Need to ask. When enfem, do you chase men.

[Pythos]

Sorry, that is a horrible title.

Let me clarify.

I have read that many here consider themselves heterosexual. But this can be amorphous with our little group.

When you are in drab, and you like women, then you are Heterosexual.

But, I have seen confusion when it comes to when enfem. I have seen people say they are heterosexual, but they are dating men.

Now, that confuses me. Soooo. Here is the question.

If you are a male to female CD, Do you stick to women? :)

Guh another horribly worded sentence :P

I myself like women. So I guess when enfem I can be considered lesbian. When enfem I find myself MORE attracted to women.

[Violetgray]

It depends on the motivation more than the act. If you are dating men because doing so makes you feel like more of a woman, well, that's kinda selfish and not fair to him but it doesn't necessarily mean you are bi. But if you are doing it because you are actually attracted to that guy, and you are also attracted to women, then you are bi.

The presence of a skirt and heels has no bearing on something as hard-wired as sexuality.

[Debra Russell]

I am completly straight but being dresses I have imagined how nice it would be to be escorted by a male -- not sexually attracted by them at all !!

[Mikaela]

When I'm femme at the club, I don't even want to associate with men because I don't want to have those conversations with the inevitable sexual subtexts. Then again, those men are at that club for a reason, they are chasers 9/10. I don't want their attention in any capacity.

Because of that, when I go through the mental transition, I wouldn't say Pink Fog for me, I don't become a 'lesbian', I become asexual.

[Noortje]

When I'm dressed, my interest is with myself, so I'm pretty much asexual at that time. I could never be attracted to so style-less a creature as a man. I think my general dislike of the male form (including myself) as contrasted with the female form is one of the reasons I crossdress.

[Cynthia Anne]

Why would I chase men! I'M A WOMENS WOMAN!

[Nisha]

I am straight and attracted to women and women only. When I am dressed, I am not attracted to men in any way. However I have a secret desire to be on a date and be treated like a woman. I guess that would be only with a man for a real experience.

Then again, if I am with another woman, I might look like a close friend or even a lesbian.

In ideal circumstances, I could be dating a FTM. Now that would be perfect middle ground.

- Nisha.

[Prissy Linda]

No, I don't chase men, they chase me :p

[Sarah Doepner]

When I'm dressed en femme not interested in men, except that they treat me properly. The full extent of that is I don't get overcharged for my drinks, they don't spill soup in my lap or they offer to hold the door on the elevator for me. They are less important than the people I'm with who are usually other CD's or my wife. She is the only one I have in my sights for anything romantic.

[sissystephanie]

I was born a man, and since I have not had the required surgery I am still a man. No matter what I am wearing, underneath the clothes is a totally heterosexual man! Always have been, and always will. I loved my late wife(Always will) and I love my girlfriend! I can never really have her because she is married (and her husband is a very nice man!), but I still love her and she knows it!! Men interest me only as friends, and that will always be the case!

[Kate Simmons]

Don't have to Hon. When I'm en femme they chase me.:)

[Loni]

NO.

for a relationship it is only natural born woman for me. does not mater how i am dressed as when the door closes there are only birthday suits.

now if just being escorted to a place/event maybe. but he would know NOTHING is going to happen not even a peck on the cheek for a goodnight.


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[LilSissyStevie]

It's complicated.:straightface:

[Jessica Who]

Yes I like women regardless of how I am feeling or how I am dressed. However, I do respect the fact that others may require the companionship of a man when they are feeling like a woman. To each their own I say.

[Mistybtm]

I am bi and i do find myself wanting a man more when i am dressed, when i am not dressed i am more into woman. I am dressed more than i am not.

[Vickie_CDTV]

My sexuality doesn't change whether I am dressed or not, so it is women only for me.

In terms of traditional gender role, I would generally prefer to be the "woman", and her to be the "man"; that is, her be the "dominant" partner and me the more "passive" one (on a date, I am the one on her arm, etc.)

