realisation

[karenhunni]

Hi everyone , for some time now somethings been eating away at me and that is trying to figure out what are the most important things for me in regard to knowing i am a woman and also the most important aspect of that to me . Suddenly it came to me in a flash today and the realisation was its so important to me to be accepted by gg as one of there gang so to speak in every way . I just thought i wanted to tell everyone of my realisation and wanderd if anyone else feels the same .
Karen

[Teri Jean]

Karen that happens so much and when one gets there it is time to find a gender therapist to help you navigate your journey. They are there not to tell you what you need but help you realize what it is you really desire. In any case I wish you the best and hugs to you.

Teri

[karenhunni]

thanks teri for your comment , been to g therapist about 4 yrs ago but havnt moved foward due to family etc , but still having realisations .

[Kaitlyn Michele]

realizations are great ...but only so much..i hope you can handle the feelings and emotions you are going to continue to experience and that you continue to grow and become who and what you want to be..

the trick is that at first the realization seems great as you get to understand yourself...what happens next can be quite difficult however as your needs to feel whole may increase...

[noeleena]

Hi

One of the biggest problems people have wether your male or female theres no difference there tho men well many they hide thier feelings more or dont talk about them, ,yet many of the women on our womens forums, natal women this is , the fact remains the same they are haveing a lot of difficulty in accepting them selfs
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Accepting that they can be accepted by others for who they are. as i read thier posts i see much of what theyv gone through & i see thier struggle like mine tho i came with a different set of details its still there,

when we come to this & can accept i am who i am & love my self for being this person then, i will have acceptance from others not in the sexual way , just a love that is all encompassing ,

With out this love its very hard to go through life. many of us do have a hard time in life ,

When we as youv seen get to that place of accepting our selfs , we then can be accepted by others .
For me iv proved this time & time again .

In answering thier posts i say much tha same as here & yes its so nice to help others as well.

Its nice to hear you have,

...noeleena...

[Aprilrain]

Does this mean your ready to do something about the diagnosis you received 4 years ago? I would suggest you read "Shes Not There" by Jenifer Finny Boylan. She also received a diagnosis of Transsexualism and did nothing about it for, I want to say, something like 16 years. You may be able to relate, in anycase it's a great book, upbeat and witty.

You mention family do you have kids? Are you married? Is it your parents your worried about? All of us have at least one of these we need to deal with. It's been done before. Besides no one needs to know why or even that you are seeing a therapist and this really is the first step for most TSs. But you already know this don't you.

[Areyan]

yeah i do feel this way. it's just part and parcel of being trans. i'm a tguy so it's the same thing here... vapid gossip and lame-ass convo about stupid, ugly males i dun care for? ya, bah-bye useless girl-talk, bring me some of the intellectual stuff men like to discuss and i'll be away laughing. i think it's fine to discuss reasons why you are trans but if you're trying to talk yourself into it because all your friends are doing it or because you like dressing up, think harder and get some more gender therapy.

take everyone else's advice here and address whatever it is that's holding you back. accepting yourself is a far cry from accepting "why" you want to go through with transition. lots of people want to transition even though it's not right for them and plenty of people do it and find out it wasn't what they thought it would be. cross dressers live in a world of fantasy as well, make sure you're really not just one of those first.

[Aprilrain]

yeah i do feel this way. it's just part and parcel of being trans. i'm a tguy so it's the same thing here... vapid gossip and lame-ass convo about stupid, ugly males i dun care for? ya, bah-bye useless girl-talk, bring me some of the intellectual stuff men like to discuss

While I must applaud you on your excellent use of the word "vapid", I think we both know that most of the words that come out of most peoples mouths most of the time are not that "intellectual" be they male or female. "lame-ass convo about stupid ugly males" is no worse than lame-ass convo about beer, tits and football.

[amielts]

Life cannot be perfect, but there are certainly many GGs out there who will accept transwomen as one of them.