How would you live if you were born Female ?

[Jo-Anne]

Have you ever wondered how different your life would be if you were born a GG ? Would you live a traditional female lifestyle with the "white picket fence " or become a firefighter or a Policewoman ? I would have gone into the business world but still had the husband and kids..What about you ? :daydreaming:

[Katesback]

While not a GG I am female. I did choose to live my life as I always knew I was. What is it like? It is life!!!!!! Nothing more and nothing less. People often get consumed by dreams of what something is like if they had not experienced it. As far as being a girl, I have experienced it and it is JUST LIFE. Wearing a dress or skirt and heels is not what being a woman is. Being a woman is inside a person!

Katie

[suzy1]

I have thought of this too.
I think, if I was attractive I would have marred a wealthy man and lived a life of luxury.
Champaign on tap, and just be pampered all day.
Well, it’s time to get back to the real world.

Have fun.

[kimdl93]

well, for the past 40+ years the majority of women have worked, and for perhaps the past 20+ years, women outnumbered men in university graduation rates and graduation from professional schools such as law and medicine. So, if I'd been born a woman, I am almost certain that I would have been a professional and a parent, pretty much the same as I am now, and what my wife is.

[Nisha]

I would be in healthcare profession. Would have stayed single but with lots and lots of friends. I would spend my money traveling, exploring and enjoying life to the fullest.

[Jeanna]

I probably would have been a prostitute

[rachaelsloane]

Maybe I'm showing my age, but there were few GG in the business classes I took while going to college, but for sure I would have liked to enter the business world and have been able to make a contribution while raising a family (not sure about the number of children). Love the question.
Rachael

[Kate Simmons]

I would have been the female field operative for my detective agency, a la Honey West.:battingeyelashes::)

[Donna June]

I would have been a fun, perky, feminine, confident and pretty woman. I would've modeled till I met the love of my life in my mid 20's. We would marry in a few years and I'd eventually have 2 children. Atleast that was always my fantasy.

[junetv]

I probably would have been a prostitute hahaha!

I would've been a lipstick lesbian.

[Stephanie Miller]

I don't want to get into the "but my mind is of a womans" or "medical science has helped me be one now" because I think I know what your simple questions intent was. (If I'm wrong - shoot me :D )
I don't know how I would have turned out any more than anyone else could see the "It's a Wonderful Life" type scene.
But I do know one thing... I would have possibly been a heck of a lot happier and complete.

[Rianna Humble]

It is a shame that certain people only seem to post here to proclaim themselves superior to everyone else. I will try to answer in the spirit in which I believe you meant the question.

I believe much of my life would have been similar. I still wouldn't have been much good at sport, and I would almost certainly still have been an advocate for human rights.

I quite like the idea of the picket, but would accept people of every race, creed, colour and orientation on mine, so it would be more of a rainbow picket :heehee:

The big difference for me is that I might have been able to form a meaningful relationship with a Significant Other - something that was made impossible for me by living in the wrong body.

[christina s]

The exact same . The only difference is it wouldn't be weird if i wanted to put on a dress and heels .....

[Cynthia Anne]

All I can say is :The dreams of the every day house wife!:

[AllieSF]

With my luck, if I was born a woman I would probably want to crossdress as a guy. Go figure. Life and Murphy's Law seem to reign supreme.

[Kate Lynn]

I would have entered a convent.

[ReineD]

Well, I've got to say that the white picket fence ideal didn't work out for me, nor does it work out for the other 50% females who get divorced. And most of the other 50% lead lives trying to juggle jobs and kids. :p


... no bitterness intended or experienced. This is just a factual statement. :)

[ziggie]

I'm old enough that I would either have been part of the "women's lib" movement of the '60s or a traditional stay at home wife of a factory worker. Not sure which would have worked out.

[NicoleScott]

Interesting discussion, but there's no way of knowing how things would have turned out if we were born female.

[LIKETODRESS2]

I have thought of that before and I not really sure how my life would be differnet I gusss that is one question I will never know the answer

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

I most likely would have been looking at FtM transitioning, because women got the raw deal on lots of things and men had it easier than a single woman on her own particularly if she had a baby and was allowed to keep it. Most women who had babies usually had to give it up at birth for adoption.
Yep, I most likely would have cursed having been born female.