[NicoleScott]

No. Completely straight. But sometimes a little attention is flattering. As for dating (which could mean almost anything), I have fantasized about being escorted by a gentleman on a date, just for the security and attention, never for anything physical. But I never did, and I'm sure I never will.
One thing I have thought a lot about is having a friend, also a cd, who I could hang out with as guys, take turns being the girl on a date, or going out together both en femme. No such person, though ..sigh...

[Jamie48]

No, I am not into men dressed or not.

[Kathi Lake]

Ummm, ew.

No, I am attracted to women - my wife, specifically - no matter how I'm dressed. A simple piece of cloth or a bit of paint is not going to change anything so integral to your self as sexuality. Those that think it might may be simply allowing themselves to feel the way they want to, but societal pressures get in the way normally. In other words, there is no such thing as 'situational sexuality.'

Kathi

[joannemarie barker]

I'm attracted to all sorts of people :) I find women and men sexy no matter how I'm dressed or how they are for that matter.if I went out enfemme I probably would be more interested in the men :)

[BRANDYJ]

Add me to the list that Is attracted to women regardless of how I am dressed. Sure, like many, I might have had a few fantasies about men while dressed. But the simple fact is I am not attracted to men at all. Like most fantasies, they are better left as passing fantasy. But those rare times when the pink fog is the thickest, those fantasies might crop up. But again, it's a mere fantasy. The strange thing is, when I am around my SO, is when I want to dress the most. It is my attraction to her that ignites my desire to be feminine. With her having to live 1,200 miles away right now, you might say the pink fog just isn't there for me. My dressing is infreaquent and not as good as when I am with her and she asks for me to dress for her. Dress for a man? No way, no how and never.

[TGMarla]

I don't chase anyone, dressed or not. I'm married, and happily so.

[RachelOKC]

I'm bi-bi, baby, and damn proud of it.

I won't get into the "it's complicated" details of how my sexuality works, but for me it's enough to acknowledge that if at times I like females and at times I like males - then I am bi. It's just so much easier that way then constructing some justification.

Bi Bi!

[Jill Devine]

Nope. Not into guys, regardless of how I'm dressed.

[Tina B.]

Question: Need to ask. When enfem, do you chase men. answer: No!
Tina B.

[Barbara Dugan]

I am only into guys...Sometimes I chase guys:o''The Cute Stocky ones""sometimes they chase me.. some Cd's are into guys exclusively while en femme....The most common in my opinion are the ones that are exclusively into other Cd's or gg's.
My Therapist thinks I am heterosexual''Theme to debate'' because my emotional feelings towards guys while en femme ... I got those same feelings even on drab it's just that the emotional connection is a lot more stronger and fulfilling while en femme.Sometimes I think It would be a lot easier be just a regular gay guy but I don't think I can be just that

[sandra-leigh]

Reminds me about the saying about a dog being so old (or so stupid) that he wouldn't know what to do if he caught the rabit/ cat/ car he keeps chasing.

I have (on a small number of occasions) been approached by men (one gay, one bi). Being approached by the gay one merely amused me; being approached by the other one was a bit frightening because he was so drunk and indiscriminate that he was obviously dangerous.

One time a guy suggested I sit down and talk to him. I was in a safe club so I knew I wouldn't get any trouble from him, and I knew from the context that he was fairly likely gay. I figured that I didn't have anything to gain from being "stand-offish". He didn't try to hit on me, but he did ask me to show him more leg, and for what-ever reason I did that. I was a bit nervous because I didn't know what he was expecting from me.

Not knowing what the other person is expecting of me makes me nervous. The gay fellow I mentioned first was quite upfront (and not at all crude), so I felt comfortable with the situation; a polite no-thanks was all it took, and then I bored him with discussion of the difficulty of being a cross-dresser ;-) But when I feel like there is an undercurrent of being "led towards something" or that (e.g.,) a person is going to expect something of me in return for buying me a drink, or that the person is "putting in the time", biding their time with the anticipation that I'll go with them afterwards... the uncertainty does not make me feel good at all.

