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Sejd
05-22-2011, 08:53 PM
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Today I just felt as if I was walking around blindfolded. I am thinking about the way I try to communicate my dealings with my Dysphoria. Earlier on, in the very start when I became completely aware of my condition I would make a big deal out of telling the whole world about how it was to be a TG etc. etc. I had two or three blogs or postings going at various sites, joined TG forums, you name it I was on it. I feel different about it now, but I still use this blog to reach out and to tell others how I feel. One of the reasons for this blog is that it is one way we TG people talk about ourselves. I think, because we don't see ourselves represented out in society very often. We are a minority for sure, and because we don't see our unique tribe reflected in everyday life, we have a need for exposure. Exposure is to be seen by others. There is an interesting quote in the holy book of the Muslims, the Quran, in which God is saying: I was a secret and I wanted to be known. So according to the book, God created the earth, humans, etc. etc.
I like that quote, despite not being Muslim, because I think we feel the same way. We want to be known, understood and most of all loved for who we are, no matter what we look like or how our situation is. I don't need to be fixed by anyone, I just need to be known and accepted. So this is what I am reflecting on today. It seems like so often I try to express myself to others and all I get back is a load of suggestions to become like this or like that, basically, to fit into other peoples idea of who I am. Seldom do I hear or experience the simple sentence : Yes, I see you. Yes, I hear what you are saying, or WOW, is that how you feel! So it feels like I am walking around blindfolded, searching for a word, og a touch by someone who is willing to know.

BreenaDion
05-22-2011, 10:01 PM
Sorry Sejd I dont feal that way and Im guessing here that other TS on HRT have came out and then finding themself packing up for the trip to Stealth Mode. Yes thats where I am headed, no longer to shot my mouth off about HERE I AM. I am finding piece within myself where I DONT NEED to shot my mouth off. As you would understand if and when you ever take HRT road. Unless you have a need to become an Activist then this point is mute. In the Beginning, yes the need is there to express ourself but not to opose oneself to undo harm.
Breena.

noeleena
05-23-2011, 06:56 AM
Hi Sejd ,

Have you thought about being on T V over 3 millon people . in the papers some 60.000 to 100.000 & on the net was 287 sites , talked to many many people 100's & was asked too.

Be well known be involved with & in socity meet 1000 's of people & be accepted.

Im wondering ,

I never worked in the pink fog or walked in it. i knew who i was ,,, dysphoria means nothing to me never had it nore will i ,

I did not fit any mold & nore do i now , you see people accept me for who i am not what im not they see me for who i am no more no less. May be iv done things very differently i dont hide my background never did before & certinly wont now, ask me any ? about my life you get the truth. & people do.. love it...

I dont need to be an activist iv done more in telling people about who i am & why, & put us trans on the map.& why we are this way.

So may be there are others like me who can do things in a different way yet have acceptance , now i wont say every last person will understand or even have a clue as to the whys & wheres fors i just have lots of people just accept this is the way it is for this ,

.......nut case insane kid .......who is very different yet accepted . groups ,cliubs & socitys

...noeleena...

Jorja
05-23-2011, 07:38 AM
So just take off the blindfold. That way you can see where you are going and see all the people there are to meet. If you go out and live the life YOU want to be living everyday, you will meet others. Some of those "others" will accept you for who you are. Some of them will ask, how are you doing today? That is not to say that some will not now or ever accept you. Some will never speak to you. I say their loss.

The thing is to quit whining, wanting, and wishing and start going and doing for yourself. Nobody is going to hand you life on a silver platter. It is up to you.