something for you, something for me...

[Wendy me]

as you all know last sunday was my birthday and i wanted to step up my wifes accpence of my cding we got to (she knows already) i said i am a crossdresser and we need to talk .. she said i know we need to talk but latte... well ilove to shop (supprized?) well one thing i like almost as mutch as shopping for me is going shopping for my wife....(wheels turning thinking) she had been hinting that she wants to go to v.s. shopping.... (way cool love v.s.) so i said how abought sunday we go ?? she is yes ok lets do it ....know i would just love to go shopping for her and me together....so here's my new improved plan..... i going to tell her you can get anything you want ....but i would like to get something too.....so what do you all think??? good plan???

[Lauren_T]

Absotively, posilutely! :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

[Priscilla1018]

Go for it sis.

[JoAnnDallas]

especially if your paying.

JoAnn

[michellej]

A good idea. If my recent experience at V.S. here is any indication of their corporate thoughts, you will find it a very nice surprise! Good luck, and I bet you'll come home with more goodies than your wife.

[Phoebe Reece]

Good plan.

[Stephenie]

Sounds like it might work. Good luck.

[LucyLondon]

yup, definately a good plan!

I'm lucky, i go shopping with my wife often, and she picks up stuff for me as well as herself, we spend hours in the womans depts of shops!

[MsEva]

:D Good for you Weny..BTW..I am green with envy! I need some foundations badly...haven't made a purchase in a long time. Will have to think about getting some new panties and bras soon! :rolleyes:

[Jenny Beth]

Can't argue with that. What's good for the goose is good for.........the other goose. Good luck.

[Tamara Croft]

Good idea Wendy :thumbup: do you think she'd go for picking something for you herself??

[Tedi]

Humm.. let me think about this for a second. Ahhh... Yeah! good idea!
Anything to get along with your SO is a good thing.

[GypsyKaren]

Sounds like a plan to me. I believe in tit-for-tat, if she gets something I always treat myself in return.

GypsyKaren

[HaleyPink2000]

I'd do one more thing. If I may suggest one?

I would add a nice dinner and a few drinks with it.
Oh, and a nice wine for the time at home trying the new things on.

Love to you and yours.
Haley:)

[Wendy me]

ok then it's a plan ....lot better than the taaaaddddaaaaaaa thingy ....tamara you just never know........she might........

[Tedi]

BWT Wendy, Happy belated birthday!!!

[Lawren]

Do it to it, Hun. I hope things work out weel for you.

[Olivia]

You got it Wendy! Good plan girl. Love, O

[Di]

Sounds like a plan to me.....Have fun hugs Leta

[Wendy me]

up date today my wife and i went out for our shopping trip ...we went to v.s. got her some new bras so cute ..i was like omg i want one too but decided it would be her shopping trip...next we went to a few stores in the mall and bought her a few new outfits...while at the weather vain she picked out a veary cute pants suite that was to die for...i said i love that skirt on the rack in the window... she said it was cute we left without it....no biggy..as it was her day on the way home we talked some and i told her that all the things with my dad and mom and brouther were getting on my neversand i was going to go to the stress classes again so i would not get over stressed.. she said that was a good idear....i also told her that dressing was a part of who i was and it also made me a calm and happy person....we talked some abought it and she said that is trying to deal with this and that it is something that she just needs to get useto as before in not dealing with it she could pretend it was not there

[Lauren_T]

So... you didn't say: does that mean progress? :confused:

?? :thumbsup: or :thumbsdn: ??

[Wendy me]

yes progress i think so...more so than we have in a long time.....

[Lauren_T]

Well, in that case, please permit me to quote my close friend, C. Montgomery Burns: 'Excellent!' :thumbsup: :D

[Jenny Beth]

Great news Wendy, even a small step is a big one. In time she will see you are still the same person......with a little extra. I think right now though it would be nice if she had another woman to talk to about this, you have us, she has no one.

[Stephanie Brooks]

This really sounds good, Wendy. Maybe this IS the year!

[Rachel Morley]

That's good news Wendy. One small step for Wendy's wife, one giant leap towards acceptance. To me, this shows she wants to play her part towards a workable solution. Just because she takes small steps now doesn't mean she always will...meaning that her steps towards acceptance might get bigger and more often.