On occasion, I have had men (who likely "read" me) compliment me about "looking beautiful" or some such thing -- compliment me like a man compliments a woman, with respect. And I have to admit that when that happens, a shiver runs through me and turns me to goo for a few seconds. It isn't a feeling that I can rationalize, but I can imagine that a person could easily get addicted to that feeling.

I do not set out to attract men, and not many are attracted to me -- but those brief occasions when a man looks and me and sees the woman in me and responds with a spontaneous compliment or a smile of pleasure... I'm not about to turn those down any time soon.

[AKAMichelle]

i never chase men, but lots of women.

[MsJanessa]

no but they chase Me--lol

[Fab Karen]

It depends on the motivation more than the act. If you are dating men because doing so makes you feel like more of a woman, well, that's kinda selfish and not fair to him but it doesn't necessarily mean you are bi. But if you are doing it because you are actually attracted to that guy, and you are also attracted to women, then you are bi.

The presence of a skirt and heels has no bearing on something as hard-wired as sexuality.
Yes, though if you're attracted to people you find attractive, regardless of the gender/gender-identity, you're pansexual ( nothing to do with kitchen utensils ).

[Debglam]

I think that these posts are proof that gender is gender and sexual orientation is sexual orientation and one doesn't equal the other!

For me, I am attracted to women whether I am dressed or not but none more so than my wife! :)

To Each Their Own!

Deb

[christinac]

Sorry, that is a horrible title.

Let me clarify.

I have read that many here consider themselves heterosexual. But this can be amorphous with our little group.

When you are in drab, and you like women, then you are Heterosexual.

But, I have seen confusion when it comes to when enfem. I have seen people say they are heterosexual, but they are dating men.

Now, that confuses me. Soooo. Here is the question.

If you are a male to female CD, Do you stick to women? :)

Guh another horribly worded sentence :P

I myself like women. So I guess when enfem I can be considered lesbian. When enfem I find myself MORE attracted to women.

That is a question that I have struggled with myself in another but similar way. I am a woman trapped in a man's body. I've been cursed with something that should be something else, not excluding several other issues. I fall in love with a great man. Does that make me heterosexual or homosexual?

[docrobbysherry]

Some guys r "intrigued" with Sherry! I'm straight, so fortunately when I was out in Vegas by myself, Sherry scared the CRAP out of most of men the she met!:eek:

However, I DO have this fantasy of being out and about as Sherry, escorted by a doting, sexy, handsome guy who is ACTUALLY a well crossdressed female!:o

[katrinakat]

SO TRUE!! When en FEMME it just makes sense! lol
I'm bi-bi, baby, and damn proud of it.

I won't get into the "it's complicated" details of how my sexuality works, but for me it's enough to acknowledge that if at times I like females and at times I like males - then I am bi. It's just so much easier that way then constructing some justification.

Bi Bi!

[Pythos]

On the topic of compliments. I LOVE COMPLIMENTS, especially when I am fully decked out. Be it men or women. Love it love it love it.

Did I mention that I love it?

LOL

[UNDERDRESSER]

As the responses indicate, the answer can be complicated, and cover a wide spectrum. I kinda guessed that would be the case. I know a guy who once told me " I'm a Lesbian in a man's body " I wish now that I had followed up on that and asked exactly how that manifested. I have never fully dressed, but would like to try it, and if I thought I could pass, would like to go out. If a guy hit on me, thinking that I was female, I would be thrilled, as it would indicate that I had reached some measure of "beautiful". But no, I wouldn't chase men, or try to actually attract attention other than my presentation. If I made friends with someone that knew I was dressing, and he still wanted to go out for a platonic date, I would consider that. As far as any physical aspect of the "date" no, no interest, curiosity or anything else.

[Areyan]

if you even slightly disagree with your therapist's theory that you are heterosexual then you have your answer. you're gay. and a MTF cd, that's all there is to it.

[cassandra.932]

My view is whether enfemme or not, I am still a male heterosexual, and I like women. What clothes I wear does not change me physically and even emotionally. Therefore, I do not chase guys and I do not consider myself a lesbian.

