What Wuld You Do If............

[Danielle Gee]

Hi All:

Since joining a year or two ago, CD.com has become such an important part of my day that I can't imagine being without it. That simple fact got me to wondering....

What would I do if my Sweetie asked me ( or forbade me) from participating? :eek:
Would you respect her wishes?...Or would it cause an argument?...Would you sneak a peek when she wouldn't know? Or could you do without this web-site altogether?

Danielle:hugs:

[Jorja]

Tough call. We would most defiantly argue about it. I am sure I would be sneeking peeks now and then. I guess this is why I don't have an SO.

[VanessaVW]

There would certainly be a discussion or debate. I do live within her rules though.

[Cheryl T]

It would definitely be a discussion.
We don't order each other around and with my personality that just doesn't work. I don't respond well to orders. Luckily we haven't had that issue and she is also a member here.

[Pythos]

I would ask her her reasons. This is the 2000s, she and I got together with her knowing of this aspect of me. I lived with that kinda sexist nonsense when I lived with my mother, I sure as hell am not going to put up with it with my love, or SO.
I would want to know who or what put the idea in her head to choose to "put her foot down"

[NicoleScott]

I agree with Pythos. For what VALID reason should you quit coming here? This is not a porn site. It's a community, a support site for and by other crossdressers. There's nothing wrong with visiting this site. Sounds to me like the SO that doesn't want you to come here most likely has a problem with your crossdressing period, and thinks the cure is "out of sight, out of mind". Ask for a good reason, and reject the ones that aren't.
Plan B. Get a new Sweetie.

[Joanne f]

I could not see any logical reasons to stop altogether so i would debate that but if asked to cut down a bit on the amount of time spent on here then she may have a valid point .

[suchacutie]

It would open a larger discussion. This is really not an issue in our household sinces we often discuss threads or specific posts.

Looking to your situation, if that question arose, your next question might be, "what is the real issue?"

tina

[Laura-uk]

Easy to say from our side of the debate, however prevention is better than mitigation, I always browse the forums privately and cover my tracks. Ok so what if I was busted? With my SO it's mote likely the principle of masquerading my actions would be an issue bit still I'd rather conceal in secret than partake in spite of my SO's wishes if she didn't like me bring here. Delicate balance, this one!

[Danielle Gee]

I didn't mean to imply that my wife didn't want me visiting this site..........This was a "what if" question. Sorry for any confusion

Danielle

[Cynthia Anne]

If I had a SO and she told me that! It would be the beginning of world war three and I would win!

[ReineD]

I can understand a wife initially thinking this site might be a meet-up site for sex or sexual fantasies (since there are so many of those out there), but she'd soon see this place is anything but that if she ever became a member.

The simplest solution to your issue, should it happen, would be to insist your wife become a member as well. :)

[Eryn]

I am *very* happy that there is no way that situation might come up for me, as my wife is supportive and is a member here. She understands that the friends I have here are important to me and to my well-being. I think that the site has been beneficial to her as well.

[andrea69j]

Wow. That is a tough question. As I am uncertain of her true support (she says she accepts it, but I'm not certain), it would really be telling me that she didn't want me cross-dressing anymore. That would be a tough promise, as we know from the purge and acquire cycles we have gone through. We'd really have to talk about why.