Your Mileage May Vary sort of thing.

As to OP, Good Luck to you, I sure hope they can figure out the health issue and I am grateful for you that you have a trustable advocate for your situation. Many blessings in that!

Keep us updated please! And, I'm sending warm wishes and prayers for you and your health!

BreenaDion
02-19-2011, 03:26 PM
Oh sorry I forgot to mention the end to this. I spent 1 day in ICU because they had no private rooms. Then I got moved down the hall to my own room, Thank you. I was only in there 1 more day and released. I recieve 6 bags of IV and it seamed to clean my kidneys out an was able to keep food down in my entire stay. They also sceened for cancer and I have none. They did alot of blood work an my numbers are right where thay should be thankfully because of my Endrocrinologist.
I will see my PCP in about a week but the drs in the hospital dont know what caused my illness. Not a mystery but no sense casing a ghost for now. Thanks
Breena.

DeeDee1974
02-19-2011, 04:48 PM
I just hope you feel better!

BreenaDion
02-19-2011, 05:11 PM
Yes I do Dee an Thank you. Came home wendsday afternoon,thursday did a 4 mile walk with the wife, Friday cycled 7 miles along the canal and thinking this is great. Only to see my wife getting a cold virus so we quit early. Saturday I took my son 16 yrs old for a 5 mile walk while he used his Rip Stick, it sure looks funny when hes on it but you need alot of balance. I felt tired an soar but good to go. I have a personal challenge to do this year, Cycle 100 miles in 1 day. Also I have lost 90 lbs from 325 to 235 now and im going to lose about 90 more. Dont know where the finish is but we'll see.
Thanks
Breena.

DeeDee1974
02-19-2011, 07:57 PM
Amazing weight loss. I can't wait for you to reach your goal.