males in female clothes ?

[xpshooter]

There is no way I can pass for a female, and being new I do not know how to do makeup. I am contemplating electrolysis for my beard. And I will learn how to do makeup.

I do notice people looking at me, but it does not bother me most of the time. The clothes and shoes feel so good.

So I was wondering how many males go out wearing female clothes?


Thanks for your replys,

Xpshooter

[Phoebe P.]

I'm 6'4", live in an area that is not receptive to anything out of the mainstream so you can chalk up one 'No'. Maybe one day, but it will have to be in Midtown not way out here in the burbs!

[xpshooter]

I guess i should have stated that I do not go out where I live, it is also a smaller town. I wish I had a job where I could dress.

I usually drive 30-40 min and go shopping when I dress, this does suck.

[sissystephanie]

I am in my late 70's and have been a CD since age 6. When my wife was alive she did my makeup and fixed my wig so I could go out as Stephanie. She passed away 6 years ago, and I changed my going out tactics! I still go out dressed enfemme almost every day, but with no makeup or wig. In other words, a man in a dress or skirt! Sure I do get some looks, but in the past 6 years i have not had one negative comment! I have been asked by women where I bought a particular feminine garment or shoes, but that is all. And I do go out in very public places like shopping malls, etc. I dress to please myself, and don't really care what people think about what I wear. And I have gone to the doctor while dressed recently!!

[Phoebe P.]

Stephanie kudos to you! You have earned the right to do anything you care to do! No one is going to say anything to you. Someone in their 40's like me in our area is risking a beating! ;) And the police in my county (1 to the north of you) are very unforgiving!

[AllieSF]

I think that of the total population of MtF TG/CD people out there a relatively small percentage, based on what I have seen here, actually go out. My first goal of dressing was to go out and I do that now on a regular basis. For me, it is a matter of self confidence and a thick skin for those occasional negative comments and looks that one might receive while out. Regarding safety and security, I think that greatly depends on where you go, if you have the confidence to go there. As you perfect your makeup skills and clothing style, you will find that your outings will be more enjoyable, your confidence will grow and your options of where and when to go will increase. Good luck and enjoy life because it is the only one you will have.

[bobbie c]

count me on the "going out side".....have done it twice and what a thrill and a challenge on so many levels.....hold your head up and be confident.

[Alisa_Sheer]

I went out a few times. A couple of times with my then much older xyGF, but only in the very early hours of the morning and even then to public but remote areas. It was a rush riding in a car totally dressed even though there was next to no danger being caught, and it was even more of a rush being kind of naughty with my xyGF out in the woods.

I've driven many times kind of dressed, though. Heels, pantyhose on shaved legs and a dress flapping around in the breeze of driving is very nice, though the visible part of me was dressed as male. Though I've got great feminine legs and feet, everything from the nuts up is pretty damned masculine so I don't even bother trying to pass.

There's one day a year in which we all get a free pass and that's Halloween. Last year, I went to a party as a female impersonator female impersonator (yes, you read that twice), and I went as Marilyn Monroe. I drew the short straw to go get more booze and I got more whistles and cat-calls at the liquor store than Jessica Alba got so far in her entire life (a vast exaggeration). Some tipsy nipple behind me looked at my legs and asked me why I shaved my legs for Halloween and I told her, every day is Halloween. She wasn't wearing hose, so no love for me. :(

[RADER]

I have a Paul Bunin frame, but a little larger on the bottom. Being over 60, I stay
in the closet as it were. My wife is OK with my dressing at home, But I do go out
under dressed most days. Since I have gotten into my Land Bryant Jeans, I wear
them most of the time. My wife even says they look better on me than drab jeans
do. To bad about spring coming, will have to go out bra-less more with just a light
top. I do not want straps to shoe through.
Rader

[AshleyJones]

I really want to go out dressed but unfortunately being that I'm still in this closest this is really difficult. The biggest reason why is because I have upwards of 75 extended family members living in and around the surrounding area, all of whom are very religious and conservative. The only hope I can see is to go into the city with the only other trans that I know (two ftm). And Stephanie I greatly admire your courage.
*hugs* Ashley

[Jolene]

If I lived in a very large city, maybe going out dressed as Jolene in her female finest would be an option, but for now Jolene wears whatever she wants around the house and whatever she can get by with out and about. :)

[AnnaCalliope]

At 5'10" and 150 pounds, plus naturally long hair 8 inches past my shoulders, I have little problem "passing" most of the time, as long as my outfit isn't too gaudy and I don't open my mouth. That said, I still go out in drab wearing women's jeans, tops and boots/sneakers at least 5-6 days a week. The clothing is somewhat gender neutral, maybe a little femme. Either way, I've yet to receive any negative feedback.

