Has anyone gone dancing as a woman?

[JennyA]

If so, could you describe how the night went?

I haven't had a chance to go yet, and I don't know if I have the inner strength yet to let myself move freely and have a good time.

Maybe I can live vicariously through your experience and it'll force me to get out and do it!

Going clubbing is on my transitioning bucket list.

[AllieSF]

Hi Jenny,

Part of going out dancing is no different than going out to a restaurant or shopping. You will be out in front of and among other people. So, you need that confidence to start with. I have been out dancing several times and all were so much fun. I also love to dance to good music, so when you are in the mood to dance and have the right music, it really helps to block out everything else. The first time I went dancing was after a dinner in a restaurant that had a back party room and there was a Lindy Hop dance going on. It was by accident and I went in there and danced my head off. Totally not planned for. I invited the girls to dance and it turned out that most were dance teachers. Good thing, because they really knew how to follow my crazy non-scripted dance style.

The other times were to dance clubs populated by a much younger crowd than my age group. I went with some GG's and had a great time, dancing on a ledge with other girls for a while and with guys when they asked. The most complicated time was when I went ballroom dancing (no previous experience there) with a blind guy who was a great dancer. He taught me how to follow. It was a ball at the ball! I did well for a stumbling amateur and loved every minute of it and would do it again. Since it was near Halloween I dressed in a just below the knee dark pleated skirt that swirled whenever I turned, a pink fuzzy sweater top, white knee socks and comfortable flats. I also had on some blinking light pumpkin earrings for the occasion.

I hope you enjoy my adventures,as well as, those that will surely be posted here after mine. Get your courage up girl and get out there and shake your sweet bootie like no one is watching.

[Melody Moore]

I have gone out a few times now and danced as a female without any issues, so to me it is
no big deal because as Allie said you need to be confident to start with & I have that. I don't
go out a whole lot, but there is a monthly LGBT event I attend at a local nightclub which is
where I have been dancing most of the time. However I also went out to the Reef Hotel Casino
on New Years Eve 2010/11 & danced with my girlfriend of the time & a couple of guys who also
bought us drinks. The only time I might have a big problem would be with ball-room style dancing
because I trained a lot to dance as the 'male partner'. So I might have a few problems if I tried
ballroom dancing because of who leads, a lot more awkward than just having 2 left feet I think.

[Teri Jean]

This past week I was at the Be-All conference and dancing was the rule. Had a great time and being female on the dance floor is really no different unless it is a slow dance and you are following their lead.

[Kerigirl2009]

I have not had the honor yet, but I cant wait until I can someday.

[Terri Andrews]

I have gone several times and you have two things to remember
follow their lead and where your hands go ,the first time I went I put the wrong hand up ,I recovered,laughed and said it had been a long time

[Ericka2]

I been out dancing lots of times, dancing is one of my favorites things to do as male or enfenme, one thing I notice thou, most CDs don't shake it so good, practice makes perfect sisters.

Love, Ericka.

[JennyA]

Thanks for the stories and tips. One thing I know I need to obtain somehow and I'm not sure what to do; I need to become one with my hips. I have found them a few times and I try to do stretches and things to help me flow with them more freely.

[Andrea85]

I haven't yet, but I soooo plan on it. I actually plan on doing some belly dancing classes. The instructor where I'm looking is a local lesbian and when I asked about it, she laughed at me for even thinking there would be a problem, lol.

[Duana]

I've been dancing with my SO many times. I don't dance with men though, just her. I have noticed that my movements have become much more femme and I'm shaking my booty much better than when I started. Just do it.

[MaryAnn40c]

Yes I have gone dancing and it was fun....just needed to relax....and follow his moves...lol

[dilane]

Yes, I've taken ballroom lessons in a GBLT environment, and swing and salsa in a straight environment. The latter was especially fun, since you get matched up with many different men in the course of the lesson. I've also been selected to demonstrate things to the entire class.

I've also danced at straight venues with both men and women. I've written about my dancing experiences in the straight world a few times in the out and about section.

It's so much fun, especially when you learn to move like the other women. It took a while to overcome my inhibitions, and now it's automatic.

[Jean Marie]

Over the years I have had two differant kinds kinds of dancing in a womans role. A few yeras ago I was able to join a square dancing club and for about 2 years most Fridays nights I went to the dance, I was accepted and danced with all the guys. Yes I wore typical square dance attire, the full skirted outfits with the fluffy petticoats that I love. secondly and more recently A guy that I date ocasionally will take me dancing [ballroom style] even to a few formal dances. Its a little differant learning to dance in heels, backwards and to let him lead. But certainly an activity that really undelines a ladies feminine side.

[Sally24]

I need to become one with my hips. I have found them a few times and I try to do stretches and things to help me flow with them more freely.

That's probably the hardest part of moving from male dance to female dance. Men mostly move their feet and upper body. Women move their hips and arms. I've danced a lot and it really helps to observe the GGs. One thing I find heartening is that seeing the gay guys dance I know that I can get my male born hips to move, it just takes alot of practice!

It's great fun though!

[Beth-Lock]

I went out dancing at a straight singles dance in a community centre while I was still cross-dressing and not all the time. It was a hoot. It was Halloween, but only about a quarter of the people there were in costume. I was so convincing that a burly man in a windbreaker with sports logos, hurried to hold the door open for me as I went in, before I even started!
The fiasco part was that the woman friend I went with kept addressing me by my male name, and a bit too loudly at that. I think nobody would have noticed even when the two of us girls danced those sort of wiggly dances, but when we started the slow dance/close dance routine, some of the women on the dance floor looked askance at us. But I did learn from that that I could pass as a woman.

