A beautiful thing happened today

[Avana]

Sometimes someone can say something that just makes it all worth it.


Today I was walking down 14th st here in NYC and a little girl was walking with her mother up ahead of me. The little girl turned around and looked at me with big wide eyes and then excitedly told her mother 'Look how tall that lady is!'.

I am 6'3" or 6'4", for reference. Usually I am somewhat self conscious about my height, and today I was probably looking quite tall and thin in a slinky black maxi dress.

So the mother turns around and sees me and then asks her daughter "is that how tall you want to be??"

To which the little girl replies to my great joy, "Yes! I want to be just as tall as her!"

:D

Couldn't stop smiling the whole way home.

[Felicity71]

aww, thats so sweet. :)

[Melody Moore]

Oh that was so sweet. :)

I don't know why so many taller trans-girls are so self-conscience about their height. I am 5'10" (178cm)
& am dwarfed sometimes by other natal females. This happened to me the other day in a shop when I met
a girl who was about your height. But I seen an even taller girl last New Year's Eve at the Casino dancing
who stood around 6'6"-6'7" & she towered over everyone on the dance floor. So now I don't feel so bad
when I go out in my 5" stilettos & I stand about 6'3". :D I had a guy come up to me once in a bar & he
told me that tall girls like me intimidate him :heehee:

[Avana]

Oh that was so sweet. :)

I don't know why so many taller trans-girls are so self-conscience about their height. I am 5'10" (178cm)
& am dwarfed sometimes by other natal females. This happened to me the other day in a shop when I met
a girl who was about your height. But I seen an even taller girl last New Year's Eve at the Casino dancing
who stood around 6'6"-6'7" & she towered over everyone on the dance floor. So now I don't feel so bad
when I go out in my 5" stilettos & I stand about 6'3". :D I had a guy come up to me once in a bar & he
told me that tall girls like me intimidate him :heehee:

yeah, it depends. I mean don't get me wrong, i LOVE being tall, except for the shoe part of it. Actually no one has ever said anything negative to me about my height as long as I've been full time.

But it's really hard to be incognito when you are very tall like me - it is a very striking sight, so I get a lot of attention and that usually means i get checked out more than I'd like, which can be good or bad. Sometimes I don't like the attention and I'd rather just go about my day and walk through the crowd.

I do feel like a lot of people are intimidated by it, which isn't helped by my more demure demeanor.

I mean my girlfriend is 5'10" and she gets guys telling her she's intimidating too!

[Debb]

On the other side of the coin, being short rocks, too (5'4" here). I have never felt intimidated by tall women, for the record :D

edit: Oh, duh, what I came here to say: this would have made my day, sounds like that happened for you. Kids are so cute.

[Michelle.M]

That is a sweet story!

Intimidating, hmmm? Never thought of that. I am about 6'2" in heels. My baby sister is 6'1" in bare feet, so for me the height is not an issue, but I could see where it might be for men who aren't that tall.

And yes, I wanna be that tall, too! :)

[Inna]

We only realize how much we need acceptance when it truly happens. And yes, a little sentence, few words can make the day seem heavenly :)

[Avana]

We only realize how much we need acceptance when it truly happens. And yes, a little sentence, few words can make the day seem heavenly :)


yeah, part of it was the acceptance, but the greater joy i'd say was just knowing that someone looked up to me (in multiple ways!) despite all of my insecurities and trans baggage!

[Hope]

I'm 6'2" and get read a lot, mostly I think because of body size issues... well and my voice - and my make-up and and and.... But the one I can't change is being 6'2". I understand your pain.

I work in the cosmetics department with a girl who is 6'1" (who I affectionately refer to as "Shorty"). She was lamenting being tall one day. I told her "There is nothing you can do about it - so you just have to own it - rock it - revel in it - love it - make it your strength." 2 days later she bought and came to work in 5" heels. I didn't make the connection until about a week ago when I was complaining about my wig and she said "You know those 5" stripper heels I bought..."

I still hate having to wear the bloody thing, and I wish I could have a reasonable hair-line like other girls, but ... well... We have to own the things that we most loath about ourselves - otherwise they will own us. Make your weaknesses your strengths. Love yourself.

[Rianna Humble]

Thank you for posting this, Avana. I can understand why you felt so happy, and what a great response from the mother!

[andrea69j]

I'm just guessing, but you refrained from running up and hugging them both? How long did you have grin on your face?

[Avana]

I'm just guessing, but you refrained from running up and hugging them both? How long did you have grin on your face?

im still smiling today :)

[Teri Jean]

That is sweet and for your reference I am also 6-4. That little girl was right when she said "lady", you are a very striking lady.

