Have you ever found out someone you knew was a crossdresser?

[Jessica S]

Have you ever found out someone you knew was a crossdresser? If so, who was it(friend, relative, coworker)? And lastly how did you find out?

[Cari]

I found a friend online

I knew them well enough to read between the lines on their profile, the pics sealed it once I put the other details together.

Good news; it made my first steps out much easier.

[Marcia Blue]

I found out my brother's, ex-wife's, step-dad, is a CD, when he joined the support group I am a member of.

[Jodi M]

Yes I have when they get catalogs for breast forms in their name and other clues pop up. They keep that part of their life very private and as a CD myself I can respect that and do so.

[Jessica S]

Yes I have when they get catalogs for breast forms in their name and other clues pop up. They keep that part of their life very private and as a CD myself I can respect that and do so.

I agree with Jodi that alot of us(including myself) keep the cd part of our lives private. That is why I am curoius as what clues where there to spot a fellow cd'er. Alot of guys may make some off statements like " did you see those shoes she is wearing?" refering to some very high heels on a good looking women. But this could be an just an observation or maybe some wishful thinking as " I would love the heels".

[Sophie86]

I was at a support group meeting last night, and someone showed up that I recognized. It's weird, because I know that I know the person but I can't quite place her. I didn't want to embarrass her by saying anything, but it's been driving me crazy ever since.

[Jessica S]

I was at a support group meeting last night, and someone showed up that I recognized. It's weird, because I know that I know the person but I can't quite place her. I didn't want to embarrass her by saying anything, but it's been driving me crazy ever since.

Do you think the recognized you?

[Stephenie S]

Not exactly. But someone recognized ME from this forum. His wife called my wife and we got together. Since then I have met several of you girls in 3D.

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[Sophie86]

Do you think the recognized you?

She didn't give any sign that she did, but I'm very curious to know for sure. :)

[BillieJoEllen]

I grew up next to a boy that CDed and was always out on his airing porch prancing around in his sister's clothes. We never talked about it. After she graduated from college she took a job overseas near where I was stationed in the army. We got together a few times. Her father sent me a very private and personal letter while I was there asking if I could tell whether or not she was there for SRS. I was able to search her apartment one day and reported that I could see no evidence of that. At that point I didn't know if she still CDed or not.
A few years ago I was in a chat room and her picture came up. All her information fit what I knew about her. I'd like to finally bring up what the both of us have had in common all these years. Trouble is that chat room no longer exists, she lives many miles away and I don't know where to find her. Perhaps someday.

[Loveday]

Yes, as I was retiring my best work friend of over 30 years retired also. He said he loved to gambel as a CD at Motor City casino in Detroit and makes about $100.00 a night then leaves. He claimed there was alot of them there. One of these days I hope to get the nerve to go there as a CD myself, problem is gambling is just not my game.

[Billie Jean]

The maintaince director at the last place I worked. We both dressed for a function at work. He said the clothes he wore were his as his wife was a lot tall and more full figured. Billie Jean

[Kaz]

Yeah... a guy at work. One day I noticed he was wearing heels.. not too femme, but odd looking as he is quite a hairy, blokey sort of guy. Within a couple of days I could swear he had mascara on...

He has now transitioned and comes to work en femme... It's been a mix of emotions for me as I really liked him a lot before... he was quite hunk, and the sort of guy I wish I had been when I was younger. Now I have come out in support of his choice (not come out as in...!).

I like to think that I spotted it before anyone else!

[Jessica S]

The maintaince director at the last place I worked. We both dressed for a function at work. He said the clothes he wore were his as his wife was a lot tall and more full figured. Billie Jean

Did you admit that the clothes you had on were yours?

[pantyhoselover]

One time I commented to a GG at work about her new hair style. I hadn't seen her in a while; she is very attractive. I think she was a little surprised by my complement. Thinking about it, I don't think many men complement women about their hair, clothes, etc. So maybe she is wondering about me.

[Jessica S]

One time I commented to a GG at work about her new hair style. I hadn't seen her in a while; she is very attractive. I think she was a little surprised by my complement. Thinking about it, I don't think many men complement women about their hair, clothes, etc. So maybe she is wondering about me.

Well if that is the case there are a lot of the women I work with think that about me also. If I notice someone got there hair done I will say something. But most times I don't notice. Just ask my wife. But on more than a few occasions I have commented over the years.

