From the outside looking in.

[Melissa Charlotte]

Ok so pretty much this morning the guy im working with was talking about his son. He was telling me that he had started wearing his sisters knickers and bra's and enjoyed all the girls dressing him up. He was telling me how worried he was about it. Obs i said he has nothing to worry about because i dont see that as an issue being like i am. I think he was trying to suggest he was a crossdresser and that he didnt no what to do about it and wondered what id do. It was funny for me 2 have this conversation with someone about another person being a crossdresser.

I wondered if anyone else had eva had to give advice about it or had the same situation occur..?

i hope that all made sense :)
melx

[Emily Ann Brown]

Sure do..... a guy at work went to a family funeral, and was talking to a distance relation and asked if his son was there.....you know the answer....hahahaha..."she was just here, in the red dress". So my coworkers asked me if I have every hear or anything like that.

" I believe I have!"

I said as much as I could without outting myself.


Em

[docrobbysherry]

I think u should have advised him to sign the kid up for some sports IMMEDIATELY! Soft ball, maybe?

[jjjjohanne]

Side question: Is it ethical to advise someone on how to respond to their child's crossdressing without confessing that one's own self is a crossdresser?

[Joanne f]

You do not say how old the child is as this could be relevant to what maybe going on , if he is very young then is very well could be just playing about as he may not even realise the difference in the meaning of different clothing , if he is a little older then it could be that he is doing it just to get the attention of the girls which is obviously the start of him realising that he likes attention from girls and he is clever enough to have found a way to get that and i am sure that could even last well into the teens . so age is a bit of a factor .

[Melissa Charlotte]

hmmmmm i think he said his son was 12 yearsa old

[Joanne f]

Then it maybe that he has just found a good way to get the attention from the girls although there is still the possibility that he has as also found a good way of dressing in what he likes and getting the attention , the only way you may really know is if he dress`s in those things when no one else is around which would point more to his liking of the dressing and not just the girl attention thing .

[monica.missil]

My boss has often talked to me about his son, who is 12 now I believe. When he was younger he often wanted his mom to put makeup on him and he would often want his pants worn with his cuffs rolled up mid thigh like the girls wear them. His best friend is a girl, has no friends that are boys, and at present is on the schools jump roping team(only boy). My boss talks to me because he knows my older daughter is gay, and wanted to know how I handled it when she was growing up. He has often said he thinks that his son maybe transgendered and has done a lot of reading on the subject. He has come to the conclusion that he loves his son, and will support him in whatever he is, transgendered, gay, or "normal". My advise to him has always been that he has the proper attitude and that is what his son will need most as he takes the difficult journey he seems to be headed for.

[TGMarla]

He could take some comfort in that most men that wear frilly women's underwear do so because they find it a sexual turn-on, not because they want to be girls. He has very little to worry about.

[Angie G]

Not yet I haven't.:hugs:
Angie

[Melissa Charlotte]

i guess they only way to know the real reason would be to catch him dressing (if he was a cd) or wait until he comes out (if he's gay) or wait until he grows out of it.

well i guess anyways.... i always thought id grow out of dressing up hehe