Later I went with to a couple of lesbian/GBLT dances. They seemed more laid back than normal mixed dances and they were open to letting transfolk in. Of course, most lesbians are not interested in hooking up with a transwoman, so it is a bit of a waste of time I found. But it is fun if you just want to dance and listen to the music.

[CharleneT]

Many times ! I adore dancing ;) For many years I danced more like a woman than a man... but that said the points made above about how you dance are important. A good thing (if you can arrange it) is to find a GG friend who knows your status and is a good dancer and take some lessons to find out which parts of what you do are "manish". I think dancing is a great way to loosen up your spine and hips - very good practice for day to day movements as a woman (which generally are more "loose").

Heck, the first time I went out as a woman completely, I went dancing...

Get on out there on the floor and knock 'em dead :)

[kristinacd55]

Yes, and it was wonderful!! Went to a club with other tgirls, and had a blast. Actually, ended up dancing with 2 gg's towards the end of the night. Yeow, was I worn out the next day.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

dancing is for people that can dance...

ie...not me...

[AKAMichelle]

I have done it several times. One of the weirdest feelings is how others have said on here. As a female you move your hips and arms more. That is a akward at first but you get use to it. It is a lot of fun.

[Starling]

...For many years I danced more like a woman than a man...I think dancing is a great way to loosen up your spine and hips - very good practice for day to day movements as a woman (which generally are more "loose")...

Amen. That's my experience, too.

:) Lallie

[Beth-Lock]

For many years I danced more like a woman than a man...
Get on out there on the floor and knock 'em dead :)

I had trouble getting used to leading, and naturally fell into the role of following my woman partner when I was a guy.

[neha]

I do it often. I usually dance well as a guy. But i did start dancing as a girl when i dress up in my flat. I started to wear my party wear and high heeled party heels while i practice to get the better curve and balance will i dance. Learned all sexy club dance/lap dance etc from youtube. I did training for few weeks at my flat. Then one night i decided to go out. It was my first ever night out. I took my some time to relax and gain confidence. I did start to walk in the street all way shaking my butt and so. my heels were making goos tik tik sound..and many men started to stare at me...almost a perfect girl i was that night. Going for clubbing. I entered a crowded pub and had people around dancing. Many did stare at me. I though im done..caught. but..one man came to me and asked me to dance with him...i did forget for few moments that i am even a male. I just danced with him almost like a hot girl and had some very erotic steps..he caught hold of my breast and were pressing them. and playing with my butt..entire crowd was watching us till the end. then i was too drunk and i started to move to the platform and the pipes..did dance very erotically down there...and did some nice lap dance too....then had to leave the pub as many guys did wanted to take me home...he he he....it was one heck of a night for me.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

i just remembered a time about 5 years ago, as i started going out i ended up at a lesbian bar in philly and i was dancing with friends...i really was just kinda standing there, but i was enjoying it,...i turned towards the bar and looked at a huge mirror that showed the whole dance floor...and there i was! MY HEAD was literally sticking out of a mass of people...its was a sea of sweaty hair, and my head sticking out like a whack-a-mole...

and that as they say was that.... back to my cosmo..

[MsKimiko]

Hey Jenny,
I have not had the chance to go clubbin either, I really would love to go because I absolutely love to dance. But I am really wary of going anywhere local. I have practiced some of my fem dance moves but it's mostly hip shaking. I have had some dancing on cam experiences though. :P

[Karen__Starr]

I am not much into dancing but have gone out lots from partners dragging me out to clubs with the intent to dance.I guess it is fun from time to time:)

[Beth-Lock]

..almost a perfect girl i was that night. Going for clubbing. I entered a crowded pub and had people around dancing. Many did stare at me. (a) man came to me and asked me to dance with him...i did forget for few moments ... I just danced with him almost like a hot girl and had some very erotic steps..he caught hold of my breast and were pressing them. and playing with my butt..entire crowd was watching us till the end. ...then had to leave the pub as many guys did wanted to take me home...he he he....it was one heck of a night for me.
Well that would be my fantasy, but I am afraid it will never be my reality no matter what I do or how many times I seek instruction from YouTube, LOL.

[Jorja]

Yes, I have gone dancing many times both before GRS and after.

When I was a child my mother insisted I learn to dance. She enrolled me in a dance class. We learned everything from the waltz to tango and back again. Being from a small community, there were more boys than girls in the class so we had to learn the girls side of the dance as well. Being TS, I really enjoyed this part and learned my lessons well.

Many years later after transition an aquaintance wanted to enter a ballroom dance contest but did not have a partner. He asked me to dance with him. We did not win that contest but did go on to win several other contests. It was so much fun.

I no longer dance in competitions but do dance for fun. Go try it you will have a lot fun.

[Daniela76]

Well I decided to come back here finally.

I LOVE dancing!! I did breakdancing as a young boy in the 80's & danced at school dances in high school.
Once my friends & I were 21 we went club dancing alot. I was usually the best guy dancing and taught some of the girls to do different dances.
I dance well as both a guy and a girl since I just know how to move with the rhythm.
I recently was at a friends wedding & stayed for the dance. It was awesome!
Just a few weeks back I went to a latin club with friends. Really fun!

[Pattie O]

Have been out dancing once in the past at a nightclub and it was wonderful.Looking forward to doing so in the future.