Am I right to feel offended?

[Kittie]

I'm so upset right now I'm about to start WW-III. Someone on facef**k from my mothers work posted a graphic picture of an elderly man in drag touching himself and tagged me in it. What makes it more annoying is the fact that they work in a hospital. My mother had the guts and love for me to explain to her friends the changes I'm going through and some twack abuses the trust. I can take a joke as well as the next person, but when it's at the expense of my issues..? Damn.. I don't know whether to laugh it off or cry..
:sad:

[Saika]

Yes I would be offended and would want to scream blue murder. It's disgusting what some people are, sorry Lacey some jokes go way too far, it does not even sound like a joke to me. It is deliberate cruelty, plain and simple. :(

So sorry. Is there anyway to have the tag removed? surely there is some recourse for action against this type of thing

[gretchen2]

I don't think that I would laugh it off nor would I cry about it either. Hate is somthing that we just have to deal with as much as it sucks. If your human you deal with hate in some form or another. More than once I have heard of growing a thick skin from the trans comunity as a whole, and unfortunatly it's a true story. I do feel your pain, I've been down the road where people just do not like me or plain and simple hate me. Don't waste your time in WWIII it will just cause more pain.

[Kittie]

You can remove tags but dont know if it removes the notice that everyone gets :/

[Zenith]

Nothing clever or funny about that, just ignorant. I would say time to edit "friends"...

[Pythos]

What has your mom stated about this?
This is just plain ignorance and hate, and if the person works in a hospital, HR should be notified of this. This shows gross intolerance in a field where there can be none (though we know there is). The person that posted this should also have their head examined so that the latent homosexual within can be freed :P

[RenneB]

That's one of the reasons I've droped the F**eb**k from my list of things to do. Someday I'll go back, but just not yet. I love this idea of being moderated. FB is a little like the wild west, as anything goes. It's too easy to type something about someone and not have to worry about it.

Renne.....

[katesometimes]

Lacey, I'm sorry that an insensitive idiot put you through this. I'm not sure how much damage control you can do, but we will be here if you need to talk more.

-Tatyana

[Kittie]

She said shes going to confront them about it. But I dont foresee any reprisal. She was in a high level meeting with some important people a while back and they were talking about introducing some kind of body scanning thing linked to patient records with photographs or something? Anyway the topic of transsexualism and the embarrasment such a system may cause came up in the meeting and some attendees were apparently laughing about it until my mother remarked about me. It doesnt fill me with much confidence. Was also kinda annoyed at the fact my issues were being thrown about so liberally by my mother, I appreciated the sentiment of what it was for though.

I should teach this moron the power of google and photoshop via their own pictures.

[Wendy_Marie]

Wow, Tough situation and a hard call to make as to what to do. Whatever you decided know that you have friends and support here.....Good Luck.

[joannemarie barker]

aaaaaaw that's just crap :( you shouldn't have to put up with that kind of moronic bullying :/

[Lorileah]

She was in a high level meeting with some important people a while back and they were talking about introducing some kind of body scanning thing linked to patient records with photographs or something? Anyway the topic of transsexualism and the embarrasment such a system may cause came up in the meeting and some attendees were apparently laughing about it until my mother remarked about me.


Ah! terrific time to call the hospital board and start a fuss over HIPPA rules for one and medical ethics for another. This hospital should have never allowed that kind of reaction at any meeting. It is unprofessional and crass. It is also basis for reprimand and license suspension.

What that person did on facebook is unethical as well as rude. It can be removed if they will do it but if they won't then sending a note to facebook about it may have it removed and the person's account restricted or cancelled. It may even fall into the slander/libel laws.

If you are a "friend" to them, unfriend them and block them. Report the post. Call the ethics board of the hospital and request they hold an in service to teach the employees how to act around and about patients.

I would not stand for this. If this was a nurse I would be on the line to the state board and filing an ethics complaint. If she is not a nurse I would be on the line to the hospital's EEOC rep.

[Marissa]

Lacey, sorry that some a$$hole has be so mean to do that to such a pretty girl..or any girl for that matter. Says alot about the individual so don't be tricked into lowering yourself to that person's level..or become so angry that it overwhelms you. Even though I would probably do the 'get back at the person' mode of thinking..evil but hey we are human :) Just think that over real good before going down that road as it may bring other issues up.

I know your mother is being liberal about your situation and frustrations of gender identity.. at least she is defending your emotions, that is a great thing, and maybe its a way for her to come to terms of her own. Hope you can understand that..but at the same time, if you feel maybe its too liberal, then maybe a sit down chat with her is in order.

Sorry again for what you are dealing with..

[alluts]

people suck, they hate what they don't understand.

[Kittie]

people suck, they hate what they don't understand.

Someone will understand a 6" platform up the bum, and hate it at the same time. ^.^

[Teri Jean]

Lacey I do think you have not only the right but obligation to vent. Mom did not do anything wrong but her co-worker(s) did and they need to know that was not called for. I mean grow up people!

[Megan Thomas]

I should teach this moron the power of google and photoshop via their own pictures.

