crossdressing

[slamddoger]

have you been ask why do you crossdressers.

[Karren H]

Yes.... On numerous occasions...

[Marissa]

Just about anyone who confesses or states (think its the same) "I'm a crossdresser (or ts or gay for that matter)", will eventually get asked the question "why do you crossdress?", "why are you gay?". (for the record, I'm not making reference of crossdressing to being gay, but the reactions seem to be about the same when discussed)

Just as often as this question is asked on this site. You can do a search and find multiple threads with all kinds of answers.

[Cynthia Anne]

Many many times! I've even use to to ask myself! Now I know!

[Gina X]

Just about anyone who confesses or states (think its the same) "I'm a crossdresser (or ts or gay for that matter)", will eventually get asked the question "why do you crossdress?", "why are you gay?". (for the record, I'm not making reference of crossdressing to being gay, but the reactions seem to be about the same when discussed)

Just as often as this question is asked on this site. You can do a search and find multiple threads with all kinds of answers.

That just about sums things up................

[KrystalA]

The only one who knows about my crossdressing is my SO, and she's never asked why. In fact, when I 'came out' to her, she said she'd always wondered why women got to wear sexy satin underwear, and men were pretty much confined to cotton. She said she thought that was unfair, and since that day, I've never worn men's underwear. So, nope, I've never been asked why.

[Michelle 2]

I was just asked this question last week by my brother. His only comment was its fun being a girl isn't it! Of course I had to say yes it is.

Michelle

[sissystephanie]

As far as I know, only 4 people have ever known that I crossdressed! One was my late wife, and she knew from before we married so she would not be asking me! The others were my 2 children and my girlfriend. I told all 3 of them, so there was no reason for them to ask me! Plenty of people have seen me crossdressed, so they would know that I do but none of them have ever actually asked me!

The ones who do know about me know that I crossdress simply because I like to!! No other reason needed!

[AnnaCalliope]

As far as I can recall, out of all the friends, lovers, relatives, people of interest that I have come out to in the past, only about a half dozen popped the question of "Why?" All the rest were curious about the other aspects: fashion, psychology, possible transition etc. Then again, most of the people I knew growing up were the pariahs and social outcasts. If you need a reason to be weird, then its not really you.

[Joanne f]

As far as i can remember the only person who has ever asked me that is my wife and i could not give a sensible answer at the time , now the question is usually " do you want to be?" so i avoid a sensible answer :D

[Alice B]

Of course. Especially from my wife.

[Bethany38]

I have been asked this many times and my response is always Why do you breathe?

[Jenna J]

I ask myself that question more than my wife asks me.

[docrobbysherry]

You've ALL heard of, "Don't ask, don't tell"? I have a SIMILAR procedure!

"Don't tell, they won't ASK"!!!!!

[Cari]

I have been asked mainly when out at events

My answer

I honestly dont know - Im just wired this way.

The gay question I can handle well

But question 3 "do you get a sexual thrill from dressing" is a hard one its not my primary motivation but does happen on occasion so I never really know what to say

[NathalieX66]

But question 3 "do you get a sexual thrill from dressing" is a hard one its not my primary motivation but does happen on occasion so I never really know what to say

I'm so convinced most people can't get beyond this.

All I know is I like the female asthetic, and I don't need any sexual thrill to achieve the female asthetic. Women dress in better looking and cooler clothes, and I want to participate and be like them, That's all I know.

[Chickhe]

My answer would be because its fun, I enjoy the reactions I get. As for what drives to it... no idea.

[Billie Jean]

My ex wife asked that question once but she accepted it as long as I did it occasionaly. Billie Jean

[faltenrock]

yes once by a guy in a bar in Holland, he came up to me and we talked.

