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Kokoro
03-17-2011, 04:40 PM
It's been a while since I've posted so I thought I'd give a bit of an update.

A few days after making this (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?146481-Another-spanner-in-the-works) I decided I needed some sort of guidance that no amount of therapy or self-searching could answer. I'm not a very religious person but I'm deeply spiritual. So I decided to visit a Medium or Clairvoyant. If I'll be honest it didn't really answer anything. She was right about plenty of things, but completely missed the mark on others. When I asked the question of whether I was male or female she answered first of all that it didn't matter as we are all of a single nature spiritually but when I pushed the question she said she could see me in the future as a man. I was extremely careful not to let anything 'slip' as I know there are some fraudsters out there. Funnily enough despite my transgenderism being a big part of me and all the turmoil that's gone with it I'm surprised she didn't come right out and say it if she was actually the real deal.

Anyway, I went in with an open mind and took what she said with a grain of salt but her response seemed to qualm my anxiety and answer my question. So for nearly 2 months I settled into a mindset of being male and was working towards a male life at the end of the rainbow. Despite this I didn't discharge myself from the gender clinic or cut my hair to male length or start wanting to work out etc. You can probably tell where this is going...

Around 2 weeks ago the thoughts returned and when my mind isn't focused on college work or TV or anything else it wanders to thoughts of being female and transitioning. I wouldn't say it's back to square one but I've definitely gone down a few rungs on the ladder.

I'm curious though as I've been a firm believer in destiny for many years now but if someone has 'prophesied' that in a few years time I'll be very much male it gets my mind wondering if this is some sort of test, that it's all a big conspiracy from the other side to teach me some sort of lesson that I must ultimately somehow come to terms with and arrive at being male. Or Vice Versa. I guess it's kind of like my faith is being brought into question due by my very nature. If things are meant to be, why do I exist.

I know it's late in the evening for philosophical debate but could it be entirely possible to take the wrong path, whichever direction that may be?

Rianna Humble
03-17-2011, 05:49 PM
could it be entirely possible to take the wrong path, whichever direction that may be?

I would say that I took the wrong path for about 47 years by pretending to be something that in my innermost being I knew I was not. You can even enjoy outward signs of some sort of success whilst taking the wrong path, but in my case, that proved to be hollow and eventually led to despair.

As I recall your dilemma, you are unsure how you would fare spending a year in Japan at an early point of your transition, but feelthe need to start your RLE anyway. I'm sorry that I cannot give you an answer ot this dilemma but wish you well whatever the outcome.

The clairvoyant should have picked up on some ambivalence in your question, but would seem to have missed it altogether with her reply. I'm sorry to say that I believe you wasted your time going to see this person, only one person can truly influence your future and that is you.

Sejd
03-17-2011, 09:00 PM
Dear Kokoro
sounds to me like you need to hook up with the Gay/Lesbian/Trans community near you if that is possible. I would not worry too much about what you are "Going to be" but how you feel right now, every day. Try to celebrate your uniqueness and beauty, male or female. Hope you find some support and friends to grow with.
In kind
Sejd

Persephone
03-18-2011, 02:39 AM
Kokoro,

If the spiritual advisor that you visited was unable to discern your gender ambiguity then I would have some doubts as to her abilities. I've worked with some amazing people who have demonstrated awesome skill and while even they make some mistakes from time to time I doubt that they would have missed something so significant, even on a bad day.