[Frédérique]

Have you ever wondered how different your life would be if you were born a GG? Would you live a traditional female lifestyle with the "white picket fence " or become a firefighter or a Policewoman?

Well, I’m a male, and I once built myself a white picket fence – go figure…:eek:

If I was born female, I would be exactly where I am now, living on the edge of society, trying to make ends meet. I would no doubt feel fortunate to be unmarried and childless, squaring this notion in my mind on a daily basis. Delusion can be a beautiful thing...

BTW, my father was a fireman, and my mother was a policewoman of sorts, so I would NOT have followed in their shoes regardless of my birth gender. M or F (GG), CD, TV, TG, or TS, I’d still be an artist…

[Rachel Mari]

I don't have a clue where or what I'd be doing if I had been born a GG. Apples and Oranges.

I think I might have an idea what I would have looked like as I have 5 sisters. The closest sister to my age and I look very much alike, except I'm about 7" taller.

[donnatracey]

Jeanna may be on to something........:thumbsup:

[steph1964]

I became a policeman but I often wounder if part of the reason I did was because it was a macho profession in an attempt to ignore my inner feelings, so I think maybe a nurse. I was a medic in the Army.

[HaleyTs]

I would have been a fun, perky, feminine, confident and pretty woman. I would've modeled till I met the love of my life in my mid 20's. We would marry in a few years and I'd eventually have 2 children. Atleast that was always my fantasy.

Gee that sounds alot like what I imagined myself! lol..

[danielletorresani]

I'm pretty confident that I would LOVE to be a trophy wife. I love the idea of being someone's object of desire and dressing up for them and making them feel good. I'd like to think that if I was born a woman that I would retain those desires. And since turning on others is such a turn on for me, I'd like to think that I'd also have quite the fetish for lingerie, and wear it every chance I got.

[TGMarla]

I think about it quite often. Who knows? I think I'd be a "girly-girl", wear skirts and dresses more often than the average lady, but not obsessively so like I do now. I'd likely be a mother, with a husband, a career of some kind, and a home in the 'burbs. It would probably be pretty normal. I think I'd still like sports like football, baseball, and golf. I'd probably still enjoy a beer or two now and then. But I'd also probably like some things that I don't much care as a guy, like Oprah, the Lifetime channel (shudder!) and going to brunch with the girls. I think I'd be pretty typical, really.

[linda allen]

When I was young and in high school, men had secretaries. I suspect I would have been pushed towards the typing and secretarial classes. This was before birth control pills so I probably would have gotten pregnant and married someone I didn't love, had a few more children, and just lived the life of a wife stuck with what her husband could provide.

I'm glad it turned out like it did. I'm happy to be a man who pretends to be a woman when he wants to and gets the chance.

[jennifer easton]

unless you are a fortune teller or can see in a different dimension, how can you speculate on this, your Mom and dad would have razed you different, your friends would have been all together different your whole mind set would be different, you say I'd been a prostitute, but really!!, I offen say to my GG friends that if I'd been bore female and had the body and looks that a pole dancer, yeah think of the mu-la for just flash-in some skin!! but really!! would I, if I truly would have been brought up female, who knows, but it is a grate way to spend some time and dream!! Jenni

[Babeba]

As a GG, I was raised being told that women could do everything men could do, up to and including being an astronaut (Roberta Bondar was my childhood hero! <3)

To flip this around, if I were born male I probably would have played football in high school. I would probably have stuck with archaeology for my master's and been a shovel bum for a while (tried it, felt physically too weak to do it full time). Eventually I would've ended up at a museumy type job, like I am now.

I joked once on a dig about wanting to be a trophy wife. One of the women (a gorgeous blonde in her late thirties) paled a bit under her tan, and explained (thankfully without a lot of detail) why getting into a controlling marriage like she had been with an older rich man is ABSOLUTELY FREAKY and not as much fun as you would think, with a whole hell of a lot more abuse. (not to put too fine a point on it, her husband had wanted to make sure that his 'investment' was safeguarded from pretty much every other male on the planet, and that he got his money's worth, one way or another). It still would be nice to be totally spoiled and appreciated in a manner I'd like to be accustomed to - but definitely not at that price!