[Gerrijerry]

Why do we do anything? I for one have my own personal answer to the question why do you dress female when you were born a male. Because my body is male does not mean that I was supposed to be a male. Mistakes happen in life and this is just another one. Gender is very complicated it is not always what we want but simply what we are. I have heard it many times I love crossdressing or being TS or Gay or Lesbian etc. But what most are really saying is I have accepted who I am. Then we all want to be accepted by others and find that simple does not happen. The question therefore should not be why do I do this. But why can't you accept me the way I was born, I accept you the way you are?

[GinaD]

I was stopped once by two police officers. It took a few minutes for the first officer to get over my mini skirt and low cut top before he realized I wasn't a "real girl". He spent the next several minutes asking me every question you can think of to explain why I was dressed up, his contempt overflowing. He couldn't wrap his head around the fact I wasn't gay or a prostitute. His partner wasn't quite so judgmental, and seemed to accept the fact some people live different kinds of lives.

[pantynhoseman]

I have been asked why so many times, and my answer is always the same. It's just who I am. it's that simple.

[tracyburton]

I reply cos i want to. And that i like all womans clothes.

Tracy xx

[t-girlxsophie]

My Ex asked me when in the death throes of our marriage,I told her as best I could but she was all "yeah,that cant be why" oh! well she asked.Yet my Wife now asked the same question when we chatted online before meeting,and when I told her,she reacted in a totally different,positive way.No one else has asked me why,not my parents nor me and my Wifes GG friends.my guy workmates dont wanna know I presume lol

[AKAMichelle]

we all have that experience.

[CaitlynRenee]

No, Not that question, though I told my SO about the first time it happened to me (about age 4/5) and how it felt to me. The sensations I remembered of soft fabric on my skin instead of scratchy elastic and hot cloth. She accepted it with no questons or comments and accepts it for what it is.

Now I HAVE been asked why I hunt, eat hot chilis, read the classics, like fine art, shoot guns and ride motorcycles......... Not quite the same thing, I know, but the answer is the same. It's just because, "That's the way I am". Might add, I wouldn't change a thing unless it was to be able to have more beautiful clothes, finer lingerie and friends to go out with while enfemme................:battingeyelashes:

There IS a certain young lady (younger @ 38) who is wanting to be a friend, but she is shy. I think she knows or at least suspects, and I'd like to be able to let her know, over a cup of coffee perhaps. I just don't want to scare her off. She's so sweet........ My SO knows her too and thinks as I do that this young lady suspects. Decisions, decisions.......

[k lynn]

more than oncelike others have said I asked myself why because I like and if I dont crossdress it drives me crazy have a great day

[Tina B.]

I'm sure my wife asked, I don't remember the answer, it was a long time ago, and I'm sure I didn't have an answer back then. Other than her, I'm deep in the closet so it never comes up, other than it's just who I am, I'm not sure I have a good answer even now. I don't ever remember making a Cochise decision to be a cross dresser, I was just drawn in as a small child, following what a child needs to learn about themselves. I found bras, lips, garters, nylons, and dresses left in the bathroom by my big sister, and they seemed like something I needed to know about in my life, so at 6 I started learning all about not getting a run in someone else's stockings, and don't change bra straps unless you can put them back in the right spot, and all the stuff I would need to learn to survive in a world where I thought it would be considered alright to put weird kids in mental hospitals, and back then it was. In all that time I learned well, my father caught me dressed once, wrote it off to kids just playing and not knowing how wrong it was to wear those clothes, he let me know in no uncertain terms. I never let him catch me again.
Tina B.

[Byron]

Used to ask myself all the time. Not so much anymore. :)

[Rachel05]

Yes my wife was very interested in the answer to that question when she found my stash, funnily enough I tried to explain it some more and we have never discussed it since!

[RADER]

I reply cos i want to. And that i like all womans clothes.

Tracy xx

Yep!!! Me Too
Rader

[ziggie]

Only my wife knows and she is a licensed Psychologist, so the only reaction I got when I came out (not that I was ever very well closeted to her) was "okay". She has since added the suggestion that I latch the door if the children might pop in for a visit, but just so I won't shock them.