[Billie Jean]

Did you admit that the clothes you had on were yours?No but then mine were borrowed for the occasion from my ex wife and daughters. They helped me to put my outfit together. As for the complimenting women on their clothes, they just think I'm flirting with them. I don't think they read anymore into it than that. Billie Jean

[Jenny Green]

Yes. I found out that I am. After buying and wearing skirts and dresses and lingerie for 25 years, you know, the pieces just kind of came together... LOL! :D

[steph1964]

No, but my fear of seeing someone I know has prevented me from attending local CD meetings. My fear, maybe unwarranted, is that the person would "out" me if they were open about their crossdressing. I know that I am probably paranoid, because everyone has been very supportive on this site, but I work in a very unaccepting profession.

[Maria Blackwood]

I mentioned this in my intro post. I came out to a friend because events made me believe he'd cool with it, and he then came out to me, revealing he'd been crossdressing for years.

[Noortje]

No, but my fear of seeing someone I know has prevented me from attending local CD meetings. My fear, maybe unwarranted, is that the person would "out" me if they were open about their crossdressing. I know that I am probably paranoid, because everyone has been very supportive on this site, but I work in a very unaccepting profession.

I think that people at these meetings are very aware that not everyone is out. Even so, you could specifically ask them to respect your choice. Especially since you have a very unaccepting profession, they would understand. I think that if you want to go to these meetings, you should. The gain far outweighs the (nonexistent) risk someone will out you.

Disclaimer, though: I have not been to any meetings myself. Not because I'm afraid I may be outed... but still. Honesty honesty!

[Taylor186]

Two guys I knew from high school and I rented an off-campus apartment for our 2nd year of college and it turned out that one of them crossdressed. I know this because I found his stash of clothing (bras, panties, hosiery, etc) one day while looking for something I misplaced. He never mentioned crossdressing or dressed in front of me and I never mentioned it to him. This was during the uninformed 70s at a relatively conservative Midwest school. Really not sure when he did dress but I'm sure he did as the clothing moved around occasionally. Maybe he underdressed and I just didn't notice or realize it. I've often wondered if he frequents this site but have seen nothing that would make me think he does.

[Deborah_UK]

I discovered a few years ago that a close friend of mine at school (we lost touch when we left school) is now post-op. So, in answer to the original question - no.

But I often wonder whether our friendship was because our kindred spirits of both being TS? (even though neither of us would tell anyone at the time - well it was the early 70s!)

[barbara gordon]

...Well not exactly discovering a fellow crossdresser.... But a few years ago I was out for a rare night fully dressed at "Ina's Silver Swan" in NYC . This was a regular restaurant that turned into a cd party on the weekends . In the crowd that night was a "tranny Chaser" who I recognized as a guy that I had worked with some years before . I was quite freaked out because he did not seem like the kind of guy that would go to cd/tg events. As he was a very macho body builder and sports type , and seemed kind of homophobic when I had known him at work . I hid from any direct eye contact or conversation as I also very much did not want him to recognize me.

[Shoe Fettish Boy]

OMG I wish! I wish that so much! But no. Hasn't happened. It's so sad.

[Valerie1973]

My neighbor used to sneak around en femme hiding behind trees and what not like Swiper on Dora the Explorer. When I tried to catch up with her, shed run in the house and come back to the door 10 min later out of breath. I said not to worry but she eventually moved away. We never got to talk or nothing.

[Jenniferca]

I have a friend who owns a mailbox rental place and he told me about this celebrity who came in and rented a box. A year or so later I saw an ad this person ran with a pic (in femme) and gave the address of my friend's store. I never told anyone and will not...at least until I run out of money...haha

[prene]

A gg friend (long term) found out a while ago. I think I planned coming out and i think she always had a idea. I was going to dress as a gg for halloween and we were all going to meet at a friends house and go to a cd tollerant place. Like Rocky H Show place.

Well I dressed as well as i could, i had forms and corset and tucked well. I had asked Jackie to come by to help me dress and see if I had the right outfit. Well I did my makeup pretty well and she was like WOW. You fix up well lol.

Well she said to me you look good you should do this more often, I said OK if you help, and here i am.
Well kind of. We (Jackie and I) have gone in and out of spending time with each other... her boyfriiends.
We are like good friends or brother and sister.

[Daphne Renee]

No I dont know anyone. It would be nice to have a friend who was a crossdresser. However if I thought it was someone who was trying to keep it a secret I would not say anything unless they said something about it to me first.