[kymmieLorain]

It's hard to tell, I could have had a longer carreer in the Air Force. or I could have been a black widow. I know I would have taken better care of my body, I still would ride Harleys. LOL OH, and my real name would be Patricia

Kymmie

[Debra Russell]

I have three sisters and we all look very much alike! One inparticular and have sent her pics of "me" to compare we all have families and good spouses- -live very like style lives- --- I think my life as female would be very much like theirs- - Oh wait ; mines better, I have the best of both mine and theirs

[Pythos]

This is a near impossible question to answer. Now, if I were to come back as a female, WITH the mind I have now, I would have soooo much fun. I would live pretty much the same, just with a lot more freedom in my expression. I would still love aviation and stuff "boys like". I think that would just be too fun to meet the people I knew as a boy, but as a female.

[AmberM]

If I were born a woman I would have the same personality I have now- liberal, free spirited, open minded, spontaneous, loving and compassionate except I would have more freedom to express my feminine side. I would still be in the theatre as a dancer, actress, director and singer (with a soprano voice). More than likely I would continue to be an aspiring high school social studies and performing arts teacher. Growing up I would have been a "Daddy's girl" and my relationship with my mom would be more civil and bearable. I would not be Barbie style feminine nor would I have been a tomboy. I would likely be androgynous but leaning in the feminine direction. In wearing makeup I would not go overboard and apply something that blends in and is creative. Back in my high school days, I would still have been fairly popular person, still a choir and drama geek and I would have joined the dance team. I would haven been considered too smart, and not ditsy enough to be a cheerleader. I would still be a fierce advocate of social justice especially for Gay and lesbian people and I would be either be straight but not narrow or bisexual.

[dennisGTS]

...if... I'd probably have the same silly personality and love to do all the same things I like to do as a guy. Be able to wear all the cute girly clothing I wanted while being a tomboy. Probably would've joined the Army and have done the same things I am doing right now. ...oh, and would still like hot women!

[Shananigans]

I find it really funny that most people are answering that they'd be beautiful or intellgent or blah blah. Sooooo, being female has pretty much nothing to do with those things. You can be a complete idiot and heinous looking and still have a vagina. It's the luck of the genetic draw.

Say you were born a female and you are less than average intelligence...you look kind of stocky and butch...you have weight problems...and no man wants to date you.

Luck of the draw but you are still a female.

This is like asking me where I'll be in 10 years...I'd never say, "Addicted to meth or dead." I'd say, "Im married to the love of my life and doing something in a career that I love." However, these are all likely outcomes.

Being a girl isn't like being a magical unicorn and life is perfect and full of rainbows. It's just as harsh and unforgiving for women as it is men.

[Alice Torn]

Sadly, my ownly sister, 63, had a rare disease, Dystinia, and never was very social with men, came from alcoholic family, no boyfriends. I guess, that if I was born female, and half decent looking, and social, I would have the OPPOSITE PROBLEM I have now. Too many guys hitting on me! And, likely, I would have married young, had kids, a job. Maybe been divorced a time or two. As a guy, it is pretty solitary, almost never a date, now.

[Lucy_Bella]

I find it really funny that most people are answering that they'd be beautiful or intellgent or blah blah. So, being female has pretty much nothing to do with those things. You can be a complete idiot and heinous looking bit still have a vagina. It's the luck of the genetic draw.

Say you were born a female and you are less than average intelligent...you look kind of stocky and butch...you have weight problems...and no man wants to date you.

Luck of the draw but you are still a female.

This is like asking me where I'll be in 10 years...I'd never say, "Addicted to meth or dead." I'd say, "Im married to the love of my life and doing something in a career that I love." However, these are all likely outcomes.

Being a girl isn't like being a magical unicorn and life is perfect and full of rainbows. It's just as harsh and unforgiving for women as it is men.

I really like this response, it's logical and the truth nothing make believe about it.. If I were to answer this question myself ? I would have to say I would be myself with some kind of dressing fetish..

[Alice Torn]

I need to qualify my last post. As a male, it is soitary, almost never a date. When dressed up, and on internet sites, I get hit on a lot by guys, but not ladies.

[marissa_sissy]

well, I am not looking to offend, but when I dress I feel pretty randy. Thus, had I been born a female, I likey would have gone into pornography of some sort. It is the female occupation that best suits my persona. maybe a stripper, maybe a hooker, maybe a porn star, maybe a webcam girl. But I would be ****ty as hell, and love every minute. lol.

