my spider senes are tingling.....

[GingerLeigh]

I have posted very specific things in the past. I don't B.S. as some have accused me of in the past. That said, I find that there may be issues with posting such personal and specific information. My young is son showing the same interests as I did at his age, rubbing nylons being one of them. I've posted often about this issue. My wife knows that he inherited this trait from me. So, undoubtedly my wife jumped online to see what she can find out about this odd "fetish" as she calls it. I don't doubt that she has been lurking here. Recently she has asked me some rather pointed questions that lead me to believe that she knows about "GingerLeigh" on this forum. Uh-oh.

OK, so if she knows, she's probably been watching for some time now. She may even see this post. Honey, if you see this and you KNOW its me, we need to talk.

Ginger

[Deanna B]

hi Ginger. if the s##t hits the fan came to my BATcave and Robin will make coffee. do take care love deanna

[suchacutie]

To Ginger's wife: Hi! Just a note to let you know that my wife is fascinated with my feminine side. I live in both genders and being able to move back and forth from masculine to feminine, and the complete interest Tina and I (us) have in how my wife grew up, the socialization stresses of being a girl then woman, her views on life from a feminine perspective, and all the details about being a woman that we have shared have brought us incredibly closer, and we were VERY close before! It really can be the best of both worlds and your life will never be boring, for sure! :)

tina

[TGMarla]

Honey, if you see this and you KNOW its me, we need to talk.

How 'bout just "Honey, we need to talk."

[Cynthia Anne]

I think Marla said it best! It's better to have a fem side and show it than hide it which causes trouble for the whole family!

[Gillian Gigs]

Ok, so the apple is not falling to far from the tree. Maybe the next thing to say is, Honey I love you, and it is time to learn a little bit more about me. My SO knows about my taste for nylon and silk, and she doesn't think that it is a big deal.

[nvlady]

Note to Gingers wife, if you find out your son has crossdressing tendencies will you stop loving him because of that?
How about if your husband crossdresses? Is that a reason to stop loving him?

[Eryn]

hi Ginger. if the s##t hits the fan came to my BATcave and Robin will make coffee. do take care love deanna

What, is it Alfred's day off? :)


Note to Gingers wife, if you find out your son has crossdressing tendencies will you stop loving him because of that?
How about if your husband crossdresses? Is that a reason to stop loving him?

The best response yet and I agree wholeheartedly.

[GG Kathy]

Ginger, I think you need to have the talk and to Ginger's wife just because she likes to dress as a woman does not mean she loves you any less. Be grateful the "other woman" in her life is her and not a stranger.

[docrobbysherry]

Ha ha! GOOD ONE, Ginger! U DON'T BS! U just communicate with your SO thru CD.com posts!?
IF she happens to be looking?

I find I'm MORE concerned about your "young son", that's "inherited your CD genes", than u and your SO, Ginger! U both may be jumping to conclusions about him! I think unless there's some radical changes made to your marriage relationship, u 2 r toast!

I personally know that while there may be SOME similarities, few kids grow up to be just like their parents!

[Kate Simmons]

I wish you well with that Ginger. BTW my "spider-sense" has been tingling since I was a young girl.:)

[GingerLeigh]

Ha ha! GOOD ONE, Ginger! U DON'T BS! U just communicate with your SO thru CD.com posts!?
IF she happens to be looking?

I find I'm MORE concerned about your "young son", that's "inherited your CD genes", than u and your SO, Ginger! U both may be jumping to conclusions about him! I think unless there's some radical changes made to your marriage relationship, u 2 r toast!



Aren't you a class act. Nice response.

[Jenny Doolittle]

Perhaps it best if you took the lead in having that conversation with your wife. It will be better to clear the air and answer all of those questions before she imagines the worse case. It will be much better then having her find you dressed on day and all of the sudden have to explain without picking the best time for the conversation.

I can only tell you that after I had that conversation your afraid to have I felt so relieved, and she did also, because, Yes, she did know all along!

[Rogina B]

Aren't you a class act. Nice response.

Well Ginger,You put it all out there along with not checking your spelling.Some of us were being nice in not responding to your original post. Sherry just couldn't not say what many of us were thinking.

[AKAMichelle]

Maybe it is time to have that talk with her anyway.

[Leslie Langford]

Ginger,

You're clearly in pain and confused about your situation, and are compensating for it by lashing out at everyone around you. Most of us here understand that and have been there, done that at one time or another. I, for one, empathize and don't hold that against you, and I'm sure many others here feel the same way. But you do need to talk openly with your wife about your crossdressing and related fears (e.g. your son) and then let the chips fall where they may.

For both of you to sneak around behind each others backs and spy on each other - be it on this forum or elsewhere - serves no useful purpose, and only forestalls the inevitable. As many others here have pointed out so eloquently, for many women, the lies and deceit are far more damaging to a relationship than the crossdressing itself. One of our more valued contributors here (and moderator) Reine has posted extensively on this topic from a GG's POV, and you should really go back and read some of those posts to give you the guidance you need.

In the end, ya gotta do what ya gotta do, but in the meantime, know that you will always have a safe haven here if you decide to come back :hugs:.

[Kelly DeWinter]

Good Luck Ginger,

You drew a line in the sand and basicly dared forum member and your wife to challenge you, and then you get upste and leave because you got what you asked for ?

Take a moment, a deep breath, and reconsider. This is a great place to make friends. I was a lot like you when I first came here, I took my lumbs in the beginning from other members, and 'THEY WERE RIGHT" I learned to be more humble, I took my lumps from members at times.

I hear your hurt as you comtemplate your spouse lurking here, but thats ok, it could be part of the process towards reconcilliation. Give things a chance, your spouse and the great people hear.

Kellly

[Eryn]

I don't see any spell-check issue here, one typo does not even tweak the meter.

I do see an issue with throwing a post up here and *hoping* that the wife will come across it while searching about CD issues. My wife is on the forum and knows my name but I don't expect her to read everything I write here.

I think a more direct approach is needed with your wife.

Oh, and please don't leave CDers.com. You won't find a nicer and more civil CDing site on the 'net and we will be diminished by your absence.