What would your boss/best friend/relatives/boyfriend/strangers/you say?

[Nicole Erin]

About your being TS.

If I saw my boss outside of work, I can already hear it -
"So Erin, do you have that stuff I gave you to get more clients into our shop?"
Yes, I work in a salon. It is commission, and our boss is pushing us to get clients. Our pay, and the shop's revenues, depend on it.
Yes my boss knows about me, no he doesn't care. It is not an issue. I never make it an issue.

If I were to call my best friend, he would ask if I can help him set up something like ohh, the new TV he got, or some junk he found at his job, or the latest hobby he is into. Sadly he would probably accidentally call me by my male name like he always does. :doh: But if I came over in a tank and shorts or looking pretty, he would not care.

With my family, my semi-gangster-like nephew doesn't care, my mom doesn't care, and my big sister doesn't care. So what would they say? "Erin, can you help me with...?" My big sister might see my blouse and be like, "that is really cute!"

And with the guy I had a date with last night, who of course knew beforehand I am TS, when I met him last night, his response was, "You look very presentable..." And we went out and got a bite to eat. I asked if he would have problems being seen with me and he said - "I don't think anyone is going to look at you and know you are TS, you dress well and have a woman voice... I am not ashamed to be seen with you".

So last night I was at the gas station and some lady drove up and asked for my phone number. I was like, "Well ok but what for?" and she goes - Oh sorry, you are a girl" and drove off. Maybe I was looking dudish but she heard my voice and thought I was some woman. This one still has me stumped.

So it seems I do OK even when I don't try real hard. Sure I get detected by some but no one seems to make an issue cause I certainly don't make one.

But what do *I* say? To this day I look in the mirror and think, "Who is this guy looking at me?"

So if I can JUST get myself to accept me, I will be fine. I certainly do not pass without question, I never will, I have come to terms with that. But now that being TS is not a constant obsession, it is like no one else obsesses over it either.

[boardpuppy]

When I get half as far as you are, I'm going to through a party......if the house isn't full then I'll just have to get more people off the streets and this will have to be an all nigthter.
Alice

[Eileen]

Nicole from what you are saying there is no GUY in the mirror! You need to look in the mirror and see the girl you are, not the guy from the past.

Eileen

[noeleena]

Hi,

Im the boss ,my friends all know, & theres many, our family all know. 16 of us , hmmm boyfriend no dont have one,& wont , strangers , well most see a woman & talk to me as one, so, as to the what will they say , A bit late now , im just a woman ,
Who's accepted in to socity .

You know what tho , accept who you are others will as well , just cut them some slack . & a bit of time, the 7 day wonder will soon be over.

...noeleena...

[lizlizzie]

Nicole:

I knew nothing about TS until my spouse came out as MTF. Since I knew her as a man, it was harder to make the change, but now I see her as a woman. When she introduced me to her friends who were MTF, I just saw them as woman - it's how they presented themseles and how I met them. My spouse and I will be out and she will notice who is "family" but if she didn't point it out to me, I would have no idea. I might think the person is an unnattracive woman, or that she needs a better beautician, or that she's really tall, but what I see is wht they present themselves as. So, from an average, middle-aged genetic woman's perspective, just look and act like a woman and expect to be treated like one and and that is the way most will treat you. (I am not denying there are jerks out there, or teenage girls who walk by and giggle, but they usually aren't people I want to know either).

[Rianna Humble]

Hi Eryn, I am not even half as far along as you, but I'll give you the latest comments I remember. Apart from the stranger, they all knew the old me.

Boss: Hi Rianna! Like your hair!

Best Friend: Rianna, you're such a girly, no man could look that good in your outfit!

Relative (brother in law): That dress goes perfectly with the earrings I have brought you from India!

I've never had a boyfriend

Stranger (in a supermarket): I have been looking out for you ever since I saw the newspaper article about you transitioning because I wanted to say how much I admire your courage.

Me: Will I ever get to the stage where I can see the inner me?

[JulietteLeblanc]

Hey Erin,

At least you're acknowledging the positive feedback you get for what it's worth. Seeing yourself as

I remember the first time I saw a true woman in the mirror -- I was making the bed and caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror across the room. That person was just such a natural woman! I was so surprised I almost fainted... In retrospect the step back (seeing my whole body, while moving, rather than just my face) helped.

These experiences help, but I still have my moments of doubt... I'm not even sure it's actually possible for me to completely remove every trace of doubt in my mind. Sometimes I wonder if it's really necessary though.

[amielts]

I had a really tough time with coming out to family, but with my friends, they really didn't care much.

[Sara Jessica]

Since you ask in terms of what would so-and-so say...

boss - what the heck!!!
best friend - WTF
relatives - WTF
strangers - (don't care much there)

So I guess for me it's more important as to what these people would say after their initial shock. Of course I'd hope that if this ever happened to me, there'd be nothing but positivity which may not be a realistic hope but I'm an optimist. I do have faith in my fellow human beings.