[Loni]

not sure what kind of job i would have done, probably just another drone in a office, but i would have had the great time in frills all of my life,

[WillowWriter]

I's still be going against the grain, being different with I was born a GG. Probably would have preferred it. I would still work with kids and write and draw, but I think I would be more comfortable as a GG, but can't change the began, you can only guide the future.

[Rianna Humble]

Being a girl isn't like being a magical unicorn and life is perfect and full of rainbows.

Go on, shatter a girls' dreams why don't you? :facepalm:

Just when I had begun to believe that unicorns were going to rule my life ... :cry:

[dana8656]

probably would want to dress like a guy, jeans and sweatshirts all the way...easy and comfortable. I would think no fun in dressing up all pretty if you get to do it all the time whenever you wanted...

[TxKimberly]

Had I been born female, it would have been just my luck to be born someplace like Iran where women have no rights, are treated like garbage, get beaten for speaking up, and are resigned to wearing big, ugly, hot, unattractive, and black robes. . .
Of course we all fantasize about having the life of a reasonably well off woman in a free society, but a hell of a lot of women in the world are treated like property or even labor animals. It would be just my luck to be born someplace like that . . .

[Jeannie]

I probably would have been a prostitute

Ditto. I once heard of a women that was very attractive that worked in a paper mill here in town and one day she came and told everyone that she was quitting because she suddenly realized that she was a walking gold mine and that she was looking for prospectors. She walked out the door and never looked back. I also found this joke that listed all of the things a man would do if he woke up and found that he suddenly had a vagina. I would be guilty of most of the things that were on that list. In reality I would probably get married settle down have kids and talk about how all men are pigs LOL.

Jeannie

[Jeannie]

Had I been born female, it would have been just my luck to be born someplace like Iran where women have no rights, are treated like garbage, get beaten for speaking up, and are resigned to wearing big, ugly, hot, unattractive, and black robes. . .
Of course we all fantasize about having the life of a reasonably well off woman in a free society, but a hell of a lot of women in the world are treated like property or even labor animals. It would be just my luck to be born someplace like that . . .

Kim what you say is happening as we speak. It is sad that women are treated this way when they are the bearers of life. I have tried my best to love and respect all women because they deserve it and as you say we could be in there shoes and believe me it is not easy. I probably wouldn't last a day if I had to do it right now. There is still a black market on women out there were everyday they are bought and sold like so much live stock. It is my belief that some of the women and children that are missing are in this situation and it makes me so mad that I wish I could get my M16 back and go for a good hunt.

Please forgive me for my rant, but this gets my blood boiling just as much as child abuse.


Jeannie

[Lucypink]

It is not about fortune telling, it is of how you would liked or thought it woud have been, its hipotetically speaking.
I think or I dream, that if I was born as a Girl, my life would have been very difrent. I am sure that I would have sutudied a administrative of finance career not egineering, or some thing involved with fashion. each day it passes I realize that I am really intrested in that area and maybe have a botique, design and /or fabricate women clothing.
I would be very femenine and always dressing with class, as I try to dress each time I can.
Then again, it si just a thought!!
Cheers.
Lucy.

[Schatten Lupus]

I imagine much of the same, minus a few things such as body building and wrestling though.

[VioletJourney]

Probably very similar, except happier. I think quite a few of my problems are male-exclusive problems. By that, I mean, shy girls are cute, but shy guys are just losers.

[christinac]

Have you ever wondered how different your life would be if you were born a GG ? Would you live a traditional female lifestyle with the "white picket fence " or become a firefighter or a Policewoman ? I would have gone into the business world but still had the husband and kids..What about you ? :daydreaming:

I've always been a bit of sucker for kids so I probably would have been in some form of child care or child welfare or possibly a school teacher or something. Then again I have always loved animals too, so I may have became a vet. I honestly never really seriously thought about it until you asked the question.

[t-girlxsophie]

To be honest,I ain't got a scoobies,no-one can possibly tell what path we would have chosen,It's all ifs,buts and maybes

[ColleenCD]

Great Question,

If I could choose....then I would like to have the same family, grow up in the same cities, know the same people, but experience life from a female point of view. It may have been more opressive, and limiting, but no more difficult than the life experiences everyone endures each day. Simply put, I would have managed through good times and bad.

