No, I can't be a TS. I must be <fill in the blank>

[Jay Cee]

Did you ever use rationalization to dismiss being transexual? To make it "go away"?

I have found myself occasionally wondering along the lines of "Maybe I am gay, and am just using wanting to be a woman as an excuse to justify that." I know, I know; gender and sexual orientation are two totally separate things. Still, my brain goes off on a tangent, trying to sort out whether or not I am really TS, or if there is some other reason for the feelings I have.

This is really confusing. On the bright side, I have a counselling session soon. And will be attending a TG support meeting in a few weeks. :)

[Kaitlyn Michele]

most definitely JayCee..

mine was that i was so ashamed of being a crossdresser that liked guys (ie gay), and that since i admired and envied transsexuals, i was talking myself into being transsexual...
i also recall telling my therapist that i was manipulating my answers to make her think i was transsexual in an attempt to sabatoge my transition..what a mess

i was also very focused on the dogma of "I knew from my first moments that i was a girl" ...this was not true for (although i was skipping over all the crossdressing i did when i was six..hehe)
i thought to myself that if i am confused and lost, i must not be ts, because the ts girls all knew everything..


many times i've thought about the brain twisting i did over my 40+ guy years. consider that if you transition, it is guaranteed that all the mental masturbation goes away...

[Aprilrain]

consider that if you transition, it is guaranteed that all the mental masturbation goes away...

But then what will i obsess over? OH thats right, BOYS lol.

Welcome to the club honey, If you didn't have doubts then I would worry that you were not capable of rational thought. This is what therapy is good for.

[Steph.TS]

there is one fear I have in this area, but I don't think it holds any water, I've come up with the view that women are better then men in many ways, as I mentioned in another thread, they took on the male roles that existed in society they run corporations, play rough sports, they can do what they want and still be feminine and beautiful if they want, men are still stuck in the 1800's in terms of they gender role views are cncerned we've accepted women as having being able to do all of these things, but men are too timid to be as feminine as woman, we don't want to be looked down upon but women showed their strength when they walked outside and wore pants when it was deemed unfit for a woman to do so. the only time we see men wearing dresses is when they are trying to be in touch with their feminine side, women weren't crossdressing when they wore pants they made pants their own and they pushed forward, men haven't shown this level of strength.

so the idea that I have is maybe I want to transition because I envy the strength women have, but that doesn't explain hwo when I wear a bra that creates the illusion of breasts I feel more confident, or how I want to be beautiful, or wear the wonderful variety of clothes women have, wear my hair how I feel, I want to break out of this box of 'manliness' and be a wonderful woman.

[Rianna Humble]

Did you ever use rationalization to dismiss being transexual? To make it "go away"?

My one was the old lie "I will become an ugly woman and no-one wants to know ugly women"

[Jorja]

My one was the old lie "I will become an ugly woman and no-one wants to know ugly women"

Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts

[Melody Moore]

No, I can't be a TS. I must be 'Weak/Delusional/Sick/Crazy/Insane' are probably some of the things I
have said about myself when trying to repress my gender issues. But what I found most disturbing in my life
was feeling 'sub-human' because I didn't really know where or how I was suppose to fit into society & make
friends. I even resigned myself to the fact back in primary school I was always going to be a bit of an odd-ball
and there was nothing I could do to change that. It wasn't until the age of 15 that it was glaringly obvious to
me that I was really a female. But 12 months later at the age of 16 I had managed to repress my gender issues
by telling myself I was weak, delusional, sick, crazy & insane. I kept telling myself the same thing over the next
30 years any time those thoughts about transitioning ever popped up in my head. But eventually I got tired of
fighting it. My kids were all grown up so I decided to stop being in denial about who I really was & just thought
this time I was going to go with it & embrace it to see what happened because all those old excuses I use to
make was far too much overwhelming evidence of my fears & denial to keep ignoring. I got to a stage where I
had to start to be honest with myself about who I really was.

So it changed for me to "Yes, I must be a transsexual female, so stop being in denial"

[Inna]

Social pressure, social pressure, and social pressure! Our culprit is just that. Family, environment, religion, all sum up to who am I suppose to be for others to accept me, self acceptance is left to the songs and speeches but non existent in our western environment.
As soon we exercise in hypothetical introverted exercise called "who the hell cares about anybody else’s opinion" only then are we able to surface all that makes us real.
There lies the answer of who you really are.

[Elsa von Spielburg]

Glad that someone made a thread like this, because over the last few months, I've been awfully confused as to who/what I am. A lot of the time, that same line has come up in my brain: "I doubt I'm actually TG, I must just be confused and/or delusional!" That line's getting quite old, though, as the feeling become stronger and more pronounced, so I'm considering getting help. Therapy is the way to start, right?

As a bi-guy/gal, I've been guilty of the orientation line of thinking, too, Jay Cee. I'm the same way in that I know it's separate from gender identity, but it doesn't stop my brain from going that route. Honestly, it's kind of a relief to see someone in nearly the same place as I am (we are not alone!).

[Helen Grandeis]

IF you are full of joy people will like to be around you. Life is a search for a good feeling. If you make people feel good, they will want you to be around!
Helen

[docrobbysherry]

Every woman is beautiful, some show it with their faces, others show it with their hearts

With that thot in mind, can I introduce u to my ex?:D

[Kelsy]

I often cop the insanity plea! Must be crazy right?? Sometimes it's just easier to say I'm Gay

[Kelsy]

[QUOTE=Revan;2514002] I've been awfully confused as to who/what I am.
QUOTE]

That is the story of my Life!

[DeeDee1974]

I spent a lot of time saying I was only a crossdresser. I think because it was easy to hide as it was something I mostly did alone.

[Hope]

I never did that. I have always been pretty honest with myself however. It is everyone else I lied to.

The thing I did to make it go away was to simply deny myself the option of even considering it. I was always too tall, and too big, and my hands were HUGE and my feet were HUGE and my voice was FAR too low, it was too hard and too expensive and never worked out right - I might consider it if I could be a passable woman, but I would never be passable - always a freak and that was not an option. Transition was simply not an option - so it wasn't something I needed to spend anytime thinking about or considering or pinning for.

It worked, sort of. For a while.

The thing is, that in reality, transition has been surprisingly easy in contrast to what I expected. There have definitely been issues - but the things I worried about were mostly boogymen.

[arbon]

I thought all sorts of bad things about myself. I had a lot of confusion and fighting with myself over the years, what a mess looking back. I could not be one of those people! What would my mom think? I know what she would think. I did not understand it but what I knew for certain was not to let her find out. Messed up stuff.

I did go through a period in my late teens / early 20's when I figured I must be gay. Mostly because I did not know how to explain how I felt and as I was attracted to men (as well as women), and I had been labeled as such since Jr high which did not make my school years very much fun. Anyway I thought that is what I must be. But then when I was actually around gay men for a while I realized it was not what I was.

But it would have been a lot easier and cheaper if I really was a gay man.

[Pattie O]

I keep bouncing from M to F in my head and body ;ie grow beard /remove beard/shave chest /regrow hair/wax legs /allow to regrow/want to dress up /dont ;yes it is driving me crazy!!

[Myojine]

Did you ever use rationalization to dismiss being transexual? To make it "go away"?

I have found myself occasionally wondering along the lines of "Maybe I am gay, and am just using wanting to be a woman as an excuse to justify that." I know, I know; gender and sexual orientation are two totally separate things. Still, my brain goes off on a tangent, trying to sort out whether or not I am really TS, or if there is some other reason for the feelings I have.

This is really confusing. On the bright side, I have a counselling session soon. And will be attending a TG support meeting in a few weeks. :)

*looks at the mass amount of ecchi and "NSFW" pictures of women in my computer folder*
NOPE definately not gay...
perverted... yeah
gay? erm no.
*thinks of the fantasies of having vaginal sex*
Even less gay :3

*wants bewbs and a vagina*
DEFINATELY not gay....

Actually i think id be considered a pansexual if we were talking about sexual orientation.

I used to pass it of as soemthing weird about me when i was younger. but i slowly accepeted that i was born with such a terrible birth defect...