[Stephenie]

Great, I'm happy for you Wendy

[Marlena Dahlstrom]

Progress is made in a series of small steps. Congrats!

[LindaMarie]

I'm glad to hear you had a nice day out with your wife and especially glad to hear that you feel that you both are making progress. That's wonderful!

All the best.

[Julie York]

Good to hear things are looking up wendy.

I have a question. It's a good one too....Because....how you answer it depends what you do or don't do next and what you are aiming for and everyone can chip in and help a little more. You're doing great so far and I'm relieved the Tadaa method was written off. (phew).


The question is..................

What is it that you want from your wife? What is it....that in your mind...is a state of agreement that would make you happy? Or what little break through would you be happy with next?

If she 'knows' about your interest then that's already dealt with. So what do you want from her? Do you want to share the experience, going shopping,doing girly things, talking openly about it? Or do you simply want to not have to hide it so much from her, for fear of offending her? To relax a bit more and be yourself?
.

See, it depends what you want, how you approach it.

[jo_ann]

so your talking.. her shopping for the both of you? I think I misunderstood what you were saying at first, but it gave me a better idea (I might try this).. what about if she goes shopping for you, and you go shopping for her. Then you get the experience of shopping in the women's section, plus then you get a surprise from her, and she can see how good you are at shopping for clothes when she sees what you buy her.. if neither of you like the outfits, you can just return them.

[Wendy me]

Good to hear things are looking up wendy.

I have a question. It's a good one too....Because....how you answer it depends what you do or don't do next and what you are aiming for and everyone can chip in and help a little more. You're doing great so far and I'm relieved the Tadaa method was written off. (phew).


The question is..................

What is it that you want from your wife? What is it....that in your mind...is a state of agreement that would make you happy? Or what little break through would you be happy with next?

If she 'knows' about your interest then that's already dealt with. So what do you want from her?

for her to accepet my dressing on a better level rather than just hopeing it will just go away


Do you want to share the experience, going shopping,doing girly things, talking openly about it?

julie i would love her to go shopping together and for each outher, we do go shopping together for her and we do have a real good time, and well yes it this point in our lives , kids grown and moved out we have been through a lot of things together , and me being retired i can dress when ever i want as she still works (she likes new cars so she works to pay for that) in a short time (like 3 years) i plan for her to retire ...then what ??? go back to hideing and acting like i am doing something wrong ?? no this is when we need to get things in the open talk it out and come to a understanding that we bouth can be happy with....






Or do you simply want to not have to hide it so much from her, for fear of offending her?


well i think i answered some of that all ready but ok if we could together come to a better understanding it would be e done that buthings that i get busted for ,are thay realy a biog deal?? i think that we tend to waste a lot of time on things that realy dont matter and a more open wendy presence in the home all the time would be nice , although we don't have to be dressed to the 9's but some were between that and comfy would work, and that fear of offending her is realy in my thoughts see we are marryed and she has rights , wants in things that happen in her life and in our lives so her feelings are importin to me and i do try to take the time to be shure that this is beeing handled in a way that respects her , rather than just something i want and push complincy on her , as that dosen't make for a veary good marrage , you know "my way or the highway" thing just isen't it....






To relax a bit more and be yourself?

truly can anyone ever ask for any more than simply that?? all to often we go through our lives being some one that we are not to "fit in" with what outhers want or think we should be .... so what better place in life could want to be at relaxed and yourselfe ??? kinda like this is me , happy in who i am.. and just how mutch more happy could a person be to be like that and share it with someone you truly love...?????
.

See, it depends what you want, how you approach it.

julie thanks for the questions , i hope i answered them as to tell you were i am heading or might like to be....

huge wendy hugs........

[Julie York]

Great honest answers Wendy.

Now if a few others agree (Hey I'm not taking the blame alone!!).. you should cut and paste that post with my Questions and your Answers and when she is most DEFINITELY in an open minded mood.....give it to her to read while you go off to the pub or drive round the block for half an hour....

What do you think?

[Wendy me]

[QUOTE=jo_ann]

Then you get the experience of shopping in the women's section,

girlfreind i so got the experience of shopping in the womans section.... trust me shopping i can do quite well....but my wife buying me something would be real nice....