Now for the fun stuff. As for who I would be, well that would be hard working, pretty, intelligent, funny, and a clothes horse, with lots of pretty things. The difference between reality and what if are;...my public image, my internal acceptance, and my family role.

Hugs,

Colleen

[Leanne2]

If I was born female I would have a hard time understanding why a perfectly good man would want to dress up and pretend to be a woman. My thoughts would be," just be happy being what you were born; a man!" Leanne

[Pythos]

Leanne2,

Are you being serious?

[AKAMichelle]

While not a GG I am female. I did choose to live my life as I always knew I was. What is it like? It is life!!!!!! Nothing more and nothing less. People often get consumed by dreams of what something is like if they had not experienced it. As far as being a girl, I have experienced it and it is JUST LIFE. Wearing a dress or skirt and heels is not what being a woman is. Being a woman is inside a person!

Katie

While it is nice to dream sometimes, it doesn't work in the long run.

I have to agree with Kate here. The deeper I get into living my life as a female, I see it as just that. A life that you live that revolves around different things.

[Steph.TS]

I think I wuld take it for granted, I don't know because I don't know the situation, but if I was a GG, I'd probably be ok with being a woman, but tired of men that treat me as a piece of meat, or eyecandy, the monthly visitor etc... and possibly look at strong men and think how they never have to endure any of this, then again, I might be content, and happy with life, there are life experiences I'm missing and therefore can't answer this question.

all I can honestly say is I look at beautiful women, and wish I could look like that, I wish I could have my own breasts, wear sexy and wonderful clothes, and get more in touch with my emotions, ultimately be as feminine as I can. I'm tired of being a man being put in a box where we try not to get notice with flashy colors, sparkles, and wild variations in clothes, a box where make up is looked down apon, and if caught wearing it, would be made fun of... I hate the hair on my body, but am afraid to have it permanently removed because people ever notice my arms/legs are as smooth as a woman's I could end up being made fun of, this box that society has made for men feels like a prison, that's why I said at the start of the message if I was a GG, I could very well want to be a man, because I think it's possible that both gender are in these boxes that limit and restrict us, make us feel wrong for wanting something better for ourselves.

Then again it could be like my second suggestion maybe I have a feminine brain and with all the ups and downs of being a woman, I'd be happy with it... in all honesty I'd love to have this question answered as it would let me know if I should push forward with transition...

[pink femme]

I'd love to live the "traditional" female role.

I'd want to marry Prince CHarming and have a family - and i'd look after the house each and every day......i'd have fresh flowers picked from the garden every day and the house would be immaculate.....i suspect this is just a TV dream and the reality would somehow be for more boring - but I can only dream

[lori m crawford]

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[MaryAnn40c]

I would of just become a house wife with kids.

[Danni Renee]

There seems to be serious replies and fantasy replies. I am in a fantasy mood:

I would have 10 children - husband(s) optional!

[Leanne2]

Yes Pythos, I am serious. We are a product of our environment. I am blessed to know what I know about my sex and gender. If I wasn't born transsexual I wouldn't have a clue about my condition. "Normal" people are most comfortable with other "normal" people and can't understand why someone would "choose" to be the way we are. That's the point; we don't choose. We just figure it out eventually. I was 58 by the time I figured it out. Hugs, Leanne

[Cheryl T]

I would have been a teacher and had a family.

[Joann Smith]

I would probally a bunch bills ...a under paid job ... un-greatful kids and be married to a man that looks cute in heels and mini skirts but wears way too much makeup.

Joann

[Stockingstopgirl]

Think I would be a lesbian don't like most of the men i have met in my life no kids either.

[SuzanneBender]

Over my lifetime I have spent a lot of time thinking about this. I would probably be the average woman fighting with the challenges of the average woman. Would my life be better or worse than now? Who knows.

What would I dream of being if I could choose anything. My dream is boring. I would want to be happily married with kids, financially stable. pretty, intelligent maybe a boutique owner or something like that.

The debate that runs through this thread brings out an interesting point that a couple of friends that have transitioned have explained to me. Transition is not the goal its just a stop on the journey. There is an entire life out there to still to live good and bad included no matter what gender you are.