[Sophie_C]

This is one of those questions that will forever resurface. If you look at most people's answers, it's always a bit loaded, either because a Wife or GF is or could be reading this, or people don't want to directly face the question itself. It's sort of like how the person who makes the biggest point about being heterosexual tends to be overcompensating for something, you know? If you look in the longer thread, I took the net result that many people had fantasies, but few faced them. And, of the few that faced them, many times it didn't turn out as great as they would have imagined. As for me, it's always complicated, being fully in the closet and all.

I imagine if I was not, I'd be more like Barbara, but who knows?

[seanmuscle]

I am only into guys...Sometimes I chase guys:o''The Cute Stocky ones""sometimes they chase me.. some Cd's are into guys exclusively while en femme....The most common in my opinion are the ones that are exclusively into other Cd's or gg's.
My Therapist thinks I am heterosexual''Theme to debate'' because my emotional feelings towards guys while en femme ... I got those same feelings even on drab it's just that the emotional connection is a lot more stronger and fulfilling while en femme.Sometimes I think It would be a lot easier be just a regular gay guy but I don't think I can be just that

There is no safer and feminine feeling than being in the arms of a strong caring man who worships you

[CharleneT]

I chase men, regardless of whether I'm dressed or not .... it seems to work better in the nude!! LOL !!

[NathalieX66]

Nope.
I go out to public places to be me.
I've had my share of advances from guys. ....roaming hands too! They get fixated on my high heels or stockings, or something, and think I'm something special. I'm all for being eye candy, which I live for, but I'm too attracted to women. This is one of these situations where I wish I was gay, it would just cut down on the bullsh*t.

[Barbara Dugan]

if you even slightly disagree with your therapist's theory that you are heterosexual then you have your answer. you're gay. and a MTF cd, that's all there is to it.

I have no problem with that.. its the way I always define myself....but is dificult to find someone that truly accept this duality...is always one side that they get interested

[Robyn2006]

Funny how many of us are "straight." Seems so strange, as the very act of transforming for me goes to the bone. In everyday life, women drive me nuts like any other guy, but when in femme mode, all changes and I long for what any women would, with men going to the fore. It's can be quite complexing! I can actually blink between these two worlds within any given moment, with both being who I am. Guess I've taken bisexuality to its limits… But to answer the question of this posting, when I'm Robyn, I'm completely for the guys!

Blink between the two lovers below… I'm both! :battingeyelashes:
Robyn

[Barbara Dugan]

There is no safer and feminine feeling than being in the arms of a strong caring man who worships you

I won't disagree on this statement

[Xandra]

I am attracted to women and to crossdressers, though when dressed I tend to feel more asexual. My, this is a tricky subject!

[NathalieX66]

I won't disagree on this statement

You are the real deal. Hugs just the same, even if I'm a straight guy. Peace & love.

[t-girlxsophie]

You gotta be kidding,In these Heels:heehee:

Im very much a one woman,woman,she can chase me anytime
but I would say it is kinda flattering in a way if you get compliments
(even though the guide dog never looks as impressed lol)

Sophie

[VioletJourney]

I'd be lying if I said that in my female state of mind I wasn't a little bit interested in guys. But I usually snap out of it when I remember how selfish and untrustworthy the average man is; I'd just want to experience the female side of the relationship once, but nothing sexual.

[britney_me]

En fem, I am a woman's woman...and so am a Lesbian however..en fem, i also often fantasize to be with a transsexual woman but she has to be highly passable.

[Diane Smith]

I am only sexually attracted to women, regardless of what I'm wearing. In fact, I'm kind of freaked out by most of the trappings of "masculinity" and think the idea of being with a guy is kind of creepy.

I'm also way too old and stiff, and my heels are far too high to "chase" anyone!

- Diane

[danielletorresani]

Though I'm heterosexual, I definitely get turned on thinking that a guy sees me as a sex object. Or anyone for that matter. Male or female, if anyone sees me as a sex object, that gets me going.

