If you only could?

[Jordan]

If there was one thing that you could do with yourself what would it be?

Mine would be to transgender into a female and live my life as a woman

[Rianna Humble]

I would go back 40 odd years and do it right this time. Or perhaps not 'cos I don't know if I would still have the same level of empathy.

[sissystephanie]

The only thing that I would do is become very rich, so that I could help even more the various charities that I work with!! But I would still dress enfemme!!

[UNDERDRESSER]

If I was stinking rich, ( lottery is the only way that's happening now ) I would find a good transformation service, and see how convincing I could be as a woman, and see how it felt to go out dressed. i don't know how I feel about that...

I would also see about designing a new, sexier male wardrobe. I'd hire help for that too, my dress sense and artistic abilities are distinctly limited. While I'm doing all that, ( probably before all that ) I'd find myself a personal trainer to get in much better shape.

I'm not sure exactly how much of my CD urges are a need to feel sexier and more attractive, simply because males aren't expected, for the most part, to be as overtly sexy. That gets complicated, because I'm sure many women feel that a man in a sharp suit is sexy and attractive

[kimdl93]

way too many ifs. I'd probably follow Rianna back in time and do it right from the get go!

[BillieJoEllen]

Here! Here! Rianna and KIm!

[suzy1]

Yep, I am with Rianna too.
I just want to do it all over again. [But without that b***h of a wife this time]
Life is never perfect.

[Byron]

I'd simply dress how ever I desire, when ever I desire.

And I'll just throw in that the rest of society would just mind their own damn business. (Unfortunately I don't really have much control over that. ;) )

[billie earls]

I would never get married and have kids and I would come out as a crossdresser and do it openly.

[Kim_Bitzflick]

The thing about these type of questions is that it has two possibilities:

1. It may never be possible so we just fantasize (like time travel).

2. It can be - so why don't we just do it? Life is what you make it.

[Kathryn Philips]

I would overcome all the obstacles in the way and become a part-time woman, feminising myself as much as possible but retaining ability to be 100% passable as a male.

[VioletJourney]

I'd tell everyone everything, with such confidence that they can't help but respect me.

[Tess]

I would go back 40 odd years and do it right this time. Or perhaps not 'cos I don't know if I would still have the same level of empathy.

Oh Yeah! But 50 odd years in my case. On second thought maybe its better to leave well enough alone. There are too many decision that turned out well which I could screw up on a second try. And I've got two kids and four grandkids that I wouldn't want any other way than how they are now.

[jenben]

Hello Jordan,

Since it's all fantasy here, I would go back in my mothers womb, search around for the right combination of X's and Y's and make sure I come out a female.

Well, so much for biology and pro-creation. Since we live in the real world, I would have told my wife years ago hoping that she would understand. Not sure she would - or will if she ever finds out.

[sometimes_miss]

It's a tough call; one thing, probably wouldn't be enough to fix me. There was a lot of bad things going on when I was a kid, which all contributed to the mess my life became. I do know my cousins in one family all seem to have made out alright, and one of them now knows about me and my past (she's 7 years older than me, and was one of the ones that made my life bearable when growing up); so I'd have to say that I wish I could have grown up in that family instead of my own. Better parents and siblings DO make a difference.

[Emjay]

Hmmm...

Well, I would definitely have not stayed in a non working marriage as long as I did... But I couldn't do without my daughter.... She's like my best friend and we are very close, so any fantasy about starting over would have to start after that!

I do remember when my daughter was in kindergarten, she had a friend that had two moms... I didn't think much of it, they were both very nice people and we got along well with them. I've always been very accepting of people as they are. Though the taller of the two did kind of gravitate towards me whenever we would see them at a school function... Later my then wife asked the other one about their situation (yeah, she's nosy)... Turns out, the taller one was the girl's biological father and had decided that he wanted to have SRS and did! She was absolutely beautiful, and I always tried to talk to her more after that as she was kind of living my dream...

So.... If I could change anything about my past, I would have tried to be more open with her about myself and tried to get to know her more... Possibly just talk about my own personal feelings and go from there, become better friends if possible.. She really was (and is) kind of like a rockstar to me, she was living the life I wanted! I would have been more honest with myself about me and not spent so much of my life longing to be something I wasn't born to and just gone for it... :)

But, I'm here and this is now... I've finally decided that I want to explore this part of me and I absolutely am glad that I am!

~Autumn

[t-girlxsophie]

would have to met my wife 20 years earlier.we could have made up for the lost time that we never had together,I mean I was fitter 20 years ago for starters.problem with that is I wouldnt have married first time but I wouldnt have my son.I guess looking back leads to more questions than answers

[Darlene-VA]

Would have become a woman in my 20's when I finally realized that it would be the only way for me to be totally happy.

