Frédérique
05-08-2011, 07:21 PM
I have an old Boy Scout manual my father once gave me, so I thought I would appropriate Scout Law and make my own list of MtF crossdresser attributes – you know, something to do while I wait for the latest round of tornados to close in on my little house on the prairie...
:worried:
A male-to-female crossdresser is loyal. I would say we must be loyal to other crossdressers and loyal to crossdressing itself – speaking from “inside the bubble,” I cannot seriously deride any form of crossdressing, even those I abhor (like drag). I automatically like all crossdressers, because I know how difficult this whatever-it-is can be. In my case, I’m just trying to be less male via effeminacy – whether you are or not makes no difference to me, since we all have something in common that transcends definitions or distinctions. Loyalty implies a certain stability of purpose, which is perfectly true...
A male-to-female crossdresser is trustworthy. You can certainly trust me, as many of my friends have learned. Years ago, one of my ex-girlfriends told someone about my crossdressing (out of anger, she later explained). This taught me a valuable lesson, and I become very aware of the need for trust and/or secrecy in our little corner of this alternative world. Vulnerability has many faces. One of my friends on this site once asked if I could be trusted, and I was amazed by that question! I mean, if you can’t trust a fellow crossdresser, who CAN you trust? BTW, did you know that a synonym for "trustworthy" is Boy Scout?
A male-to-female crossdresser is helpful. I’m trying to help, as much as I can, within the limited experience I have, but I HAVE done a lot of things dressed as a woman. I’ve also thought a lot about the origins, whys, and wherefores of crossdressing. We MtF crossdressers need to support each other, in a benign manner, because I get the feeling we are completely misunderstood by everyone. What we do is impossible to explain, and it will not go away (thankfully). If only I was married, with children, and had a much harder time hiding my passion from those around me, then I could REALLY dole out the help! Meanwhile, I speak, or write, from the closet, which has a nice view...
A male-to-female crossdresser is friendly. To other crossdressers, in my case – out in the world I’m trying to pass undetected, living in my mobile enclosure of femininity, so pardon me if I don’t say “Hello.” Here in this once-removed, or twice-removed, reality, I can be ultra-friendly to those individuals who mirror my own yearnings and desires; in fact this may explain why I keep coming around. At heart I bear the burden of my family’s reclusive-ness, but I strive to overcome it every day. Of course, I am somewhat attractive, delightful, and engaging in a mysterious way, going against this inherent familial nature, but you knew that (I hope)...
A male-to-female crossdresser is courteous. Have you ever been courteous to your own clothing? I have, in fact an over-riding fear of insulting my femme clothes in behavioral terms (acting in a certain MALE way), constantly alters how I do things. Of course, I admire courteous behavior and try to emulate it as often as possible. Sympathy is at the heart of this virtue. If I am conspicuously absent, I’m probably trying to NOT say something via submission, being courteous (and polite) in the process. As Harper Lee once said, “...it’s better to be silent that to be a fool.” That being said, walking in someone else’s shoes teaches courtesy by proxy...
A male-to-female crossdresser is kind. There’s no doubt I’ve said things I shouldn’t have said, or written things that should’ve never been written, but I assure you that kindness is behind most of my crossdressing activity, including posting on this site. I get carried away at times, but you may be surprised how much I hold back. Thoughtfulness leads to lack of visibility, or participation, out of kindness for all concerned. It’s all meaningless, I suppose, but I insist there is some form of behavioral modification going on as a result of wearing the “wrong” clothes. Kindness is already there, but it seems to come out more efficiently as I dress – maybe the vulnerability I feel just naturally leads to displaying compassion for others, either immediately or eventually...
A male-to-female crossdresser is obedient. To myself, in my case, since I’m unattached, but I AM obedient to the path I’ve been following all these years. You have to believe in yourself to dress this way, squaring it in your mind and realizing that everyone is responsible for whatever point of view they may harbor about this thing called crossdressing. There is nobody to follow other than yourself, but I am conscious of those around me – I just want to crossdress in peace. I wish to announce my compliance at all times, since I am submissive to a fault, and I shall not protest...
A male-to-female crossdresser is cheerful. You must be optimistic about crossdressing, since it is a beautiful, magical thing. Well, I think so. I try to entertain (myself, at least) when I wear something, or write something about it – its fun, relaxing, and I cheer myself up at the same time. I am awake in the world. Of course, I take MtF crossdressing very seriously. The whole idea is to be happy, but I’m no longer pursuing happiness – I caught up to it years ago. Beyond the closet, cheerfulness translates into tolerance, gentleness, tenderness, and the other characteristics outlined in this post...
