Jannine
03-18-2011, 07:38 AM
Hello Ladies,
I am a new member and recently my partner discovered that I was sneaking onto this site, so consequently that developed into a chaotic situation to say the least. After another argument, we were both yelling and crying, talking and not talking until early in the morning. We tried to reason why I do what I do, and why was life a bitch for both of us. We had a sleepless night and had a terrible day after. I felt as if I had died in my sleep.
I have been dressing for years, but always behind her back. I have treated her badly for all of our marriage. This has been such an uncontrolable thing in my life since my teens, and always after I had been discovered dressing I would dispose of all my pretty things and I would suffer periods of anger, denial and self doubt, but take my anger out on her and the kids.
However, to cut a long story short, and to my great relief, (after lots of tears from both of us) we have been able to talk about all of this, and maybe to reach a compromise, for the first time. We have spent the day together, shopping and joking about what I should wear !! What a turnaround.
A gigantic weight has been lifted from me; I can't describe the feeling of relief that I feel, after those long years, I have been able to talk and discuss more or less freely with another human being about something that has been lurking in the shadows for most of my life.
We went to this site, to find some support and advice from other wives / girlfriends and we read quite a lot of interesting and informative posts, but were confused by the abbreviations used. We looked for a glossary of terms, but found none. Maybe they are there somewhere, but not easy to find.
So my question is; Could the Mods please explain the terms used, so that I might involve my partner, and also for the benefit of other novices and new members ??
Jannine.X :love:
I am a new member and recently my partner discovered that I was sneaking onto this site, so consequently that developed into a chaotic situation to say the least. After another argument, we were both yelling and crying, talking and not talking until early in the morning. We tried to reason why I do what I do, and why was life a bitch for both of us. We had a sleepless night and had a terrible day after. I felt as if I had died in my sleep.
I have been dressing for years, but always behind her back. I have treated her badly for all of our marriage. This has been such an uncontrolable thing in my life since my teens, and always after I had been discovered dressing I would dispose of all my pretty things and I would suffer periods of anger, denial and self doubt, but take my anger out on her and the kids.
However, to cut a long story short, and to my great relief, (after lots of tears from both of us) we have been able to talk about all of this, and maybe to reach a compromise, for the first time. We have spent the day together, shopping and joking about what I should wear !! What a turnaround.
A gigantic weight has been lifted from me; I can't describe the feeling of relief that I feel, after those long years, I have been able to talk and discuss more or less freely with another human being about something that has been lurking in the shadows for most of my life.
We went to this site, to find some support and advice from other wives / girlfriends and we read quite a lot of interesting and informative posts, but were confused by the abbreviations used. We looked for a glossary of terms, but found none. Maybe they are there somewhere, but not easy to find.
So my question is; Could the Mods please explain the terms used, so that I might involve my partner, and also for the benefit of other novices and new members ??
Jannine.X :love: