Emotions

[Kim_Bitzflick]

I don’t know what is happening to me emotionally. This last Wednesday, I attended the graduation ceremony for my oldest daughter (she graduated from high school). A couple times during the ceremony, I had to keep myself from crying. I know I’m proud of her achievements so far (she’s # 8 in her class, won all sorts of academic scholarships, etc.) but should I be crying? This is the second time in the last 6 months this has happened (the other I posted about here http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?147802-I-just-got-Hit-on......&highlight=tangled ).

Until recently, I almost never cried. Maybe it’s the Saw Palmetto I’ve been taking. I guess the girl in me is coming out.

Edit:

I don't think it's bad to cry, it just strikes me as interesting that I rarely cried until the last year or so. Before that I can count only 2 times I cried in the last 20 years (1. at my dad's funeral. 2. during an wedding engagement encounter (just me & my future wife).

[TGMarla]

Think nothing of it. Your daughter's graduation is a milestone, and as it's your daughter, it's a major success for you as well. She's 8th in her entire class, and you have a right to be proud of her. But it marks a passage of a time in your lives that will always be dear to you. Getting emotional about it isn't a male/female thing. It's a human thing.

Hey, guys cry, too. They just don't always admit it. Watch a movie called "Hachi, A Dog's Tale", and tell me if you managed to keep a dry eye.

[Emily Ann Brown]

I tears up this weekend when my grandson do a very special thoughful thing for another kid at the race track.

We are who we are. We have feeling......you don't have to be a REAL MAN to cry...WINK!


Em

[joank]

Congradulations to your daughter. Crying comes with intense emotions and you did not know how intense they were. I tear up at movies like Band of Brothers and at events where Vets and Flag are honored. Nothing to be ashamed about .

[Sophie86]

Until recently, I almost never cried. Maybe it’s the Saw Palmetto I’ve been taking. I guess the girl in me is coming out.

Yeah, I would've been crying like a baby. Congratulations on raising such a great daughter. :)

[VioletJourney]

Sometimes you don't know how emotional an event really is until you actually experience it. There's nothing that says men can't cry too, but if it makes you feel like a woman, then that works too.

[Karren H]

I tear up during the reveal on "Extreme Home Make over"

"Driver move that bus"... Omg.... Sniffle. Sniffle.

[LilSissyStevie]

I cried when my daughters' graduated because I was thinking about how much college was going to cost. When one of them got married, I cried like a baby. All that money on a bet that only has a 50% payoff.

[Mary Lee]

"I tear up at movies like Band of Brothers and at events where Vets and Flag are honored."
I do the same.
Also when someone does a act of kindness and funerals.
I am a vietnam Veteran.

[Tess]

The older I get the more emotional I become. Better to have strong emotions than no emotions at all.

[GMCD]

It's human to feel emotions and to express emotions.

I struggled with that for a lot of years and it was one of the primary reasons for why I chose to live as a woman. I never did find my place in the "macho" world where emotions were a sign of weakness and crying got you called horrible names. I always felt things deeply - sadness, joy, love, etc. - and wanted to express my feelings as strongly as I felt them. My parents (a good-meaning couple who loved me very much and treated me well all my life) and peers and the authorities in my life always discouraged me from being how I wanted to be telling me that that's not "how men behave." In the end, already burdened with this desire to wear women's clothes, wanting to do what boys apparently weren't supposed to want to do, and needing to be myself as I got older, I figured that the real solution must be that I am actually female and I set about going down the long road to becoming female so that I could feel and cry and let everything in my heart out.

It took a lot of years and a lot of suffering and then a lot of re-learning to discover that while I still love to wear women's clothes, I didn't need to be a girl to have emotions and it didn't make me a girl to show emotions. Life as a woman was mostly alien to me and I never fit in the way I wanted to. Instead of freedom, I found the hiding and lying and deceptions tedious. I came to find peace being a man who crossdresses by understanding that just because the world said men were supposed to be a certain way that didn't mean that that was the only way that men could be. So what if I felt things in my heart, and so what if I let it show? It's braver to be a man who loves openly than to hide your love to protect your "machismo" and deny those around you the same joy they give to you.

In short, that was my journey and I don't pretend that it'll be the same for anyone else or that it's right for everyone else. I guess I just mean to say that being a man or a woman or whatever isn't about being exclusively one way or the other. All people have hearts, minds, and personalities and they are all different and they can sometimes include aspects from one side of the binary fence of male and female or the other and it's okay.

Much love!

[Fab Karen]

Emotions don't have gender.

[Sarah Doepner]

I've always been an emotional sort but try to hide it when I'm proud of a child, when something "sappy" hits a nerve or even when I'm the center of positive attention. Being open to those emotions brings a richness to life that I want to explore. There's nothing wrong with you now that you've opened that door, the problem is when we only suppress those feelings.

[PretzelGirl]

I don't think it is the Saw Palmetto. I feel it too and I don't take anything. It's age. It's exploring your feminine side. It's pride in your children. It's relaxing and being yourself instead of putting up a false front. Pick any or all or add your own. There are a lot of reasons, but it is who you are and you are just letting it out. And enjoy it....

[Tina B.]

I don't take Palmetto, or anything else, but over the last 10 to 15 years, as I get older I find myself more sentimental, and emotional than I ever was in life, I don't thinks it's female, I think it learning how important this things are, and how short lived or time to enjoy them, especially your kids as you see them grown and ready to start that live of their own. Never worry about getting emotional about enjoying the accomplishments of your offspring, cry with pride! I'm as bad as Karren, your post brought a tear to my eye, just thinking about what you must have been feeling.
Tina B.

[BillieJoEllen]

It doesn';t take much to get me to sniffling. I cry at pretty much anything and everything. Gotten pretty good at hiding it though.

[Tara D. Rose]

yes KIm, 5 years ago my daughter graduated down at little Jogh Colliseum where her High School chose to do their graduations. And when my precious daughter's name was called I ran down to the first balcony row and yelled her name, she looked up and waved at me, I waved back at her, and with tears rolling down both of my cheeks I waved at her with the pride of only a father can feel.. It's a night I will never forget. It sort of reminded me of an old Ronnie Misap song, I wouldn't have missed it for the world.I love my daughter with all my heart.
L&R.....................Tara

[sabrinaedwards]

I find myself shedding tears more often; perhaps our feminine side is becoming more prominent. It could be a trait of us Southern Belles.
Love, Sabrina

[Misti]

[QUOTE=Kim_Bitzflick;2511807 (#1)] I don’t know what is happening to me emotionally....
Maybe it’s the Saw Palmetto [SP] I’ve been taking. I guess the girl in me is coming out. QUOTE]

Kim, I would like to chat with you on PM about the SP part, if that is OK? I feel teary at times, too, but it is 99.9999% a cry for happy, type of cry.

Congrats to your daughter; hand me a kleenex, please?

Mary Lee (#9): "I tear up at movies like Band of Brothers and at events where Vets and Flag are honored.
I do the same.... [I, too, ] am a Vietnam Veteran. "

Hugs,
M.

[AmyGaleRT]

Oh, I tear up when I hear certain really good pieces of music. There's a couple of songs that are pretty much guaranteed to switch on the faucets if I hear them, no matter where I am...at home, at work, in the car, anywhere. (My ex-wife got goosebumps instead when she heard really good music.) There are a couple of scenes in the final episode of one of my favorite TV series that will also start the teardrops falling.

I'm reminded of one of the tracks on the old Marlo Thomas album "Free To Be...You And Me," in which NFL star Rosey Grier tells a boy that "it's all right to cry." Maybe we tend to internalize that more than most, but it's a good thing for everyone to remember.

[Samantha43]

I've always been emotional. I don't know if it has anything to do with my crossdressing, or if it's just the way I am. My dad was an emotional guy and he wasn't a crossdresser as far as I know.

I tear up whenever my kids have any kind of achievement. Once, years ago, I chaperoned my daughters class trip to Washington DC. At the Tomb of the Unknowns I made sure I sat in the back row because I knew I would cry like a baby and I didn't want anyone to see me. I did cry. That's a very sacred and emotional place and I discovered that I wasn't the only adult male crying.

[JillyNylonz]

My wife loves the softer side of me. I cry more often than her at movies and family functions. She would not want me to be stiff and reserved all the time like the traditional male, and she has said so many times. She has come to love me as both her husband and her lez lover Jilly too. That alone has made me cry in joy !

[kimdl93]

Kim, I think healthy people grow more emotionally intelligent as we mature. A major life event, like a graduation should evoke a deep emotional response. And maybe people like us are learning to let out some of the emotional responses that we were taught to repress.

Even small familiar things can bring out our emotions. There's a scene in A River Runs Through It that brings tears to my eyes every time I see it.

[jjjjohanne]

I have found over the years that I get weepy when I am quite tired. Then touching commercials, weddings, my children, etc. can set me off. I well up with tears about 10-20 times on those days. It doesn't happen often, but it is clearly coupled with fatigue. My wedding day was like that. We had done so much the night before with the rehearsal, and visiting with friends that the next day, at the wedding, I was welling up at everything. It made the experience better, in my opinion!

[Roxann]

I look back over the years and i've cried over a lot, i get very emotionally good things and happy things and when people win things, my wife says its the soft side of me or now she says it's the girl in me

Very soft

Roxann