A male-to-female crossdresser is brave. It takes a LOT of courage to do this, as my friend Anne2345 recently pointed out so eloquently, even though the majority of souls would not recognize it as courage. It is brave to overcome the male expectations that have been injected into one’s psyche over the years, and willingly accept an incorporation of the genders. It takes bravery to be LESS than a male can be, even though the meaning of the word less, along with everything the word more implies, could be debated endlessly. Confidence requires bravery – did you know that GAY can mean brave?
A male-to-female crossdresser is clean in thought, word, and deed. Well, not quite, I’m afraid, in my case, but the aforementioned kindness, courteousness, and cheerfulness do tend to influence the proceedings now and then. To be sure, I’m highly contaminated with everything I’ve heard or seen during my lifetime; in fact I’m as pure as the driven slush (thanks, Tallulah). However, a certain amount of cleanliness is still there, against all the odds, driving me along. Of course, a CD is physically clean – you can’t insult your beautiful clothes, you know...
A male-to-female crossdresser is thrifty. I have to be, by necessity, while others can afford certain luxuries. To this end, I’ve never posted a shopping story, but I’ve never purged either (in an attempt to stop), so I have plenty of things to wear. Thriftiness keeps me in the closet, no doubt about it, but my conscience has a lot to do with it – my mother was ultra-thrifty by necessity, something she passed along to me (along with latent anti-masculine genes). I usually have a quarter in my pocket, if I have a pocket to put it in, but that’s all...
A male-to-female crossdresser is reverent. Could be – I’m not reverent in the traditional sense, even though I’m praying in the avatar. See it as nothing more than a beautiful gesture. What am I trying to say, anyway? Well, I found this oasis of peace, away from the masculinity that once unconsciously fueled my waking life, and I dearly hope I can remain here forever. So far, so good, and I am very appreciative (and thus reverential) of this precious gift...
:battingeyelashes:
I was just wondering – what if the Boy Scouts had a merit badge for crossdressing? What would you have to do to earn it – pass successfully? Make you own dress? Improve your posture? Walk, talk, and behave like a girl, whatever that entails? Publicly denounce your masculinity, or, in this case, your boyishness? How about the obvious – join the Girl Scouts!? Ah, the mind boggles...
Feel free to add anything to my makeshift list of desirable MtF attributes – I KNOW I don’t speak for everyone. Thanks for reading my little (albeit lengthy) exercise...
:worried:
A male-to-female crossdresser is loyal. I would say we must be loyal to other crossdressers and loyal to crossdressing itself – speaking from “inside the bubble,” I cannot seriously deride any form of crossdressing, even those I abhor (like drag). I automatically like all crossdressers, because I know how difficult this whatever-it-is can be. In my case, I’m just trying to be less male via effeminacy – whether you are or not makes no difference to me, since we all have something in common that transcends definitions or distinctions. Loyalty implies a certain stability of purpose, which is perfectly true...
A male-to-female crossdresser is trustworthy. You can certainly trust me, as many of my friends have learned. Years ago, one of my ex-girlfriends told someone about my crossdressing (out of anger, she later explained). This taught me a valuable lesson, and I become very aware of the need for trust and/or secrecy in our little corner of this alternative world. Vulnerability has many faces. One of my friends on this site once asked if I could be trusted, and I was amazed by that question! I mean, if you can’t trust a fellow crossdresser, who CAN you trust? BTW, did you know that a synonym for "trustworthy" is Boy Scout?
A male-to-female crossdresser is helpful. I’m trying to help, as much as I can, within the limited experience I have, but I HAVE done a lot of things dressed as a woman. I’ve also thought a lot about the origins, whys, and wherefores of crossdressing. We MtF crossdressers need to support each other, in a benign manner, because I get the feeling we are completely misunderstood by everyone. What we do is impossible to explain, and it will not go away (thankfully). If only I was married, with children, and had a much harder time hiding my passion from those around me, then I could REALLY dole out the help! Meanwhile, I speak, or write, from the closet, which has a nice view...
A male-to-female crossdresser is friendly. To other crossdressers, in my case – out in the world I’m trying to pass undetected, living in my mobile enclosure of femininity, so pardon me if I don’t say “Hello.” Here in this once-removed, or twice-removed, reality, I can be ultra-friendly to those individuals who mirror my own yearnings and desires; in fact this may explain why I keep coming around. At heart I bear the burden of my family’s reclusive-ness, but I strive to overcome it every day. Of course, I am somewhat attractive, delightful, and engaging in a mysterious way, going against this inherent familial nature, but you knew that (I hope)...