[TracyBoy]

I am bi and i do find myself wanting a man more when i am dressed, when i am not dressed i am more into woman. I am dressed more than i am not.

I guess I'm like you. Being bi, I like guys when in girl mode. But I like guys if they're feminine looking no matter how I'm dressed.

[billie earls]

The only times I'm attracted to men is when I'm wearing my girls clothes, so I guess that makes me bi.

[Lexine]

Nope. I'm a lesbian. The only time I try to "get" men is to get free drinks.

[BiancaEstrella]

I am straight and attracted to women and women only. When I am dressed, I am not attracted to men in any way.

this...


The presence of a skirt and heels has no bearing on something as hard-wired as sexuality.

...and this.

Can't imagine it.

[thechic]

I dont think im into men,but i do fantasize being with a man as a woman .I do love being complemented by men.

[Maria 60]

When dressed in fem and driving for some reason i look for the attention of a man in a van or truck, almost seeing if i pass as a woman. I don't want a relationship with a man, i just want the attention woman get. I don't go driving or even out as much ever since the camera phones and everyone has a camera with them. I don't want to end up on facebook or utube. Witch is a shame because i like the feeling of being outdoors dressed.

[Rogina B]

The only man I want to chase is Seanmuscle..He has such development between his ears...perhaps I could be his prize catch,but he is off chasing Barbara..such a manly man!

[JustineFallow]

Women only whether I'm dressed or not. I have been hit on by men while dressed and I always appreciate the compliment, but that's as far as it goes.


There is no safer and feminine feeling than being in the arms of a strong caring man who worships you

How on earth would you know this? Personal experience?

[suchacutie]

It's women for me, regardless of the presentation, and specifically the one women who I've been with for almost 40 years!
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[Vickie_CDTV]

There is no safer and feminine feeling than being in the arms of a strong caring man who worships you

I think there is no safer feeling than being in the arms of a strong, loving woman (whom I worship.)

[PretzelGirl]

I think this shows yet another failing in our language. One person says they love women so they are straight, heterosexual. Another says they love women so they are lesbian. So you have to be more specific to get the point across properly since our world is such a blur.

For me, it is only women. I don't want to be touched by a man, don't want to be hunted by a man. Common courtesy and great conversations are awesome any time of the week.

[Kate Lynn]

No,I have no interest in men,besides I think if I did that my wife would beat the snot out of me. :censor:

[Janice Lester]

Bi, Bi baby. When in heels and a tight skirt I don't think of women or for that matter tv's as anything but companions and/or competition. But when dressed as a man its generally the opposite, but it is more fluid.

Yesterday I was shopping in my normal male guise and ran into a woman that I found extremely attractive she was wearing jeans a tshirt and 3" or higher heels. What attracted me so much was she was tall enough in the heels to be eye to eye with me so she was probably 5'8'' or 9". She was generally attractive but with the heels and her height wow!

Then I noticed she was with someone, husband I think and he was about the same height as her in jeans a biker jacket and tshirt as well. And oh was he handsome mentally I flashed to wanting to be in her shoes lol. I'm not transgendered I'm a tv so I suppose he might not have liked the switch so much but then maybe he wouldn't have noticed given the activity I had in mind....

My point is that had I only seen her I would have been mentally fixated on her and her physical attractiveness to me. In fact if I had been alone (I was with a female friend) I might have asked her out after checking for a ring of course. Had I only seen him I'm not sure I would have found him as attractive. I think she triggered a desire to be dressed and that in turn triggered a desire for him. Being attracted to a woman doesn't always make me want to dress but for whatever reason this time it did.

So in answer to the OP yes!

