another pondering question

[Jamie Parks]

I just wrote a post about taking a shower as a girl and that got me thinking about another expression i use when describing my outlook on my dressing and that is "looking thru rose colored glasses". Other than a handful of people, I can dress freely(wife, daughter, and closest friends know) but I don't always have the time or feel like putting in the effort to dress completely every time, so most of the time I kinda dress somewhere in the middle, clothes=girl, no makeup or wig and I might even have some stubble or some body hair....but when I look down at myself I rairly see any of those imperfections, I see the woman i know I was always meant to be. I can even go to a mirror and check out my outfit and not pay any attention to the 7 o'clock shadow, the hairy arms, the hairy and muscular legs, whatever it may be that would blair out to anyone else I can easily ignore. I apologize to others who might see me in this state because I know how bad it must look to see a person standing there presenting as a woman but only 80% there. Just wondering if anyone else owns a pair of "rose colored glass" too

[ReineD]

I can't answer from your side of the fence :), but from my position as the SO, I most definitely have the rose colored glasses on when I see my SO in the 'in between' space. I'll explain:

My SO told me a long time ago she felt uncomfortable having any of her guy self shine through when she is dressed in front of people. But, she's OK with it on her own, just like you. I gather her feminine feelings come from inside and they're not 100% tied to a flawless presentation.

At any rate, I stopped over unannounced one time, and she was in that middle space. To me, she was just herself and looked perfectly natural. I couldn't see any of her male features. She was wearing comfy lounging pants, a cute Tshirt with butterflies and flowers on it (I think), a few pieces of jewelry, and I don't think she had any makeup on. She didn't have any of the forms on. She just looked comfortable and she looked very feminine to me.

[Phoebe P.]

That's a great way to look at it! I had to grow the hair out on my legs for summer. It's hot down hear and I'm not going to cut the lawn with shaved legs in this neighborhood! I don't know that I'm TG or some area of the spectrum, but it's better not to raise eyebrows in my area. I can't go 100%, but I do the best I can!

[jessica renee]

I too can ignore the slight imperfections in my appearance when dressing alone. I have to either hide or remove them if I decide to go out, but when alone I'm just fine even if there's a little unwanted hair.

[abbykins]

Femininity is new to me, so each time I add more of it I see a woman in the mirror. It's a struggle to be objective about how I truly look.

[noeleena]

Hi,

This really has to do with being comforable with in your self how you look may be another matter. Im seen by many people every day & how do i see my self the same way my friends see me im no-el & noeleena to them im comforable with in my self as to who i am , im not trying to be what im not. & because of that im accepted.

just because of my intersex androgynous aspect does not change how i think or who i am, most of the time even at home & when people friends come round ill more than likely be wearing a skirt no make up at all a shirt or tee on & a sun hat i dont wear any wigs, as in my pic, some times i have over alls on as i may be doing jobs, as our neighbours see me all the time , because im well known no one cares as far as others are concerned im just another women whos different . & thats really it.

...noeleena...

[Cynthia Anne]

I did not realize until now, that I own rose colored glasses! But it's a HOT PINK rose!

[Tina B.]

I got my rose colored glasses back in 1985, and have worn them a lot every since. My wife convinced me You don't have to do it all every time, try just a skirt and tee shirt. I did and found just like you, it worked. Some days I take whats left of the hair on top my head, put it in a pony tail trow on a pair of Capri's and a top, slip in to flats and I'm done. day before yesterday, I was dressed, had to run to town, to the wifes job, slipped in to a pair of mens dockers, and a white tee shirt, left my bra and forms on, slipped on a jacket went and did my business, when I got back to the house, I got busy stayed dressed that way all day and with the bra and forms on, I felt every feminine.
Tina B.

[Jilmac]

I was in the closet for so many years I lost count and while I was there I sported a full beard as my male persona. Whenever I dressed (as the opportunity arose), the rose colored glasses came out and all I could see was a feminine body looking back at me from the mirror.

[Sarah Doepner]

I have a rich imagination and have come to understand I don't need to dress to the 9's to get in touch with that feminine feeling I like. It's much more fun if I can go all out, but not always as necessary as it once was.

[Diana Rae]

Most of my time at home I spend dressed with no wig or makeup but in a dress or skirt. I works for me! The wife is used to me this way. Sometimes I even shave!

[AllieSF]

I get that way every time I am trying on outfits (in order to put together the best one) for an upcoming day/night out on the town. I will try on a lot of different items without a wig with a few days of beard growth and no makeup, and hardly ever see those imperfections as I work toward my final goal. For me, it may be like that because I know I will be close shaved, makeup on, accessories in place and ready to go when I finally do go out.

[RenneB]

My rose glasses fell off when I started taking photos of me en fem. From my viewpoint, I looked much better than that, what or who was I looking at. That's when I broke out the power bars and diet coke and said, I'm going to try to be a little healthier and see if I can't fit into that size 12 dress I just bought. And heck while I'm at it as soon as I get a few more dollars into the checking account, I'm going for that mid life crisis neck lift..... Then through on a pair of sunglassess and I'm out the door....

Renne.....

[Emme]

That's a great way to look at it! I had to grow the hair out on my legs for summer. It's hot down hear and I'm not going to cut the lawn with shaved legs in this neighborhood! I don't know that I'm TG or some area of the spectrum, but it's better not to raise eyebrows in my area. I can't go 100%, but I do the best I can!
I'll bet you two boilled eggs...that if you keep shavinng....no one will ever say a word! Just do it. In November I will send you my address for the Eggs U owe Mme!