A male-to-female crossdresser is courteous. Have you ever been courteous to your own clothing? I have, in fact an over-riding fear of insulting my femme clothes in behavioral terms (acting in a certain MALE way), constantly alters how I do things. Of course, I admire courteous behavior and try to emulate it as often as possible. Sympathy is at the heart of this virtue. If I am conspicuously absent, I’m probably trying to NOT say something via submission, being courteous (and polite) in the process. As Harper Lee once said, “...it’s better to be silent that to be a fool.” That being said, walking in someone else’s shoes teaches courtesy by proxy...
A male-to-female crossdresser is kind. There’s no doubt I’ve said things I shouldn’t have said, or written things that should’ve never been written, but I assure you that kindness is behind most of my crossdressing activity, including posting on this site. I get carried away at times, but you may be surprised how much I hold back. Thoughtfulness leads to lack of visibility, or participation, out of kindness for all concerned. It’s all meaningless, I suppose, but I insist there is some form of behavioral modification going on as a result of wearing the “wrong” clothes. Kindness is already there, but it seems to come out more efficiently as I dress – maybe the vulnerability I feel just naturally leads to displaying compassion for others, either immediately or eventually...
A male-to-female crossdresser is obedient. To myself, in my case, since I’m unattached, but I AM obedient to the path I’ve been following all these years. You have to believe in yourself to dress this way, squaring it in your mind and realizing that everyone is responsible for whatever point of view they may harbor about this thing called crossdressing. There is nobody to follow other than yourself, but I am conscious of those around me – I just want to crossdress in peace. I wish to announce my compliance at all times, since I am submissive to a fault, and I shall not protest...
A male-to-female crossdresser is cheerful. You must be optimistic about crossdressing, since it is a beautiful, magical thing. Well, I think so. I try to entertain (myself, at least) when I wear something, or write something about it – its fun, relaxing, and I cheer myself up at the same time. I am awake in the world. Of course, I take MtF crossdressing very seriously. The whole idea is to be happy, but I’m no longer pursuing happiness – I caught up to it years ago. Beyond the closet, cheerfulness translates into tolerance, gentleness, tenderness, and the other characteristics outlined in this post...
A male-to-female crossdresser is brave. It takes a LOT of courage to do this, as my friend Anne2345 recently pointed out so eloquently, even though the majority of souls would not recognize it as courage. It is brave to overcome the male expectations that have been injected into one’s psyche over the years, and willingly accept an incorporation of the genders. It takes bravery to be LESS than a male can be, even though the meaning of the word less, along with everything the word more implies, could be debated endlessly. Confidence requires bravery – did you know that GAY can mean brave?
A male-to-female crossdresser is clean in thought, word, and deed. Well, not quite, I’m afraid, in my case, but the aforementioned kindness, courteousness, and cheerfulness do tend to influence the proceedings now and then. To be sure, I’m highly contaminated with everything I’ve heard or seen during my lifetime; in fact I’m as pure as the driven slush (thanks, Tallulah). However, a certain amount of cleanliness is still there, against all the odds, driving me along. Of course, a CD is physically clean – you can’t insult your beautiful clothes, you know...
A male-to-female crossdresser is thrifty. I have to be, by necessity, while others can afford certain luxuries. To this end, I’ve never posted a shopping story, but I’ve never purged either (in an attempt to stop), so I have plenty of things to wear. Thriftiness keeps me in the closet, no doubt about it, but my conscience has a lot to do with it – my mother was ultra-thrifty by necessity, something she passed along to me (along with latent anti-masculine genes). I usually have a quarter in my pocket, if I have a pocket to put it in, but that’s all...
A male-to-female crossdresser is reverent. Could be – I’m not reverent in the traditional sense, even though I’m praying in the avatar. See it as nothing more than a beautiful gesture. What am I trying to say, anyway? Well, I found this oasis of peace, away from the masculinity that once unconsciously fueled my waking life, and I dearly hope I can remain here forever. So far, so good, and I am very appreciative (and thus reverential) of this precious gift...
:battingeyelashes:
I was just wondering – what if the Boy Scouts had a merit badge for crossdressing? What would you have to do to earn it – pass successfully? Make you own dress? Improve your posture? Walk, talk, and behave like a girl, whatever that entails? Publicly denounce your masculinity, or, in this case, your boyishness? How about the obvious – join the Girl Scouts!? Ah, the mind boggles...
Feel free to add anything to my makeshift list of desirable MtF attributes – I KNOW I don’t speak for everyone. Thanks for reading my little (albeit lengthy) exercise...