[rocketscientist]

Well, with respect to everyone else here, regardless of your preference, Tone Loc said it best for me;

"I went up to this girl, she said, Hi, my name is Sheena
I thought she'd be good to go with a little Funky Cold Medina
She said, I'd like a drink, I said, Ehm - ok, I'll go get it
Then a couple sips she cold licked her lips, and I knew that she was with it
So I took her to my crib, and everything went well as planned
But when she got undressed, it was a big old mess, Sheena was a man
So I threw him out, I don't fool around with no Oscar Meyer wiener
You must be sure that the girl is pure for the Funky Cold Medina

You know, ain't no plans with a man
This is the 80's, and I'm down with the ladies
Ya know?

Well, except for the line about being the 80's anyway. I always find myself checking out the girls no matter how I'm dressed. I find it a bit strange and funny when I'm enfemme and feel like whistling or catcalling when I see an incredibly gorgeous girl. I guess if you look at it that way, I am a dyed in the wool lesbian!:doh: Ain't no plans with a man. Hugs, Tonya:battingeyelashes:

[TxKimberly]

Only if he swiped a dress that I wanted off of the rack right in front of me. . . .

[BRANDYJ]

Yes, I chase men whether I'm in fem or not. That is, I chase them away from the woman I love. Don't understand why even GG's are attracted to men! lol

[Prissy Linda]

Only if he swiped a dress that I wanted off of the rack right in front of me. . . .

Now that's funny, now I have this visual in my mind, lol.

[Frédérique]

When enfem, do you chase men.

En femme…:waiting:

I do not chase men. Since I’m trying to get away from my own male-ness, why on Earth would I go out and chase men? For those who believe transvestites dress up to attract men, I’m here to present an alternative to that tired old chestnut, OK? Frankly, I wouldn’t trust a man who would prefer a transvestite, but you meet all kinds – a “passing” fancy, perhaps?


If you are a male to female CD, Do you stick to women?

I am a male-to-female CD, and, try as I may, I have not been able to “stick” to women. I mean, I keep falling off! Maybe duct tape would work…
:heehee:

[tammy tee]

I love to chase men. I consider myself a woman and want the total affect. I have been attracted to the complete role of a woman from my earliest age. As others have said, no need to "chase" men, they make it easy.
Tammy

[bridget jones]

I never really think about it until I'm enfemme then I think about being with a man and pleasing that man I will. I want to be submissive.

[Monica93304]

I get hit on by both, been with women most of my life... but now, i'm most interested in men. Eventually I want my partner to be a man with maturity. It's so nice to be treated as a lady.

[ClevelandOHCD]

I imagine the courting process... But only to a point.

Now... If all men were in drag, well that'd be a whole different can of worms. lol

-Emily

[LoriAnn_CD]

I have never chased a man. However, I have attended a couple of weddings en femme and love the feeling of being held close tight by a man. I don't know if I could ever let it go beyond that?!?!?!?

[Dr.Susan]

Since I have never been out I haven't been chased by a man in person but on one of the social networking sites I been hit on many times. They all know I am married and not interested but it does not stop them. I have even been proposed to and asked if I wanted to leave my wife. I politely tell them no and remind them that I am not a woman I just look like one on occasion. I will say I appreciate a complement on my presentation. It allows me know if I'm getting it right.

[Lori B]

Only if he swiped a dress that I wanted off of the rack right in front of me. . . .

lol..................................:p

[Michelle42]

I agree with most posters ... I love compliments from both men and women when I'm en femme. Although I don't find men very attractive, I love being hit on by a handsome man. It is probably a part of being a cross-dresser. Not sure if I'd enjoy the real thing so much though ...

My experiences with men are limited to one CD. It wasn't bad, but I had hoped for better. I guess the problem was that you won't be treated like a woman by another woman. :-| So, I need to find the right guy for the experiment ... :)

[Brynn_A]

Hi everyone!

Yeah, I do like the guys. I won't chase them..but I will walk really slow so they can catch me.

[Jessica S]

I am only attracted to women, my wife in particular, either drab or dressed. When dressed I tend to try and chase my wife more. It seems more exciting for me, but sometimes it just selfish on my part.

[TracyBoy]

I have never chased a man. However, I have attended a couple of weddings en femme and love the feeling of being held close tight by a man. I don't know if I could ever let it go beyond that?!?!?!?

