Your first time out en femme.

[cdona20]

So I went out for the first time en femme yesterday! I went to the supermarket. I was really nervous about being able to pass. However, no one stared and I got called miss by some of the workers. All was going well until I was walking to my car and some guy approached me to ask for directions. I put a hand over my throat to signify I was mute. Got to work on the voice.

So, tell me about your first time out dressed.

[Debra Russell]

It's always the voice ! Just smile and sound pleasent. My first time out was a real ego booster -- no problem, fun all that -- but the second time I got glared at by a restaurant cashier fumbled my purse, dropped my fruit salad all over the floor and basically stumbled all over the place while all the while the waitress was saying thats all right sweety I'll get you another one besides all this my wife was with me -- the first and only time!! Now on the other hand that was the worst but looking back on it I got a good laugh and I have had a ball ever since ..... Debra

[KINGFISHER]

My first time out was only a couple of weeks ago and it went so well I have had two mor trips I loved it so much. Like you I was nervous but after passing a couple of people who never seemed to notice me my confidence grew and on I went. In fact that first trip round a town centre and into several womens clothes shops it was as if I was invisible. Well a funny thing happened on my last trip to a huge shopping mall in Milton Keynes, thats England. As I returned to the car park I had to pass through an outdoor market, which was closed, but there were two black guys repairing the shutters on one and one of them was facing me and looked up and his face was a picture as he gradually realised what he was seeing. so I remembered the advice from here and looked him straight in the eye and as I passed I just smiled at him and it did the trick he just smiled back. Then as I exited the stalls and headed through a gap to the car park there was a young couple 10ft apart talking and I had to pass right between them. Of course the young man looked at me and instantly saw i was a man dressed as a woman but I just didn't care and nothing happened. Which on reflection makes me realise you are better in a crowd because everyone is going about their business and they don't really notice each individual passing as there are so many but when people are alone they tend to notice someone passing more easily and thats why they look at you and sometimes notice something different. Well if that's all I get after passing hundreds if not thousands of people what's there to worry about. each time I go out I set a new goal to advance another step. The second time I went into a cafe for a drink. last time by necessity I went to the ladies loos. Each time it went well and of course boosts ones confidence.I can't do anything about the voice but decided I would not worry and just say the minimum I have to. So far it's not been a problem. I guess it's more about confidence than anything else though I think if you look good it helps. Good luck for your next trip. Daniel

[carhill2mn]

My "first time" was so long ago that I cannot even remember it! As to the voice, there are a number of things that you can do so that you do not sound like a "basso profundo". Listen to and observe women. Many have lower voices. A major difference is from where the voice originates. Typically, a woman's voice originates from higher up in the "voice box" and will thus be a bit softer will be less authoratative in tone, pitch, words, phrases. Some practice, a confident manner and a SMILE will go a long way in not being "outed" by your voice.

[Wendy_Marie]

I was eight the first time I went out of the house dressed...I faked beingsick and was allowed to stay home by myself for the first time ever and since I had longer blonde hair I wore a black headband to match the black patent shoes I had on. My sundress was a bright lime green color...which I had liberated from one of my sisters closets. I actually made a couple of trips out this day..the first was just to the edge of the yard. the second was down the block to the corner and back. The last one I walked several blocks to a city park to sit on the swings and for a few minutes I was simply a happy little girl.....before returning home.
If you ever get the chance to swing on a park swing in a sundress...do it.

[Janine cd]

My first time out en femme was a walk around the neighborhood dressed in sweater, femme jeans and femme boots.

[t-girlxsophie]

My first time out came just over 10 years ago,I attended a local support group.Crosslynx in Glasgow,Must have walked a rut in the Pavement outside before plucking up the courage to go in,once there I met the first people who ever saw me dressed who were warm and welcoming,after the meeting I joined them for a drink in the LGBT bar,I knew then I was going to be a regular at this event,and from there I progressed year on year gaining experience and confidence,and still I dont care how I sound I just go out and enjoy myself as best im able

Sophie

[StaceyJane]

My first time out was a drive around the neighborhood. It was the most exciting thing for me.

[docrobbysherry]

Going out dressed scared the bajeezes out me! Still does! However, I guess I'm getting used to being scared!

[Krista Doll]

My first time out was at a casino just walked down hall too ice machine and vending machines passed a couple of people but no notice I know of, then back to room. could not get up enough courage to go down too casino floor maybe next time! but that was a few years ago.

[Tasha McIntyre]

So, tell me about your first time out dressed.

My first time out was in early 2009 for a drive around the neighborhood. Things went so well that a few days later I visited a local coffee shop mid afternoon. The girl taking my order gave me that big smile, which resulted in my cappuccino being escorted to my table by three waitresses. One looked at me and said "no way" until I said thank you in my boy voice, which resulted in an excited OMG and a set of huge smiles.

Confidence growing, I then took the huge step of hitting the biggest shopping mall in the district.


no one stared and I got called miss by some of the workers.

