Adventures in Hand Washing

[Dawn cd]

Back in the days when my wife didn't know about my dressing, one of the problems of keeping it secret was the matter of washing clothes. You've got to understand that we live in a building whose apartments don't have washers & dryers. One has to go down to the laundry room for that. Anyway, I didn't want to wash my lingerie in a machine; my wife washed her delicate things by hand, and I decided to do the same. I would wait until Saturday (a working day for her) to wash my panties and and pantihose and hang them up to dry (from the ceiling fan, turned to low speed). I was constantly anxious that she would come home early and find my pretty underthings festooning the place.

Now that she knows about my dressing and sweetly accepted it, there's still a problem with washing. She doesn't want to see me in full regalia and asked that I keep it contained. I don't think it's fair to ask her to handwash my panties, so I still do it myself--preferably when she's away. I wondered about throwing my occasional cotton Haines panties into the family wash. Haven't decided what to do. I just wondered how the rest of you married cds have handled the washing issue.

Also, whether any of you closeted girls have had laundry adventures of your own.

[prettytoes]

I am in much the same situation. My wife is very accepting...to a point. She also doesn't want to see me fully dressed. I just asked her about the laundry issue. She knows about my dressing, and I want to be open with her about it. I wear panties 24/7, both satin and cotton, so hand washing would be a constant hassle. She has no problem with washing my clothes (including skirts, etc.). Like she said to me "it only makes sense to just wash everything together".
Just ask your wife, I'm sure you will be pleasantly surprised by her response.

[Gillian Gigs]

After the acceptance I just through my things into the laundry hamper, and they get washed like all of the other clothes. The only thing a make a point of doing, is to separate and fold my own cleaned laundry, and put it away.

[Karren H]

I hand wash a few things while on business trips but if my lingerie can't withstand the rigors of modern day machine washing then its not rugged enough for me! Lol.

[Gaby2]

That's a really cool OP Dawn!

While growing up I never really owned any clothing and I never really washed anything myself anyway. Even as a student living in my own place, I still took my washing home to Mammy who didn't live too far away.
Of course I slowly started buying this and that... mostly fetishy stuff... but as I used to live in non-realistic dread and fear of being busted, I purged regularly and hastily. Therefore nothing really lasted long enough to become "too tatty" or even dirty.

I never admitted my cding to my Ex and we were married almost twenty years - I continued the hiding and self-rejection. When I did need to wash something it was easy for me: my work allowed me to have the houshold role, which I had to learn by doing and I enjoyed very much. My Ex travelled to work each day.
My Ex found out eventually though and then cding (that included possible laundry) was more taboo than ever before.

Cutting a long story short, me and my SO of nine months haven't moved together yet... but I confided in her from the word go.
I remain in the closet but she washes my favourite cloths with hers at her home and nobody notices.
At my place I keep my feminine cloths strictly separated from my male cloths. Somehow I don't like the idea of my female cloths mixing with my drab stuff, especially in the washing... that even applies to a quick wash in the sink!
(Similarly, the forum prompted a phase of underdressing in me.
That didn't last long though because I felt I was "s(p)oiling" my wonderful underwear with drab!)

Cheers, Gaby:)

[RADER]

I hand wash a few things while on business trips but if my lingerie can't withstand the rigors of modern day machine washing then its not rugged enough for me! Lol.

Rite On;
In everything goes into my May-tag, with my Holy Cow Tide; And Let it rip.......Opps! I mean let it wash. LOL
Rader

[Patty]

It has to be machine washable or it does not work here!!!

[RADER]

It has to be machine washable or it does not work here!!!

I do not think my washing machine can read, besides it has a gentle cycle. Soooooo Let it Wash.
Rader

[JamieG]

Although my wife is accepting, she prefers not to see me en femme. I've assumed that she'd rather not wash my girly stuff, so I just do it myself. I don't get to dress very often, so I just let it collect for a while and then wash about once a month. I've never handwashed anything; I just use the delicate cycle, but I do use a hosiery bag for my tights.

By the way, in my household the distinction between his and/hers chores is not crisp. Although laundry is typically her job, if I see it needs done, I'll throw a load in. Although mowing the yard is typically my job, if it gets too long before I can get to it, she'll do it.

[ReineD]

I don't think it's fair to ask her to handwash my panties, so I still do it myself--preferably when she's away. I wondered about throwing my occasional cotton Haines panties into the family wash. Haven't decided what to do. I just wondered how the rest of you married cds have handled the washing issue.

You could explain your dilemma to your wife, and ask her to help you find a solution that would be acceptable to you both? I'm sure your wife understands your need to wash your things. :)

[celeste26]

Well in my house I do all of that stuff and therefore there is no problem with washing them since I am the one to wash them. I do just throw them in with all the other stuff to be washed and no I have no 'special' needs washing, no silk for me, just the walmart cotton panties (size 10!)

[Patrice_CD]

Mine just go into the hamper and my wife washes them with hers. She wears cotton and I wear lace. Easy to keep things separate.

[sandra-leigh]

My daily femme clothes go in the laundry basket with everything else. My dresses and good skirts I usually put aside and either take to the dry cleaner or allow to sit waiting for a "round tuit".

I do much more of the household laundry than my wife does. Except the folding.

[Cynthia Anne]

I think Reine has a great idea! Nothing could be better then letting you wife have a say in this decision!

[pattyv]

All my lingerie etc., goes into the same laundry hamper as my wife's. If she is busy I'll do the laundry and vice versa. She is very accepting of my dressing and all is so relaxed. Either she or I will separate and fold. We know our own items.

[Michelle_CD]

My wife often takes our dirty laundry to her mothers house to wash. Sometimes she leaves it over night and her mom cycles it through and folds it. I don't put anything in that laundry other than panties which I wear 24/7. Her mom must have this figured out by now as sometimes the medium panties are folded and seperate from the smalls. She has never said a thing about it to me.