I see more question marks than exclamation points! Maybe deep down you want to??..

[giuseppina]

...
If you are a male to female CD, Do you stick to women? :) ...


Absolutely. No offence intended to anyone, but males are not attractive for romance to this CD.

[sarac]

Hi, as I usually say when i do reply im still kina new here. I see all the responses to this queation and I read most all of your topics and muxst say most all have been really so helpful. NOW before everyone jumps on me i am only giving what i feel is my honest opinion. I think a lot of you married girls that have their SO read what they post may not be as truthful as they may want to be. Is it ok when enfem to have a woman chase them or for them to chase woman, as so many say they dress up and go to clubs and then don't want a guys attention? I see so many of you are so fabulous and sexy and dress to be so sexy in maybe short skirt and spiked heels and then say I hate the attention?? When you dress like that and go to a club did you honestly think no one would look or coment on how sexy you are? I find to go out with a guy have a drink or go dancing is so nice. I feel the attention they give us is nothing but a compliment on how you woman all look and carry yourself. I actually even think if your SO was paid a compliment when shes out she would feel good by it as well. In fact Id love to hear from SO that say if they do appreciate a nice compliment? I think and again its what I THINK if we were talking and it is just US GIRLS only the reponses may be different. Anyway i find it is interesting and you all look fabulous.
Thank you............ Sarac

[Nancie64]

Heavens NO!!! I like the look and feel when dressed, and love the company of my SO and sometimes her sister will tag along. Both are supportive of my dressing and help to make sure Nancie looks proper. And acts proper.

[Marcia Polari]

I chase neither men nor women when en femme. But they chase me and I like it as a compliment although I never reached to the real thing yet.

[sweetjan]

I crossdress because I love to wear womans clothes. I am very happily married and have no desire at all to want any other relationship. I have never wanted to date another male nor ever will. I am lucky to have a wife who excepts me for who I am.

[Geri1]

When I am dressed the men chase me, but I would rather a CD chase than them

[putter288]

I am bi sexual and when dressed enjoy the company of men
I would think it has more to do with you as a person than as a cross dresser if this makes sense.
being as cross dresser will not make a straight person bi sexual you either are or aren't clothes will not change that IMHP
Allison

[Karen_Ski]

I have always been attracted to the male of the species, especially when dressed. I do not cchase men, a lady would never do that! I prefer to let them chase me until I catch them.

[karinels]

I am single, and probably for a reason. I am curious as to how it would feel to be treated as a lady by a handsome man. My curiosity does go into the sexual spectrum, and I do hope that I have the opportunity to find out how I react if the situation ever arises, good or bad.

[Tracii G]

I'm bi I guess I do love women but there is ONE guy that I am totally hot for.I would never tell him or act on it because he is straight and a close friend.
Wouldn't want to ruin our friendship.One day I hope to come out to this group of friends and have them accept this side of me then maybe act on that feeling.
He is soo handsome and a very sweet guy.Single too.

[joannemarie barker]

I'm bi I guess I do love women but there is ONE guy that I am totally hot for.I would never tell him or act on it because he is straight and a close friend.
Wouldn't want to ruin our friendship.One day I hope to come out to this group of friends and have them accept this side of me then maybe act on that feeling.
He is soo handsome and a very sweet guy.Single too.


I know that feeling.I have an enormous crush on a male friend and I really have to try hard not to act on it,him being straight and all

[StevieTV]

I don't obviously chase men; however, I do like their attention and flirt with them. If it leads to more all the better.

[PrettyFlowingGown]

I dont chase men, but when I'm out dressed as a woman, and a nice, genuine, sober gentleman aproachs me and gives me nice gesture.....I am quite taken. For me, its a beautiful compliment.
I'm not attracted to men on a whole, but some guys I do find very attractive. I like shaven guys, and I enjoy dancing and kissing handsome guys too.
I've even been with a few sexually, but always as a woman.

[Pythos]

"I've even been with a few sexually, but always as a woman. "

This is a grand example of a major source of confusion.