Ummm, people did stare at me a bit, and I didn't get called miss :doh:. I did have a great time though, although I was extremely nervous and my heart rate was about 200. The SA's were polite and chatty and generally did not show the slightest bit of concern. All in all such a wonderful experience that I was hooked and have been a frequent out and abouter ever since.

Tash :)

[Cynthia Anne]

I've had so many first times that I really don't remember which one was first!

[MargaretJ]

Not my first time out, but my first time out in Edinburgh at night, and I was stopped by two older ladies asking for directions. I knew exactly how to direct them, but I didn't know whether to talk to them in my normal voice, or fake a female voice. I ended up pointing a lot in the general direction, and probably looking like a moron. One of the ladies said something along the lines of "no then" and said thanks.

[Nikki A.]

I don't count going out dressed to CD nights at GLT clubs as going out. My first time out in a mixed crowd was a lesbian wedding ceremony and I had a great time with all the people there (gay & straight). My next time out was a three day weekend in Denver. We went shopping, to restaurants (even an IHOP). Thanks to two wonderful friends there, I had a great time and felt no nervousness. My one friend who knew it was a first time for me was surprised that she didn't have to pull me out kicking and screaming. Although I have to admit I was a bit nervous checking in to the hotel with my nails & toes painted (we had mani & pedis before we got to the hotel, LOVED it) but otherwise in drab. After I checked in, I was Nikki the rest of the weekend, including trips to the lobby the front desk.

[Cheryl T]

The first time my so and I went out it was 2AM and we rode around in our car. We were so scared. That was 7 years ago and I laugh when I think about it. We go out anyplace now. Just relax and the more you get out the more you will see people don't care much. They are just doing their own thing.

[Crafty]

As Cheryl's SO I look back too on our first outing and laugh at how nervous I was. Now we just go anywhere and never worry about it.

[Crafty]

As Cheryl's SO it was funny looking back. Now we just enjoy ourselves and go anywhere together.

[maddy madison]

My first timeout is when I was around 16 or so. I just got off of work around 10pm an drove to walkway with all my clothes and wig and shoes in my backpack. I got changed in the back seat of my car scared to death someone mite end up seeing me. But after I got all dressed up check my wig over in the rearview mirror, stepped out of the car and walked in walmart and went straight to the womens bathroom. Sat in the stall for a few minutes to gather my thoughts of what I just did. Left the stall an fixed my wig made sure my socks werelooking good in my bra then walked back to my car and changed back to my male clothes. I'll never forget the rush I got from that and wish I had the courage to do it again.

[AddyCD]

I just got back from my first shopping trip en femme. I had been out in semi dress before but never with the works (makeup, forms, etc). I enjoyed it and can't wait to go again.

[Stephanie47]

I guess I have to qualify my answer. I'm ruling out Halloween. I'm ruling out driving at night in my car. Thinking back I must have been just plain stupid or daring. I was in my thirties. While my wife was asleep at night I dressed in my children's bathroom. I wore a long sleeve red knee length dress, red heels (not too tall), nude stockings, slip, bra, a blond wig, the works. I did my makeup. I slipped out of the house, rolled my car down the driveway, and went for a drive. I parked the car near a fairly busy street and walked through the neighborhood. I decided to walk down the main avenue with the traffic. I got several toots on the horn. Back then I was thin and the darkness must have been helpful.

I did more of that secretive dressing and driving. For the life of me, I think back and wonder if my wife ever realized I was gone. She's a sound sleeper, but, really! And, my kids never woke up. I always took a 'man bag' with me, so I could change before coming back into the house.

I think I may have been a risk taker for reasons not discussed here. What would have happened if one of those horn honkers stopped? Or an accident? Now I am retired and chicken. Go figure!

[erica12b]

never have , but if i do ill post it here ,lol

[Lexine]

My first time was at an In-and-Out Burger Drive-Thru. My voice wasn't perfect at the time, so I was super nervous. Nonetheless, I got my food, drove off, and they got everything right. Who'd have thunk it? :D

[Juanita O]

My first time out dressed I went to the Gateway mall in Salt Lake City, went into the food court and had something to eat, then I went to a Tri Ess meeting. i enjoyed the experience and I have gone out dressed 2 more time since then

[Joanne Curl]

My first time out in public was at a casino in Las Vegas. I walked down the hall from my room to the ice machine and back. After my heart rate returned to normal and I got over the intial fright, I took the elevator down to casino, walked to the lobby and then back to my room. I survived! After that I went to Contessa's Closet in Studio City, CA for a makeover. I showed up in drab and Contessa immediately put me at ease and called me by my femme name. It was the first time anyone called me Joanne. She was so supportive and insisted that I go out to dinner with her and another girl. That broke the ice. She even helped me check into a hotel, en femme, and encouraged me to be out. That was 6 or 7 years ago. Since then I've been out numerous times and done all the things a woman would do -movies, shopping, dinner, you name it. I don't get to dress as Joanne as often as I'd like but when I do I'm pretty comfortable and I owe it all to Contessa.