Sounds good to me! :)

[arbon]

$h*! - - that person is sick! Is very offensive. Sorry to hear they did this to you. I don't know the best advice but I would be pretty hurt and mad.

[Haley Heather]

I don't know whether to laugh it off or cry..
:sad:

Either way you deserve a hug, you seem like such sweet person.

[Melody Moore]

This breaches so many aspects of human rights & anti-discrimination laws it isn't excusable in anyway, shape or form,
especially when consider the expect there to also be some level of decency & ethos with the medical fraternity. There
is a good chance that the person who did this could be fired from their position within the hospital. Personally I wouldn't
pull any punches, I would take it all the way and sue this homophobic moron to the max for defamation of character to
teach them a real lesson that they cannot degrade or vilify people like us. As someone else said this person has serious
issues & needs to have their head examined and helped to allow the latent homosexual that is buried within to come out.

[Rianna Humble]

In my not so humble opinion, the person is probably guilty of a hate crime. I would take the evidence to the local police station and let them take it from there.

[alexis GG]

This is wrong.. have you reported the offensive picture to fb?? It could be worth doing that and asking them to remove it

[Katie Moore]

I would edit the tag. Then I would have a conversation with this s.o.b and give them a good tongue lashing and lastly, I would move on and let it go.

[Haley Heather]

Complacency only perpetuates such ignorance.

[Melody Moore]

I should teach this moron the power of google and photoshop via their own pictures.
I am good in photoshop as well. So who is this person? if yer want some help just hollar out to me :heehee:

[toko]

You absoultly have a right to be offended. Unfortounly there are always going to be mean, ignorant and unsensitive people. Now what to do.

Nothing, remove the tag, find out if this person violated any work policy and make them fear for thier job. I don't don't know how far you want to push the issue. I would personally reach out to this person and try to educate them. It is not your fault that you feel how you feel. I'm absolutly certian that the majority of people have no idea that, or can understand that a person can be born with the brain of the oppisite gender.

I hope schools can teach a simple 3 minute lesson on Transgender issues. A person can be "born" with the brain of the oposite sex.

Hang in there. I'm sure this will not be the last time you will be offended in your lifetime. I hope you can turn the negative into a positive.

[Eryn]

I should teach this moron the power of google and photoshop via their own pictures.

An eye for an eye results in two blind people and takes you down to his level.

Fight the battle through proper channels, both with the hospital and with the internet site.

[Sejd]

That's horrible. But you need to understand that there are some people out there who hates us. I have received dead threats on You Tube just because I look different and have my hair down!!!!!! Welcome to the modern human race. It's not pretty out there, but you have to remain strong and be the beautiful self you are. Hugs
Sejd

[7sisters]

If I had confrontation VS education, I think I would go in for education.
BTW I am so sorry you went through this.

[Maria in heels]

Lacey....please try to remember that ignorance is always covered by that person's inability to make judgements that do not hurt others. Whoever wrote the tag deserves to be dressed in stockings and heels and paraded around town with a collar and a leash! Seriously, the person who tagged the picture is very crude and closed minded - I know that it can hurt tremendously but please try not to let it get to you.

I have been asked here if I have a fb page, to which I reply that I choose not to have one because of the stupidity that is there...I don't think that it is much better than MySpace, and everyone needs to learn to be very careful when it comes to these social network sites. Letting everyone know where you are at right now, because you are listing it, isn't the greatest thing if you ask me. Just see if you can have the tag removed, let it pass, and just move on. You can try to change that person, but you may also just get hurt more...protecgt yourself is the most important thing.

[brookalicious]

Go to your privacy settings on Facebook... you can 1) prevent people from tagging you unless you approve it, and 2) prevent anyone who's not your friend from seeing photos that are tagged of you. Its up in the top left under "Account" -> "Privacy Settings" -> Customize Settings.

Oh, and yes you have a right to be offended... but just remember that when someone is cruel like that, they're always hiding shame and pain that will someday some to the surface. Don't let their poor behavior take root in your heart.

[Tara Lutschich]

Yes you are right to be offended but wwiii will not change him!!!

[Inna]

Lacey, there always are going to be the ones who are insecure enough to point the finger and make fun of others. You can not change that, feeling frustrated is natural, feeling angry as well. But realize this, you are well on the way to be a genuine girl, a woman, and that will make your life so much more wholesome. Those insecure people are laughing now but there aren't many laughing with them, and they them selves are in pain, insecure and shivering from fear on the inside. Have pity for them, love them just the same, and walk tall knowing of who you are, the beautiful, awesome, bright transwoman who will show love and support and teach others about tolerance.

[TinaMc]

The person was obviously trying to upset you. So yes you are right to be offended, but at the same time you are letting yourself get drawn into playing their little game...

[juligirl1984]

aw Lacey you'll be ok. That is such a lame thing to happen to such a pretty girl. I'd tell them it kinda hurt you and to please stop that unless like you said, you can photoshop some stuff lol! Im still sorry to hear that happen to you. Glad your mom sticks up for you.