So, your answer to the question is, you will take the attention of men, even sexually, despite the fact you are male. So in most eyes that would mean you are having a homosexual experience.

Then again, in your case you might be Bi. Not sure though.

[donnalee]

This reminds me of something I read a while ago. "A man chases a woman until she catches him."

[busker]

En femme…:waiting:

I do not chase men. Since I’m trying to get away from my own male-ness, why on Earth would I go out and chase men? For those who believe transvestites dress up to attract men, I’m here to present an alternative to that tired old chestnut, OK? Frankly, I wouldn’t trust a man who would prefer a transvestite, but you meet all kinds – a “passing” fancy, perhaps?



I am a male-to-female CD, and, try as I may, I have not been able to “stick” to women. I mean, I keep falling off! Maybe duct tape would work…
:heehee:
Frédérique, thanks for that. I made my day and gave me one helluva smile, and laugh.

[busker]

I dont chase men, but when I'm out dressed as a woman, and a nice, genuine, sober gentleman aproachs me and gives me nice gesture.....I am quite taken. For me, its a beautiful compliment.
I'm not attracted to men on a whole, but some guys I do find very attractive. I like shaven guys, and I enjoy dancing and kissing handsome guys too.
I've even been with a few sexually, but always as a woman.

PFG, it is NOT possible to spend time with another male as a woman no matter how passable you are--you can only spend time as MtF CD, unless you are a post-op TS can you make that claim, and some might dispute this on genetic terms. NO offense intended, just clarifying the interpretation. Mentally, you may be in a different gender space, but that still doesn't qualify you as a woman.

[Avana]

I'm sorry, but when I hear people say they like men to see them as a sex object when dressed up, that betrays a rampant misogyny IMO.


Ugh.

[Pythos]

Misogyny? How so? My understanding of misogyny is that it is the irational hatred of women.

I stated the original question incorectly. It should have been. Do you dress to attract the sexual attention of men. Are you dressing to attract men and have sexual relations with them?

"I am a male-to-female CD, and, try as I may, I have not been able to “stick” to women. I mean, I keep falling off! Maybe duct tape would work"
This reminds me of a Monty Python bit.

"well, I object to all this sex on the television. I mean, I keep fallin off!!!"

[Charise52]

For me, I am only attracted wo women, dressed or not... yet when dressed, I feel even more attracted to women... and if I reincarnated as a woman, I would probably be a lesbian...

[pantynhoseman]

I have to agree with Mistybtm. I too am bi and find myself wanting a man more when i am dressed, then when i am not dressed. i am more into woman when im not dressed.

[StarrOfDelite]

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To the question thus restated, I can answer with the old Philosophy exam catch-all, "Maybe."

I like to dress-up and go to places which single men, single women, and the occasional lonely TV/CD frequent , and since I like men there is always a possibility I might wind up having relations with one of them. But I don't do the M2F transformation's hours of shaving, creaming, plucking, wig-combing, making-up, outfit selecting and co-ordinating, et cetera, solely for that purpose. Quite often, I'll do the whole nine yards just so I can sit down in my own place with plate of hors d'oeuvres and a carafe of martinis to watch Sportscenter and NCIS. I think that somewhere inside me is a chord which resonates to the theme that I want to be beautiful and glamorous. If that attracts men, and if I find them interesting and sexy, that's a side benefit, but in the final analysis, the Glam approach is for Me.

On the other hand, sometimes I'll just put on a pair of blue jeans, a sweater, minimal jewelry, a girly jacket, a wig, minimal makeup, a pair of well worn Skechers, and go wandering around the city as a rather tall, skinny, androgynous shopper/browser If any man finds me sexy like that, God bless him.

p.s. Meant to say several times, I like the Treebeard reference from LotR.

[Suzette Muguet de Mai]

Only if they have taken off with my shifter or wrench.

[prene]

I dont think im into men,but i do fantasize being with a man as a woman .I do love being complemented by men.
My feelings exactly.