Proud of my SO and my local gender support group

[Elsa Larson]

My SO of 7 months went with me to our local gender support group on Saturday.

There were some very unusual attendees:
1) Father, stepmom and brother of a recent post-op MTF. They had no idea that Steve wanted to be Amy.
2) A married couple where the attractive wife feels she should be male. The loving husband is fully supportive.
3) Another married couple where the husband is considering transitioning to female. The loving wife is fully supportive.

My SO spoke with all 3 and was moved by their love and support. She later commented on the married couples' love and commitment, and how one loves the person, not the genitals.

[Melody Moore]

Number 2 is very interesting because there are a lot of straight guys out there that would let their ego stand in the way
& wouldn't be prepared to go through the transition & become 'gay' to stay with their partner. Many women have issues
with their husbands transitioning & are not prepared to become a lesbian, so I think this guy must be a special person to
stand by his partner like he does.

[Sejd]

Very refreshing and hopeful post. Thanks :0)

[Elsa Larson]

Number 2 is very interesting because there are a lot of straight guys out there that would let their ego stand in the way & wouldn't be prepared to go through the transition & become 'gay' to stay with their partner. Many women have issues with their husbands transitioning & are not prepared to become a lesbian, so I think this guy must be a special person to stand by his partner like he does.

I've got to admit that these situations expose my double standard.

IF I were to transition from male to female, I'd want my female partner to stay with me, even if she were perceived as lesbian.

But IF my female partner were to transition to male, I'd have difficulty being perceived as gay. I would have even more trouble accepting any new "plumbing".

[Melody Moore]

Elsa, that is where we can sometimes be very selfish. I have always said that if some trans-girls have trouble
letting go of their wives because they don't want to transition & become a lesbian, then to consider it the other
way around, imagine if it was your wife who wanted to transition & become a man? Would you like it if your partner
expect you to turn gay? It is amazing how different it is when the shoe is on the other foot.

[Hope]

If your partner is your best friend, you will love and support your partner, and your partner will love and support you. The sex will work itself out.

If your partner isn't your best friend... you need a better partner.