With my luck, if I was born a woman I would probably want to crossdress as a guy. Go figure. Life and Murphy's Law seem to reign supreme.

That is too funny and likely too true. There is probably a good chance since many of us trend toward the center of the gender line that would have been Tomboys especially if you believe there is a physical or genetic reason behind being transgender.


Had I been born female, it would have been just my luck to be born someplace like Iran where women have no rights, are treated like garbage, get beaten for speaking up, and are resigned to wearing big, ugly, hot, unattractive, and black robes. . . True. I have caught myself looking at a burqa clad woman thinking I am glad that I was not born in her place. Being a woman isn't all peaches and cream in any culture but its a lot harder in some.

[ElaineB]

If I had been born female I probably would have turned into my mother ... which is a truly horrifying prospect!

On the other hand... I have much more strength of character than she does and I dont think its because I have a Y chromosome. Probably I would have become a teacher or an academic of some sort.

[Jolene]

While not a GG I am female. I did choose to live my life as I always knew I was. What is it like? It is life!!!!!! Nothing more and nothing less. People often get consumed by dreams of what something is like if they had not experienced it. As far as being a girl, I have experienced it and it is JUST LIFE. Wearing a dress or skirt and heels is not what being a woman is. Being a woman is inside a person!

Katie

You make a good point Katie. Clothes do not make us male or female but only how we present to the world. If I were born female in body I would not live much differently than I do now. Would go to work each day as we all do and try making my little corner of the world a little bit better. :)

[aussie24tg]

I would be a model and prob setup a business in some sort of beauty Salon.. and on the side do what my current GG friend's do "topless waitress"..though once I get my sex change I prob end up doing all those things anyway.. I already do a lil modeling, I could get into the salon scene if i wanted..but don't have the big boobs to do waitress

[StarrOfDelite]

I'd be Lara Croft and toy with the boys and the tombs alike.

[Eryn]

At my age, if I had been born female it would have been very unlikely that I would have attended engineering school. I really have no idea what I would have done instead. The worst thing with the "born female" scenario is that I wouldn't have met my wife unless we build in some sort of symmetry.

[Alyssa Marie]

I'd be a salon girl!

[TxKimberly]

There seems to be serious replies and fantasy replies. I am in a fantasy mood:

I would have 10 children - husband(s) optional!

I'll bet the number of children wanted drops to two or three after the first is born! LOL



I would probally a bunch bills ...a under paid job ... un-greatful kids and be married to a man that looks cute in heels and mini skirts but wears way too much makeup.

Joann

Don't forget that the husband would also be ungrateful. Just ask MY wife . . . LOL

[Danni Renee]

I agree that after probably 2 or 3 I might have changed my mind. On the other hand, I told my ex-wife that she should work and I should stay home because I was a much better mother and house keeper than she would ever be (which coincidently is one of the reasons she is now my ex)! I think I would love to challenge the "June Cleveers" and Martha Stewarts of the world ;).

[ReineD]

On the other hand, I told my ex-wife that she should work and I should stay home because I was a much better mother and house keeper than she would ever be (which coincidently is one of the reasons she is now my ex)! I think I would love to challenge the "June Cleveers" and Martha Stewarts of the world ;).

Um ... in light of your recent thread about your new SO, you're not still saying this, are you? I mean, it's OK to say you like to do housework more than she does, but a better mother? Ouch! :p

[TxKimberly]

I agree that after probably 2 or 3 I might have changed my mind. On the other hand, I told my ex-wife that she should work and I should stay home because I was a much better mother and house keeper than she would ever be (which coincidently is one of the reasons she is now my ex)! I think I would love to challenge the "June Cleveers" and Martha Stewarts of the world ;).

My wife has always sworn up and down that I would make a better house wife than she does. NOTE - SHE says that - not me!~

On the other hand, you could not POSSIBLY pay me enough to quit my job and stay home with the children. I know that there is a lot of GG admiration going on around here, but I'm here to tell you that I would go absolutely freaking nuts if I had to stay home with my children all day and every day. Don't get me wrong, I love my babies, but I would kill someone (Maybe me) if I had to take care of them all day and every single day.
A house wife, who takes care of her home, and engages and encourages her children, is nothing short of an angel sent from God above.
We all have our talents, and our gifts from God. A woman who encourages her children, who sets the example and teaches her children, has a gift from God that should be cherished and admired. Most of us here admire women, but I'm telling you that there is nothing greater in the world, NOTHING that can possibly have a greater impact than a woman that is fully engaged in the education and upbringing or her children.
As I sit here typing this drivel, I swear I have chills going up and down my spine. There is nothing greater in the world than a woman that is fully engaged in the upbringing and education of her children. If we really fancy ourselves as women, THIS is the ultimate goal . . .

