One Month

[katie-bear]

I have an opportunity I have never had before. I have one month to crossdress, daily.
My wife's sister is getting married and she is going to stay with her for a month to help her get ready for it all. I am going to miss her, we have never been apart for more than a day or two, but I am kind of excited because this will be an opportunity to go all out for a month on my fem side! I don't have much money, and anything I buy is getting returned/thrown out at the end, but it is still exciting.
Here is my plan:
First, I'm going to order a wig, preferably for around $20. I know it won't be that great quality but it will be a wig nonetheless.
Second, shoes from Payless. I can return these at the end of the month so I'm going to get a few - some flats for when I go out and some heels for when I stay in.
Next - clothes. I have a card at one or two department stores, so I plan to get underwear, bra, some nylons, along with 2-3 skirts, and few cute shirts.
I'm also going to make some homemade breastforms, either the rice or birdseed kind...whatever works best
Makeup - I have 'access' to plenty
Finally - a dress. There is a store nearby that is very CD friendly, and they often have used bridal/prom dresses for very little, so I'm going to be making a few stops there to try some on and pick one out.
There are one or two CDs in the area that I have emailed with that want to CD together so I will probably meet up with them and have a girly time! I might even find a bar/club that is for gay/bi/cd and head there one or two nights a week.
I'm super excited, even though from 9-5 I'll be pushing papers, from 5-9 I'll be my fem self.
A few things I'm wondering about...
I have a lot of neighbors that live very close (small houses, small community) and I'm wondering how to get from my house out without notice. My guess is if they see a girl coming in and out of the house, they will tell my wife I cheated on her or something!
Also, I'd really like to get my nails done but don't know how to pull that off when working every day, as well as with the risk of my wife noticing if we ever web-cam while she is at her sisters.
Aaaaannndddd...any other suggestions on how to make it the girliest month ever?

[linda allen]

Three things:
1. Buying clothes or shoes, wearing them for a month, and then returning them isn't really ethical. What's the store supposed to do with your used clothing and shoes? If they don't fit, fine take them off and return them. Otherwise, keep them.

2. That credit card will come back to haunt you if your wife sees the statements. Better to use cash and throw the receipts away. Not at home, in a public place somewhere like a mall.

3. You're correct about the neighbors. Unless you keep your car in the garage and have tinted windows, you better figure on dressing somewhere else. And if that means a hotel, same thing about the credit card and receipts.

[JenniferR771]

Linda is right. Not fair to your wife--but I have done the same. Why not shop at a thrift store? If you shop several or call around first--you should be able to find a wig for little expense. Same for shoes, bras, dresses, jewelry, and a purse.
My local Goodwill just got in a selection of new prom and formal dresses. Many sold originally for over $80 and most are priced at 10 to 16 dollars. Almost broke my heart. I found a spectacular pink dress that was just covered with beads and sequins. My size, (10), marked 9.95. Original price was $230!! But no. My wife has been a little cold lately. And it would be hard to hide. Sigh.

[katie-bear]

I agree about the returning stuff - It'll more likely go to a thrift store, not getting returned to the actual store I bought them from. We just call it 'returning' whether it goes back to the original store or a thrift store.
I agree its not fair to my wife, but I feel like lifetime repression isn't fair to me, either. I figure this month will be a great outlet, and while it'll probably get me hooked and want more, I can at least know I expressed myself and can wait another year or two before going all out again.

[Paula Siemen]

Ross Dress for less has really nice stuff to shop for, dresses, pants (ick), skirts, bras, panties,foundations, all you would need and their prices are extremely reasonable. I've bought several dresses for $10-$20, sometimes less. Bras in the $5-$8 range and panties $2-$5 range. They will even let you use the fitting rooms. No problem to take ladies stuff into the men's fitting rooms, or the ladies if you are reasonally presenting as a lady (not necessarily passing).
Catos Fashions also has some very affordable stiles, skirts, tops, dresses, pants (euuuuuuu), and lingerie. Dresses usually around the $20 range. I've bougtht pumps there as well, cheaper than Payless (always good for ladies shoes). Their stuff ranges from very casual to business to cocktail and evening dresses.
Makeup DON"T EVEN THINK of using your wife's! Go to Walgreens and pick up a makeup set for $10-$20. Possibly add a foundation and a lipstick (get the cheap stuff, not the name brand).
As for taking stuff back, I agree , that's somewhat unfair to the mechants. Find a good place to hide it (in your car trunck till a better place comes along).
Also agree, not credit card trails, or receipts around where they may be found. Set a budget for how much you want to spend and stick to it.
Paula Young. com has great wigs for very reasonable prices, if you pick out a clearance style and color, but they come through the mail (red light- credit card) and get delivered to your mailbox and the timeing can be very critical. They usually come within 3-6 days, but you know the USPS can muck up anything and the worst would be to pre-order and it come the day before you wife leaves...or after she returns!!!! Better buy local at this point. Great webb site though for future opportunities.
Good Luch
Have Fun
BE SAFE....don't drink and drive ( who the hell would come bail you out?)

