dressing

[willie]

Since coming out to my So I find a bigger desire to dress up all the way. I did not feel that this was what I wanted when first telling my SO. I told her that just undergarments would do. Now when I see cute clothing I want it so bad!!! Is this the normal progression for CD's? I love girly things and want them. Hugs.

[Briana90802]

Sounds about right. I told my SO and I never had much more than undergarments. As time went on I wanted and need to explore with other clothes. Thankfully though the pink fog comes and goes. So I imagine you'll eventually slow down. But for now enjoy yourself. Have your SO join here and we'll all help her too:)

[Karren H]

Yeah!! Your on track!! Lingerie... Outter wear... going out enfemme... SRS.... :D

[Amber_Lynn]

Many years ago I used to dress. Purged most of it as I had an un-supportive wife. She and I have parted ways and I'm dating the greatest GF. At first I was like you, just wanted the lingerie, but the more she accepts me and CDing, the more I want to venture out. She has never said no to anything I've wanted to do (painting toes, CDing, ect.). The more she accepts it the more I'm inspired to venture out. Yesterday we went to the Pride Parade in LA and I was in full women's attire, womens short shorts, top, panties and painted toenails. No hair or make up, but full womens attire. It was great to be out with her and have her support while dressed. I think when you have someone that supports you and condones your dressing you're more comfortable taking it to the next steps. However, SRS is never in my future....she and I both enjoy my "parts" :)

[Stephanie47]

That seems to be the progression. Forgetting my time as a youth trying on my mother's undergarments and dresses, my adult crossdressing started out with lingerie. My wife went with me when I bought three nighties (pink, black and white) which I still have tucked away. I also wore a garter belt and stockings. I'll call it bedroom play. That seemed to satisfy me until a decade later, when I ventured forth into buying slips and panties and finally bras. I could not resist the pretty colors of the early 1980's. Sigh! Where have the pretties gone? Oh, I digress. Then I bought a dress. Then another, and another. Now I have seventy five dresses, a dozen pairs of high heels. Three wigs. Yep, the more confident I was with myself, the more I have satisfied my internal self.

Due to my inability to pass, I do not go out en femme with the exception of some night time driving and walks in the area when it is rainy. An umbrella does nicely to shield my face. I am running some errands this morning underdressed in totally black undergarments, pantyhose, panty, panty girdle, bra and lacy camisole. My bra is stuffed with a Nerf ball which I have cut in half. Due to the cool weather and rain, a sweatshirt will conceal the bulge in my shirt. Yep, you're progressing. Hopefully your SO will accept your progression in life. My wife has not.

[sissystephanie]

Progression in crossdressing seems to be natural for just about everyone. I started as a quite young child wearing panties and just kept progressing. The one place where I didn't really change much was getting married. I told my late wife that I was a CD when I proposed, and she accepted me as such. We had almost 50 very happy years together!! BTW, I grew up in Portland, Oregon! Still love that State!!

Stephanie47, I could not pass without some good work with a wig and makeup. My late wife used to do that for me, so I could pass. Now that she is gone, I dress enfemme but wear no wig and no makeup! And I go out everywhere, shopping, to the P.O., whereever I feel like going. Hardly anybody pays any attention to me, and nobody has ever made a negative remark!!

[kimdl93]

yup, definately on track.

[Kate Simmons]

Not sure if it's natural but the "needing" seems to go with the CD "turf" if you know what I mean. Otherwise give me a plastic model kit and I'm happier than a pig in slop,:battingeyelashes::)

[MarieInTAS]

That does seem to be the course that many follow - I taalk to quite a few CDs on and off line. My own experience is different - undergarments were NEVER enough, I always dressed all the way. For me the progression was from doing it privately to living full time. SRS is not on my agenda, either.

[Cynthia Anne]

Sounds like my life! It sure seems normal to me! She who dies with the most toys wins!!!!!!!

[VioletJourney]

Yeah, I think all of us start just wanting one thing (for me it was skirts, for you it was undergarments), then we keep wanting to add stuff! And believe me, it never stops. There's always one more article of clothing, one more beauty treatment, one more body modification you'll be wanting. There's no use in fighting it, either, just accept it and be grateful for having such simple things that make you so happy!

[juno]

I think there is always progression toward your true self. You start out skewed by social training, so it takes time to undo the programming. Once you stop worrying about conforming to social norms, you find your interests broaden rather quickly.

[suchacutie]

I started at age 55 suddenly and really without warning! However, even with that there was a progression that was limited by 1) understanding what it meant to have a feminine self, and 2) how fast my wife could teach me what it was to be feminine, point by point, from the obvious details of makeup and clothes (writ large) to the psychology of being a woman to the clear differences in body deportment and language use.

It's one heck of a learning curve and, if nothing else, is driven by curiosity of the unknown!

tina

[Billie Jean]

Yeah!! Your on track!! Lingerie... Outter wear... going out enfemme... SRS.... :DI think I'll do without the SRS, but thats how it started for me. Billie Jean

[Staci]

I think it is like anything else. You buy a boat-- you want a better boat, you buy a car, you want a car with more options, you buy a house, you want a house with more everything. There are a lot of things in life like this. It is only natural that as you find something you enjoy that would would like to do more of it and obtain better, fancier things that make the experience that much better. Enjoy your time. Be mindful of what your accepting spouse will feel comfortable with. Accepting wives are a precious commodity. That is one area that once you have one you do not want to look for another. LOL

[Tina B.]

OK, just panties is not enough, just like let me have one bite of that candy bar, that's all I want, no one ever really just wants one bite, it taste to good. At first all we want is that one thing, that we don't have, just that no more. But once you have, there is just that other little thing, you know just a little bit more. But what most really want is all of it, we just don't think we can have it, so we settle, but then long for the rest. Yeah, I think that is common, if not necessarily normal.

[docrobbysherry]

You're LUCKY, Willie! To have an SO that forces u to restrain your fem ego!

I didn't start serious dressing until I separated. Then, it was simply trying on one pair of ladies jeans. But, with NO ONE AROUND, it soon took off! And, ----, well, -----, now, ----I guess my pics can explain BETTER than I can!