[Anna B]

I like to think I could have come out back in the 70's when I was at university - I used to fully dress when I was studying in my flat - but I would probably have been killed. The tolerances weren't there then. However, I have two sons, and a granddaughter now which I wouldn't change for the world. If I had done what I wanted in the 70's I wouldn't have them now.

Makes you think...

Anna x

[roberta c]

emm i think id come out to everyone and start my transgender.

[Jordan]

another thing I would love to have totaly is breast implants

[altoid71]

id be the martin luther king of crossdressing and make it acceptable for all after me......


other than that....id love breast implants.......

[Stockingstopgirl]

Have enough money to lead a live were I could drift out of being either sex. Have my own hairstylist and beautitian. Dress designer etc. And be totally never identified by my family and friends.

Dream on.

[Vivian Best]

Well, since I'm at the short end of my life span, if I could do it over again knowing what I know now I would do the following.

I know I would challenge my parents on my true feelings. When I was that age nothing was known about CDing, TGism and etc.

I would start hormones in my teen years.

And, would have SRS in late teens or early twenties.

Or, certainly live as a woman and not as a man with or without SRS.

[PretzelGirl]

If there was one thing that you could do with yourself what would it be?

Since your original question does not say if you could turn back time, then the question becomes, why aren't you doing it? And sometimes there are good reasons, but if you raise the question, at least think it through and give it good consideration.

[Tina P Hose]

As a CD , I would have accepted my desires, and maybe live comfotably with another cd. As a male more than likely would not have partied as much and embrassed love as it was offerd to me. Oh well !!!

[christina s]

While i did really enjoy what i did in weightlifting and powerlifting . I wish I didn't start for the sole reason i was trying to be "manly man " and just accepted myself.

[Phoebe P.]

I would have explained to my girlfriend (now wife) that we shouldn't have broken up for six years b/c I would have stayed in med school and would be a surgeon now. She was my support and purpose and when I lost her, I lost my desire to carry on with my education.

[pantynhoseman]

Mine would be going out in public and actually being able to pull it off. But alas, it will prolly never happen. :sad:

[Sara Jessica]

Answers to such questions about "would've, should've, could've" invariably demonstrate regret at different levels. Fact of the matter is that as we live our lives, we gain knowledge that had we had it at a younger age, our decisions then might have been different. It's called growing up folks and it's something we never stop doing as long as we live our lives with our eyes, hearts and minds open to the wonder around us.

That said, I find this reply to be particularly distressing...


I would never get married and have kids and I would come out as a crossdresser and do it openly.

Memo to Billie Earls, there's nothing stopping you from doing what you want right now but to suggest regret in this manner equates to erasing your children from ever having been born. I'm sure you didn't mean it to come out this way.

[SuzanneBender]

Answers to such questions about "would've, should've, could've" invariably demonstrate regret at different levels. Fact of the matter is that as we live our lives, we gain knowledge that had we had it at a younger age.

Sara so true. We all have regrets. We all have decisions to make that will be marked with some level of regret no matter the choice we make. Its always easy to second guess our lives. Its also easy to overlook the simple gifts that we have been given in our lives for what we consider a greener pasture.

If I could go back in time I would fall in love with the one special beautiful woman and have four wonderful children just like before. Sure maybe I would take all of that money I wasted and invest it in little companies like Apple, but for the most part I don't think I would change much from my past.

If I could have anything currently it would be to find away for those I love to love this part of me just like they love all the other parts of my silly quirky personality.

[Sophie86]

If there was one thing that you could do with yourself what would it be?

Mine would be to transgender into a female and live my life as a woman

Ummm... Just one thing? I have a laundry list: I would lengthen my legs by about three inches, shrink my waist by about six inches, and grow back all my hair. I would also do like Rianna, and time travel back to my youth so I could do this right. :)

[pink femme]

Try and explain more to my girlfriend what dressing up as a woman meant....this would mean that when she became my wife she would be understanding - but then she might not have been and we would never have had 2 wonderful children - who knows - i hate difficult questions when i'va had a drink

[Frédérique]

If there was one thing that you could do with yourself what would it be?

I know I can’t, but I wish I could be very young again and retain the knowledge I now have. I can think of many ways I would re-do things, even though the same familial constraints and influences would be in place. Oddly enough, I would still wish to be male, yet be more overtly (and openly) effeminate, even if this would entail being more secretive and/or reclusive for reasons of safety. When you grow up surrounded by a “jacket” of masculinity, you have little choice about behavior, since the “correct” characteristics have been chosen for you ahead of time. Just when I felt closest to my true self, I was pushed away towards an accepted ideal. So, I would wish to nip that in the bud before it all started, and affect a practical effeminacy – it’s more difficult as I get older, since the male is there, fully entrenched, trying to dominate the proceedings at all times…

[Loni]

go back into the body of that little 10 year old brat, so long as i can remember all that has happened in my life and then i can do it right/better.