My Confidence is shaken

[Wendy_Marie]

First of all, this thread is not to be taken too seriously by the readers as I don’t take it too seriously myself. Secondly I want to offer up an apology to all GG’s who might read this as it is intended to poke fun at myself and my own awkward situation and in no way be a poke at you lovley Genetic Females.:D

A recent event has shaken my confidence in my ability to accurately portray myself as a passable female…either now or in the future.
Thursday’s are my day to visit with my therapist and just before I was to leave to go to my last appointment I got a call from my wife who dropped the Quit dressing or else ultimatum and bombshell on me. After a rather lengthy and heated conversation between us I finished my make up and drove on to my appointment with the intention of making it my last one for a while.
After my appointment I went on an impromptu shopping trip before returning home to face the music and another lengthy discussion between the wife and me. My wife see’s a therapist every Friday herself for a totally unrelated matter and I have been begging her to talk to her therapist about the stress and issues she has with my dressing and lifestyle all to no avail. She recently told me that there was no way she would feel comfortable talking to anyone about this as it was embarrassing and she felt it would bring shame upon herself.
Well she left the house for her appointment Friday earlier than she usually would and came back a little late as well….upon getting back home she told me that she was going to lay down for a little while and then she and I needed to have a talk, so of course I feared the worst.
When she got up she informed me that she had finally broken down and told her therapist about me and how it stressed her out etc… She told me that the therapist told her that my actions had no bearing upon her and that it sounded as if I used my dressing as a defense mechanism… not sure I agree with her quick assessment of my case but the point is that my wife’s attitude seemed to have taken a near 180° degree turn around after her visit with her own therapist. To say that I was relieved and happy is an understatement.
Now I know that it is a woman’s prerogative to change her mind but that is what has my confidence so shaken now…If being able to make such a quick about face shift in what you say is your beliefs then I guess I don’t have what it takes to ever be Female…(-:
It’s not going to stop me from trying though and I am happy to report that the mood around my home is so much lighter now. I just hope it stays this way.

[Eryn]

The stronger the belief, the bigger the change when it turns out that the belief isn't true. She had a strong belief against CDing and someone she respected pointed out that CDing wasn't the bad thing that she had built it up to be. A large change in attitude is to be expected. I wouldn't worry too much about matching her ability to change her mind!

[anonymousinmaryland]

Walk softly and carry a big stick. Go with the caution flag, and keep yer eyes open. Don't flaunt what you may have gained.

[Stephanie Miller]

O.K., don't tell me that your wife doing a 180 has you shaken.:doh:
You need to go back to husband school. Cripes sake, I feel my wife is very normal in the female department - and she can do a 180 FIVE TIMES - and thats BEFORE she finishes her sentance!
Don't let it shake you, just don't put a lot of stock in in until it has a chance to run for a while.

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Wendy Take it easy and go slow and keep talking.

Orchid

[docrobbysherry]

Wendy, I wish MANY of the married CDs here would read your post! There is much BOTH parties in a relationship can learn from an experience, qualified, counselor!

And, women? Heck, if we could UNDERSTAND them, I don't think we'd find them NEARLY so attractive! And, in MY experience, putting on their clothes adds ZERO to my understanding of the female mind!

[Wendy_Marie]

I am being cautious and No I am not flaunting this in my wifes face...in fact I haven't dressed since her revelation....Please take a note whoever reads this that I said this thread is not to be taken too seriously....It was meant more in fun than seriousness.

[Stephenie S]

Go slow, dear.

Take this VERY easy.

Encourage more therapy, but realize that her therapist may ultimately recommend a separation. Your wife's therapist has your wife's mental health as her greatest concern, not your wife's relationship with you nor your marriage.

Couples therapy may address this issue more directly.

[Raychel]

The important thing here is that your wife has taken the step to talk to her counselor. This is a very huge step for her. To be able to talk to someone, has to help her to understand better.

I hope this will be a major stepping stone for a better life for both of you.

[Cynthia Anne]

I would keep my eyes toward the sky! Even though the sun is bright today, we both know it can do a 180 any minute around here! I hope your not caught in another bad storm! Hugs!