[SheriM]

I agree with those above. Don't wear it and then return it. Don't buy it with the intention of returning it. It's dishonest.
Now - Set a budget DO go out and have fun shopping. Goodwill, TJMaxx, Marshalls, Ross are all good places. I have even found 80%-90% off at Macy's and bought tops, dresses, etc for under $10. In fact, now is good time to buy a short sweater dress on clearance for almost nothing. Goodwill is a good place to start where no one pays much attention to you and prices are cheap. You can try on anything without intervention.
Lastly, take another good look around the house/apt and look for a safe place to store your stuff (the sweater dress takes up a lot of room). If you can't find a place, you will probably have to throw it away or give it back to Goodwill. That could be hard.
SheriM

[Daintre]

Hi Katie, welcome to the forum. Your post made me smile, you come across as a kid about to be let loose in a candy store. Before you dive in and become overwhelmed, think about the ramifications or possible outcomes. Buying on credit will always leave a paper trail. neighbors are naturally snoopy, lastly you will need to make sure all labels, sales slips are gone. I do think that a sit down conversation with the wife is the way to go, but that is me talking. Enjoy the month, but please be careful.

[Stephenie S]

If you shop at the thrift store and return stuff to the thrift store you are not only being honest (good Karma), you are being socially responsible.

Buying new stuff intending to return it to the store is dishonest (bad Karma).

Don't use your wife's makeup. Don't use anything of your wife's unless you want to have it out with her when she returns. She will be p****d off big time. We can tell someone's been in our stuff, believe me.

Have a wonderful time. But shop in the thrift store.

S

[Sarasometimes]

Use do caution. Shop where you are unlikely to run into people you know. Go the bargain route, Goodwill/thrift stores or extreme clearance. Don't attempt to come and go dressed, change in you car. Be careful of all that your stuff in the house, watch what is in veiw of the webcam, remove makeup completely. If you use her makeup she may very well figure that out. Keep track of potential visitors. Don't do things that may mess up your job. Paint your toes instead of your fingers if that will work for you. Good luck and be thoughtful.

[Jilmac]

If you plan on disposing of your femme clothes after a month perhaps a better idea would be to shop at a thrift store such as Goodwill. It's almost one stop shopping in that you can find everything you mentioned (except maybe the wig), and pay a lot less than you would at a department store or boutique. As far as the neighbors seeing you and possibly outing you to your wife, you might be wise to use a remote location to change.

[Debra Russell]

Be carefull don't let the pink fog engulf you and think hard before, during and after -- or have a talk with your wife

Debra

[JohnH]

I have a suggestion. Don't hide your crossdressing activities. Keep your feminine garments in plain view where your wife can see them and wear them around your wife.

If you are too ashamed to crossdress in front of your wife I suggest you don't do it at all. She needs to know, and you are betraying her trust by doing it in secret.

Don't return items bought as new after you have worn them a lot. The retailer will be stuck with used merchandise that should be new.
If you throw out clothes you are simply purging, and then you will have to buy more when the urge to dress comes up again.

Most of the time I wear men's clothes, but there are times when I wear a dress, including walking around the neighborhood so attired. There are a few, surprisingly few narrow minded people that mind my wearing feminine garments.

I paint my toenails since there is a lot less wear on them than fingernails. I used to paint my fingernails but determined it was too much work to keep them touched up.

I used to get super excited about crossdressing, but now I simply see dresses, skirts, hose, heels, and makeup as part of my expanded wardrobe that I wear as alternatives to the tired old boring men's clothes.

Johanna

[Cynthia Anne]

I agree with Jenni! It sounds to me that NOW would be the time to have that much needed talk! Sneaking and hiding both lead to the same place! And you won't like it there! hugs!

