Is it time to "confess"?

[Alberta_Pat]

My Wife and I had a chat the other day. It started out with discussion of the upcoming "Pride" parade in our city.

My local CD group is planning to put a float into the parade. We will be decorating the float prior to our monthly meeting. Looking forward to it!

Anyhow, the discussion came around to a point from a few years back at the Provincial "truck roadeo". My Mother and a younger brother decided to attend to cheer me and my company associates on.

We went for coffee after I had completed my activities for the day, and Mother noticed that my finger nails looked exceptionally good. She asked:" Do you have clear nail polish on your fingers?"

Well, I responded that I had only buffed them really well. :o She then told me that my fingernails looked better than hers.

So, the question I am asking here is: Since I have not 'come out' to any members of my family, and that there may be pictures and video published of the pride parade, should I tell my Mother about this activity?

My Mother is very open minded, but still old school. My Wife is concerned that my Mother may be shocked if my smiling face is one of those captured by the local TV cameras.

I am unsure if I should bring Mother into this 'secret".

Thanks for your thoughts on this.

[DonnaT]

Well, if going enfemme, I doubt she'll know it's you from a photo, or video.

My mom saw my picture up close and enlarged, but still didn't know it was me. Took a couple of minutes to convince her.

[Babeba]

She might really surprise you... just think, she's had another generation than you have to see and experience the world. Last time I went to a pride festival, it was my Grandma who took me there!

Why don't you invite your mom to come with you? If she sounds okay with it, you could tell her how you'll be participating. If she's kind of wishy-washy unsure, you could say, 'that's okay, not everyone is comfortable with openly LBGT society. I think it's good though, and you'd be surprised how many people come out to show their support.' If it makes her uncomfortable to think about going to it, she might not be watching it on TV so carefully as to recognise your femme self!

[NathalieX66]

So, the question I am asking here is: Since I have not 'come out' to any members of my family, and that there may be pictures and video published of the pride parade, should I tell my Mother about this activity?

Do you tell your mother your bedroom secrets with your wife?...do you need to?

If my mom asks what's up with me, I'll tell her. though I'm in no rush.

[rhonda]

Tell mom she loves you and will support more than any one else Rhon xxx

[Kittykitty]

She already knows something is up and will love u no matter what. she might need a minute to digest it though. Taking her to the parade may be a bit too soon, but mothers can suprise you.
Best of luck. :)

[t-girlxsophie]

I find most of us can gauge what our mothers opinions would be on finding out their Son liked to Crossdress,why not drop it into conversation in some way see what her reaction would be.My mother knew I dressed (caught me enough) so it's out of sight,out of mind between us both.Always wondered would she recognise her wee boy if she saw me dressed up Hmmm!

Sophie

[Tina B.]

Well I don't know our mom, but I know I would not tell mine, I wish I had maybe 30 years ago, but at her age now, I'm afraid it would make her very uncomfortable, and I see no advantage in it for her. I doubt she would watch it that close, on the TV, and dressed with make up and wig, would she even recognize a fleeting image, on the news anyway? What could be a bigger risk, is someone else seeing you that knows her, and it gets back to her from a third party, they can find that embarrassing. Either way I hope you have fun in the Parade, I went to my first parade last year, and can't wait for this years! It was great to my surprise we had a big turn out of Trans people, and there supporters. And I live in a very small town, it really made me feel good.
Tina B.

[Stephanie47]

Unless you're wife is OK with outing yourself, I'd pass on the intentional outing. If you're trying to keep your activity from all family members, outing yourself to your mother may be unfair to her. Does she have the ability to keep the secret? Or would she share the secret with a supposed confident? I think at some distance from the reviewing line your identity would not be compromised. If you have doubts and truly want to avoid any risk of identity, I'd change customary hair color and not wear eye glasses.

[kimberly ann487]

I haven't seen any statistics, but I would bet that mothers are much more accepting than wives. It seems that you've past the hard part, so why not go for it ?

[Joanagreenleaf]

I'd tell her I'm helping with the parade. I'd tell her I'm going to be in the parade with friends. I'd tell her I'm planning on doing it again. Then, I'd wait for her to decide how much more she wanted to know.

My mother was fine with all the same things. "Oh, well, get out there and live a little - I know I would if I was still able!" It didn't really surprise me, but I was careful not to surprise her with what was supposed to be lunch and which turned out to be a bit more.

She's your Mom. You're her kid. That's never going to change.

[Princess Chantal]

Take it from me, there is no shame in confessing :heehee: