Being supportive

[Kate Simmons]

Picture for one moment that you are a GG whose SO is a MTF CDer. Would you understand his need to do this and to what extent would you be supportive? Bear in mind that in this scenerio you were FAB. I'll even extend it to MTF TS people who have transitioned and who would seek a relationship with a GM. Be as honest with your feelings as possible when giving your answer and the reason why or why not. Thanks!:)

[Joanne f]

Oh that's a difficult one, but i could imagine that i would be OK with some of it like the wearing of skirts,some tops not to girlie, maybe a dress but again not to short or girlie , maybe a very small amount of makeup some times but that is about as far as i would want it to go as i would feel that amount would not really change my SO into something else .

[kimdl93]

Its a hypothetical, but gosh I would hope so. If I turned the tables and was the GG, I'd hope I could be as understanding and supportive as my wife has been.

[J'lyn GG]

IMO, its not a fair question. Of course most cders will probably say they would be supportive, b/c they have been on this side of the issue. And, honestly, NOBODY can EVER say how they would react (definitively) in any given situation. If you were the FAB, your life experiences would be different, your knowledge of cding would be different, you would be different.

[Kate Simmons]

My basic point was that many of us expect our SO's to jump through hoops and be supportive. I was just casting the shoe on the other foot if the tables were literally turned. I don't really think being raised one way or the other has anything to do with it. Evidently most CD's expect their SO's to snap to without question and expect their support regardless.:)

[Raynefall]

That really is a great question... I would like to think that I would be supportive and understanding. Whenever it comes to love the way a person dresses or feels on the inside shouldn't effect how you feel about them. So ya... I think I would be ok with it. Now that's not to say I wouldn't be in a situation like a member of this site was where she chuckled when he came out to her. Lol. But I don't see anything wrong with that initial reaction.

[J'lyn GG]

My basic point was that many of us expect our SO's to jump through hoops and be supportive. I was just casting the shoe on the other foot if the tables were literally turned. I don't really think being raised one way or the other has anything to do with it. Evidently most CD's expect their SO's to snap to without question and expect their support regardless.:)

Oh, I totally understand where you are coming from. But I also know that my husband says he would be totally accepting if it was the other way around. (me wanting to be a FTM) If he wasn't a cder, I don't think that he would be as accepting as he seems to think he would be. I have been with him for 20 years (in August) and I know the things he has said in the past and stuff like that. I think he would have had as much trouble with it, that I have had. But I understand the point of the post. :)

[Alice Torn]

I don't know what FAB means. But, putting oneself in anothers heels, is difficult for most people, sadly.

[Raynefall]

FAB means Female at Birth. Just so you know for the future. ^_^