[Mary Morgan]

Don't be surprised if the plans change and the trip is shorter. This will be a very tense time for these sister to be together for that long.

[Natalie Wood]

I remember those good 'ol days. My wife going away for the weekend. That total liberating feeling of being able to cd when and how I wanted to. But, then I told my wife about my cd'ing and I have been able to feel like that every day now! So glad that I trusted her enough to understand me, although in my head it seemed like an impossibility at the time. Good luck Katie. Have fun! And when the time is right, hopefully sooner than later, take that leap of faith. You may be pleasantly surprised.

[Lorileah]

I am going to say....don't. Don't do any of the things you have outlined. Sounds like there may be an issue with your wife on all this and we really don't want to see your post 6 months from now about how your wife now won't speak to you and/or wants a divorce.

Does your wife know about your proclivities? If the answer is yes, then you can have a great month doing everything you want as long as you are above board before hand. You can get a pair of shoes (or two) that you can keep, the undergarments you want and a decent dress and skirt. Personally I would not buy a cheap wig no matter what. The wig is an important part of the outfit an a cheap wig may ruin the whole experience and if you get a mid-priced wig, you will have it a long time.

If the answer is no, then maybe you can get a few things for the month (dress, heels, undergarments) and have some fun but then you should really tell your wife of your desires as soon as you can, ( probably not right after sh gets back.). This way you can be you and not have to worry about getting caught (you will set ground rules) or hoping that her other 20 sisters get married one per year.

[SandraInHose]

Sounds like a fun time being planned by you. I would however, heed the advice you've been given so far. Especially the advice about the trip being cut short...that sounds very logical and likely.

A few years ago my wife and kids went to visit a relative and were supposed to be gone a week. Like you, I anticipated how I was going to spend every minute of every day dressed to the nines, in full make-up, etc, etc. Truth be told though, since I am not passable and couldn't leave the house, I honestly got kind of bored after about three days. If you are able to come and go as you please (dressed), then that will make it a much more interesting time. Good luck!

[Kathryn Philips]

I have to resort to hiding my clothes. I have very limited space so in order to get new clothes, I must disposed od used ones. I take mine to the "clothes recycling banks" that we have in the UK. These are owned and empties out regularly by the charity shops. By buying clothes, using them a bit and giving away to charity shops, I am in effect giving money to charity through my CDing.

[katie-bear]

I have talked to my wife, and, sadly, she does not approve. Not yet at last. Every once in a while...very rarely every once in a while, she budges in my direction.
For now, I am just going to be a girl for a month, go all out, and enjoy it. There will come a day when she is on my side, but for now, this is how it is.
hugs*

[RenneB]

I have tried to cover every little snipit in the life of Renne... The boots leaked out, actually they blended in with the bedspread and I forgot to pack them up. So no, all of Renne's stuff has been moved to the basement. When items arrive via post, I quickly grab them, watch out for Saturday deliveries, gotta be their when it arrives. Watch shipping arrangements, difficult to time the UPS driver. When the packages are opened, I quickly shread all the evidence through an expensive confettii shreader in the garage.

Oh, for "sneakin' out" in the daytime, I'd just wear a hoody and go with it. As for the nails, well, I'd take a week off of work for that one. I just put on the glue ons today, and it took a full two hours to get the original nails back to where they were. But it felt great. Try em for a day and see what you can and really can't do with them on before you go the professional route. Here's a button trick. I can't button anything with nails on, so I keep a pair of hemostats in my "kit". Also, typing's a bitch too with nails on.

Tell us how it goes. I'm sure you'll have a blast. Sleeping en fem has been a real treat. Last time was ooo way too long ago. But I remember the dreams I had with just the fem undies/forms on. And wow you'll have something to write about the next day for sure......

Renne...

[Missy Tanya]

I agree that wearing then taking the clothing or shoes back is nasty. Beside shopping at the thrift stores can be so much fun and cheap. As for nails. I'm a one night girl most of the time, so I wear stick on nails every time. I stick them to a piece of cardboard with duct tape staple too. Then paint them on the board, when dry, remove and sand of the excess. Then I have nails in many different colors to match my outfits, or moods. Then when back home I just remove and clean the glue off and their ready for the next time. I have 20+ set ready right now. I use the box that they come in and sort by colors and lengths.

And yes, be forth warned about her showing up back home early. Sometimes sister don't always get along as good as before, once the Wedding Music starts..

Have fun, Tanya