[Melody Moore]

But it's really hard to be incognito when you are very tall like me - it is a very striking sight

But that is not a bad thing at all Avana, as Teri just said, you are a very striking lady.

Even at 5'10" I am taller than most women, but I always manage to get a smile & sometimes even a wink &
a door opened from most guys because they obviously find me attractive for whatever reason or another,
which is something I find really amazing now because I had all the same insecurities & trans baggage as you!

So enjoy the moment, hold your head high & be proud, show other your confidence & how happy you are in life
& it is amazing how many people will actually come up & just start talking to you. I am getting this a fair bit now
from strangers & when I am out shopping. The tall girl I mentioned in my earlier post came up & just started talking
to me after we made eye contact with each other & smiled at each other. She was looking through some belts &
was very undecided, but then I suggested one particular belt which she bought & I ended up helping her pick out
some other clothes. None of this probably wouldn't have happened if she wasn't so tall & beautiful. We had a good
chat while we were shopping & it was a shame that the Sinner's Ball was on here the same week end that we had
our last Out! Party (our monthly LGBT functions) because the girl already had plans to go to the Sinner's Ball, but
we ended our conversation after she said she will definitely catch up with me at our next 'Out! Party'.

So the bottom-line is the insecurities & trans baggage are just fears or demons we create for ourselves. We are
all different. Tall women are a fact of life. You are very attractive & others will be more smitten by that before
they ever be critical about your height. ;)

[Genifer Teal]

I knew I shouldn't have been on 38th st. See what I missed out on? LOL That would have made my day too.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Thats so cute and makes your day.

[Starr]

i am 6' tall and if i am in heels they are normally 3" heels. So i stand 6' 3" when in fem with heels, add along with that i weight 200lbs.. and have kind of broad shoulders.. It would not matter if i was in a dress and makeup or wearing a bag on my head some one that big stands out... so just deal with it and go is what i say. Yes i have seen several big and tall girls that are about my size.. and some a little taller... The thing i think about when it comes to being a large size, if there were not big girls out there buying dresses and blouses and so forth... then i wouldn't be able to find anything that would fit me.

[cd_in_de]

Sometimes someone can say something that just makes it all worth it.


Today I was walking down 14th st here in NYC and a little girl was walking with her mother up ahead of me. The little girl turned around and looked at me with big wide eyes and then excitedly told her mother 'Look how tall that lady is!'.

I am 6'3" or 6'4", for reference. Usually I am somewhat self conscious about my height, and today I was probably looking quite tall and thin in a slinky black maxi dress.

So the mother turns around and sees me and then asks her daughter "is that how tall you want to be??"

To which the little girl replies to my great joy, "Yes! I want to be just as tall as her!"

:D

Couldn't stop smiling the whole way home.

Wow. :-O That is so wonderful. :-)

[Miranda09]

Kids can be so adorable, and even the mom confirmed it. Yes, it is nice to be tall, even for a girl!! Your smile must have lit up all of 14th St.!!! ;)

[erika130]

Aww this is a great story Alana! Lil kids can b sweet and they are just so innocent
that's what I thought too when I first saw u, you're one tall girl! or actually I think I told you lol
anyways I couldn't make the group but hopefully was good.

I'm a lil on the short side so I can't say much but I think it is kinda funny that trying to be a guy, being short wasn't good, but as a girl I feel that I could be short or tall & it would be good either way.. Its still all about confidence I guess

[Longing2be-Trisha]

Avana that is such a great story! How sweet both of them are to recognize you for who you are a beautiful woman.

HUGS

[Schatten Lupus]

Such a cute girl.
One thing that helped boost my self esteem about being tall (6'4'') and larger framed was when I saw a lady at the gas station who was no more than three inches shorter than me, and almost nearly as broad shouldered. And with her was her maybe 8 - 10 year old daughter. And another time I was in Michigan I think, and I saw a woman who was taller than me. She also caught my girlfriend's attention, and being that tall we wondered if she was a CD/TG, but her height was really the only the only indication and we figured she must just be an unusually tall woman.

[Gaby2]

Now I'm smiling too - your joy is so infectious Avana. Gaby

[Kaitlyn Michele]

im still smiling today :)

thanks for sharing! glad for you...expect alot more of that..especially older women that are going to ask if you are a model.

6'2" here.....

[Avana]

thanks for sharing! glad for you...expect alot more of that..especially older women that are going to ask if you are a model.

6'2" here.....

haha - that happens occasionally since everyone in the city seems obsessed with models. too bad the right people haven't asked yet because i could use some extra cash!!

a few weeks ago i was at a restaurant with my girlfriend, who actually IS a model, you know with several agencies, and some random woman came up to ME and asked if I was a model right in front of her! my answer "no, but she is!" could have been an awkward walk home :p