Ever Feel like a Novelty?

[AKAMichelle]

I have been going out to this karaoke bar in Denver now for 3 weeks. It is a mainstream bar & grill but several of us go there dressed each week. It has become funny since I have had 3 different women on 3 different weekends ask me to sing with them. It has led to a lot of interesting conversations and got me thinking.

If I went in male mode, if I would get any attention because I would be viewed as a guy hunting for his prey. But for some reason I am safe since I am dressed. Now yes I sing in my male voice and I have a lot of fun but I definitely see a difference as to how we are treated depending upon the way I'm dressed. It makes me wonder if I can really still have fun as a male when I go out. I guess this will require an experiment.

TXKimberly - If you read this. I now have karaoke for Tuesday - Friday each week. I have the bars cased for a great time and you can go there dressed.

Do you think that we are being perceived as a novelty that they must find out about?

[Kathi Lake]

Yup!! I sometimes do get the whole 'rock star' treatment because, well, . . . face it - I'm a man in a dress.

But you know what? I don't mind it. I am a novelty, after all - and not just for my wardrobe choices! :)

Now if people start acting condescending or derogatory, then I am out of there. I'm fine being a novelty, but draw the line at being a laughingstock.

Kathi

[5150 Girl]

Yea, I get the feeling of beeing a novelty from time to time, and that's ok, as long as it;s a positive reaction. People here in Redneckville don't often see folks like us. I feel if I go about my day as I noramly would, it serves as an opritunity to educate the general public that we are just noraml every day people.
And like Kathi said "Now if people start acting condescending or derogatory, then I am out of there. I'm fine being a novelty, but draw the line at being a laughingstock."

[AllieSF]

Kathi said it perfect for me. I never have a problem with strangers when out dressed, and I do believe that it is fun for others to interact with me as a novelty and a human being. It makes my day and evening more enjoyable and I hope it does the same for them.

[msginaadoll]

Yes I do agree with the other posters. If you do go out and about you will be a novelty to other people. I have had strangers stop me to compliment ask questions about my outfit. It could be that I look so stylish, but I think sometimes its just to get a chance to talk to me, scope me out.

[docrobbysherry]

I can see a clear difference here. Folks usually go to clubs and bars for entertainment. Specially on karaoke nites! NOT SO to Macys or McDonalds!

[Billie Jean]

I love to sing karaoke while dressed. I like the attention I usually get when out. Billie Jean

[Katesback]

Yes people are very interested in things they dont understand. If you are willing to talk to them you will feed thier interests. As a TS girl this is perhaps one of the most difficult things a girl has to learn and that is to keep thier mouth shut about being trans and just be a woman. For a CD I am not sure what to say about talking about your trans aspects to other people.

finally the girls are attracted to you because they are very likely assuming your gay. Since gay means a man that is not going to hit on them its a safe way to talk to a man.

Katie

[Daenna Paz]

Do you think that we are being perceived as a novelty?

Isn't a novelty an ice cream treat?? ;^)

[NathalieX66]

Yup!! I sometimes do get the whole 'rock star' treatment because, well, . . . face it - I'm a man in a dress.
Kathi

I get that when I'm in the company of gay guys......not all, but a few. kind of fun but annoying at the same time since I'm not gay. Lesbians think I'm cool and are always receptive to me. That's the LGBT clubs I'm talking about.

Now, on another note, I go to an all-night diner once a month with a few other cd'ers, and we are well known, and always treated like celenbrities. Kind of funny considering there's a race track nearby, and the diner always atracts the "mossy oak camo & pickup truck" crowd, and I've gotten an occasional dirty stare, but that's life. I'm still here typing to you all.

[sissystephanie]

Since I go out as a man wearing feminine clothing people may look at me as a novelty! As Kathi said so well, I am a Novelty and don't care!!

[eluuzion]

"Ever Feel like a Novelty"?

Only when I am awake :heehee:

As to the female vs male intimidation factor for a woman...A "female" would appear "safer" than a "male", so it seems that a CD might lie in between the two. But given the disarming influence of female vs male...a CD might be pushed closer to the female side by the influence of the female attire/make-up. So, I tend to agree with your "hypothetical theory" in concept...the CD attire watering down or erasing the "predator" "instinctual" suspicions that a male might ignite.

Given that a "first impression" of another person is generally believed to only take between 1/10 of a second to 7seconds...the female "image" might play a more significant role in judging you as "harmless". The alcohol factor would likely blur the first impression in your favor too, lol

Keeping this in proper perspective...You probably earned your junior karaoke singing buddy badge with the GGs, but inviting you over for a girls' sleepover is still a big stretch that ain't likely to happen...:heehee:
:love:

[Delila]

All I can say is that I am glad that denver is such a progressive town. :) I would like to know which bar you go to that the women are so accepting I have been in denver a long time and such a place would be very welcome. If you don't feel comfortable posting in the thread please pm me.