[rachaelsloane]

I have only gone out once to drive my ex to the market and it was really a good feeling. Now only to pick up the paper outside the front door (afraid of getting caught by the neighbors).
Over time you are able to get better at doing your makeup and hair.
The Best,
R

[lingerieLiz]

I used to worry about going out wearing gg clothes. I wear jeans/shorts and tops. Dresses, no one does, but I have a few. Guy hair and no makeup. I've been to the fire, police station, and city hall. I help neighbors and friends when they need something. I picked up a woman friend in a white top with a white foam cup bra on under it, typical summer fare but visible, to give her a ride home. Her only question, can you give me a ride back after they finish with my car? Not one has said anything about my bras or clothes in a negative way. I shop openly in the women's sections even in the lingerie department where I run into people who know me and do business with me. I go shopping with my wife and her friends. The other day I was picking up a pair of shoes for my wife and a neighbor asked if I was getting them for me. I said no I can’t do heals anymore since I broke my leg. She said she has to and said hope you find some for you at these prices. Even my driver’s license shows me in a blouse as do all my IDs and some show bra lines. NO ONE CARES!

I will tell you that when I was climbing the corporate ladder, I wore panties every day, but never a bra, because I don't care what you wear except heavy sweaters if someone is behind you they will be able to discern the band and or strap lines on occasion. My neighborhood is conservative but I do travel a lot and don't think it matters where you live.

[LIKETODRESS2]

I wear gilrs jeans usally one or two days a week on my days off. Sometine it going out with the gf to a show or out the bar for a few drinks.

[Cynthia Anne]

Been there, done that and still doing it! I'm a country girl! When I go to town, you will find me wearing lipstick, earrings, AND A BRA W/forms and my purse on my shoulder! No matter what else I'm wearing! If you don't like the way I'm living, you just leave this long haired country girl alone!

[Ozark]

Oh, I was wondering who that was! ;>

[Tomara]

Hi ,
I under-dress complete with forms most every day , I don't try to look like or pass as a woman , I am comfortable and confident to be myself and I really don't worry too much about what other people might think.
Just be yourself and enjoy your dressing !
Tomara

[meri]

I could never, ever, ever could pass as a female (unless I wanted to go as Mrs. Doubtfire). Hence, it would look just plain silly to try. So instead, I have made skirts and kilts part of my wardrobe and try to build a good overall look for a guy while wearing a skirt or a kilt. I get a lot of ribbing about it from my friends, but hey, it's really their problem and none of my own...

[newandshy]

Usually when I go out it is during the late afternoon or night just wearing one of my wife's tshirts. I don't usually get out of the car unless I have a hoodie on to hide it but its still very liberating just knowing that I'm wearing some of my favorite cute shirts. Most of the time I just stick to the drive thrus and I don't care what they really think!

[Jennifer in CO]

Xpshooter - you need a real name girl - passing and wearing clothes are two different things. If you want to wear a dress/skirt or frillies then in your heck of the woods you might have a problem. BUT... I present every day in "girls" clothes and never have a problem. Why? I do it in slacks, or jeans like AnnaMarie. I wear blouses/tops everyday but I make sure they aren't "girly looking". I don't own a pair of "guy" shoes. You can dress all you want and never have a problem with the public...just pick your clothes carefully!

Jenn

[Jilmac]

I have some jeans and tops that look androgenous and have worn them out on numerous occasions and nobody noticed.

[RenneB]

I'm on the return to the outside world. Years ago, I would go out at night to selfserve gas stations and fill up, then off to work to catch up when no one was around. I'm working on the body and the wardrobe to go out again. I find it a goal for me and helps me lose the inches that I need to fit into the clothes that I feel most comfy in...

Renne...

[Kim_Bitzflick]

I wear a bra and/or a cami nearly every day. Do they see my bra straps? Maybe. Do I care? A little. I just don't make it obvious. Also, I sometimes wear my femme jeans out & about (sorry Karen).

I regularly go out fully dressed & made up.

As for the electrolysis, I did it. I wish I had done it sooner (they can't get my grey hairs). I love not having to shave very often.

[t-girlxsophie]

I love going out dressed,I dont pass but my confidence is such that I feel great when I am out,Don't get out as much as used to do,used to get out once a month to Support group,But Every time out is still an adventure,Recently my trips have been with my lovely wife,even started going to non TG places,restaurants etc No better feeling than being out all girlie,dressed up in pretty clothes :)

Sophie

[Jeannie]

Make up is not all that hard to do depending on what look you are going for. There are a gazillion step by step tutorials out there all you have to do is try. I am fortunate to have an under standing wife that helps and I didn't do to bad my first try. As for going out, not for me except for a dress and drive late at night. There are to many prying eyes and I am to well known in this area and I know to many people who can't keep their big traps shut, so I am doomed to the closet which is just fine. For those that can go out I applaud you one and all.

Jeannie

[xpshooter]

Jennifer in CO, I would have used a female name, but there is already a bunch of Dana's on this site.

[sweetjan]

I only dress at home for now. My wife and I want to go out of town so I can dress up and we can go out. I know I would really enjoy that.

[Jennifer in CO]

Jennifer in CO, I would have used a female name, but there is already a bunch of Dana's on this site.

well then...welcome Dana in WI!

Jenn