[SarahMarie42]

If I were merely physically different, I'd probably act quite similarly, but I'd be able to display the entirety of my character, as I would no longer be socially obligated to repress a great deal of it.

[Danni Renee]

Reine, I do not even remotely think that I could be a better mother or housekeeper than my current SO. This speaks both to how fantastic my SO really is and how little effort my ex wife put into things. I by no means meant that I would be better than all women either, but my ex wife set the bar rather low.

[ReineD]

As I sit here typing this drivel, I swear I have chills going up and down my spine. There is nothing greater in the world than a woman that is fully engaged in the upbringing and education of her children. If we really fancy ourselves as women, THIS is the ultimate goal . . .

It's not drivel and I agree, it wasn't easy at least in the beginning (I had to adjust from having a rewarding and well paying career to becoming financially dependent on someone else). But it is something that most of us do grow into, and some of us even happily so. You would too, if circumstances dictated it.

But the hardest thing of all is to guard against losing the self-identity. I don't know how common this is but over the years I slowly began to think of myself as someone's wife and someone's mother. And when it all went away (divorce and loss of custody of my youngest), I found myself with a huge internal void that is difficult to fill. It is hard for me now to rediscover who I am and to reacquire the skills I need to pick up where I left off 25 years ago. Like I said this may not happen to every woman but it happened to me and if I could redo my life, I would have kept working. I think my boys would have been just as well-adjusted.


I by no means meant that I would be better than all women either, but my ex wife set the bar rather low.

OK .. I misunderstood. I had a sister-in-law like that. She ended up abandoning her kids.

[Danni Renee]

Kim, YOU ARE SO ON IT and I agree completely! That is yet another one of the special things about my SO. She home schooled her eldest daughter who earned a scholarship to college and is home schooling her son too as well as taking care of the house. And if that is not enough, she went back to college herself and is a full time college student, she will complete her Sophmore year in about 3 weeks working on her education degree with an emphasis in Math. She is the epitome of woman to me, and I make sure I tell her every day.

[TxKimberly]

It's not drivel and I agree, it wasn't easy at least in the beginning (I had to adjust from having a rewarding and well paying career to becoming financially dependent on someone else). But it is something that most of us do grow into, and some of us even happily so. You would too, if circumstances dictated it.

But the hardest thing of all is to guard against losing the self-identity. I don't know how common this is but over the years I slowly began to think of myself as someone's wife and someone's mother. . . .

All I can comment on is my own wifes experiences, but based on that, I'd say your purty normal Reine.

Here is the thing though - I go out and do my best for my company, working on the assumption that if I do well, so do they. If I am a decent human being, we can assume that this is a worth while goal. YOU on the other hand, devote time and effort to creating a decent human being. Do you really think that the two goals can be compared?! I make a living and an income. YOU make a human being. Can the two really be placed in the same category? I dont think so . . .
Some mothers ignore their children, letting the TV babysit and entertain them, and that is a shame. On the other hand, there is nothing in the world more significant and wonderful than a mother who is engaged with her children, teaches them, and encourages them. . .
If there was anything in the world that I would aspire to be, it would to be a good mother, one that encourages her children, that engages her children, and makes it exciting and interesting to learn.My God, what could possibly compare to this?

[Charise52]

I often think it would be fun to be a real GG... I would wear skirts and dresses all the time and put on makeup... now I have to be careful where and when I dress out...

[kynw08]

Actually the only thing I would change in my life if I could do the whole "snap my fingers" and be female tomorrow thing is.....dress differently? I would still be who I am, just express the feminine side of my life I have to hide now.

I'd probably still want to go to the police academy, I'd still fish/hunt/shoot/fly RC..... my own mother still does those. My attitude might change, but I am who I am.....not what my external experience does or doesn't match.