happy (and relieved!)

[amber62]

I came out to my wife about 3 weeks ago after reading a lot of posts in this forum. It made sense to me that it wasnt fair to her to have me keep this secret from her. I took the chance hoping she'd be ok with it and that maybe it would bring us even closer. Well it couldnt have went better, she is totally good with it and is excited to see me dressed up. we havent had a chance yet because we have kids in the house but we are looking forward to it. this weekend we were at a function. and down the hall there was a "drag" beauty contest being held...she was saying that we should try to find one and would i ever get involved...i am so relieved and excited about that part of my life now.

[Kathi Lake]

Very nice, Amber!! Remember always to keep it at her pace, to be open and honest, and most of all - have fun!

Kathi

[Amber_Lynn]

Congratulations! It's a scary subject to broach, but can lead to good things! Enjoy!!!

[Darlene-VA]

Time to give that wonderful woman a big hug, glad it worked out for you both

[Kalli]

Congratulations that everything worked out for you and your wife!

[suzy1]

It’s always nice to read a happy post like yours Amber.
I hope things go O.K. for you and your wife.

Hugs, SUZY

[Rianna Humble]

That's great news, Amber! I hope you have found a really creative way to show her how much you appreciate her wonderful attitude.

Without wanting to rain on the parade, do please be sensitive if you notice the occasional waning of enthusiasm and even if she appears to go back on something she had previosuly said was OK with her. She will still be coming to terms with everything that your revelation means for her and for your joint future. Whilst she weighs all of this up, her feelings may do the occasional flip-flop, but that won't mean that she loves you any the less.

I'm so glad that she seems to want to take an active part in your cross-dressing from the outset, but please do remain sensitive to her feelings. It can be too easy to get carried away into a pink fog and try to push her faster than she is ready for, but if you are listening to those unspoken feelings, I'm sure you will be able to avoid this very understandable mistake.

Even though your wife is very enthusiastic about your cross-dressing, she may not know who she can discuss it with when she has questions. Has she thought of joining this site so she can discuss with other wives & SO's of cross-dressers? I feel sure she would find it helpful.

[tiffanyfisher]

That's awesome news! Have fun!

[carhill2mn]

How fortunate for you! Be sure to let her know how much you apprecaite her!

[amber62]

Thanks for all the support. I have learned a lot from the forums here so I will heed your advice and take it slow, which is actually good for me because I am still trying to find my way around. I will also pay close attention to my wife and her needs/fears/questions.

[prettytoes]

Over the past month, since my wife discovered my dressing, our relatioship has never been stronger. I have been much happier and more helpful. I make sure to let her know how much she means to me, and how much her accepting me for who I really am means to me. I show her my appreciation as often as possible, and re-assure her that I have no desire to transition. We have been married for 28 years, and dressing has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. It is wonderful to have an accepting wife, but I am trying to take things kind of slow, and back off when I see that she is uncomfortable. I'm glad to see that you also have an understanding wife. I got her the book "My Husband Wears My Clothes", and she has read it and told me that it really helped her.

[Phylis Nicole Schuyler]

Way to go girl! It's good to be the Queen!

[Jacqueline Vasquez]

so cool! thats so awesome!