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Christy_M
07-02-2011, 08:50 AM
My house just closed escrow yesterday. I move in over the next couple weeks. Onmy real birthday, I will be living full time in my new house and my neighbors will only know Christy. I am so nervous and scared. People are so unpredictable. I have always dreaded what people will think of me and while I am at a point where I have to be me, I certainly don't want to be the butt of jokes and/or the victim of ignorant bigotry. I am who I am and I have come to accept this but it still doesn't make it easier to think of the pain and drama that will come my way.

I used to be so scared to be on my own. While I am nervous about the drama without anyone there with me, I am OK with me so I know being on my own isn't going to be too bad. Of course I say that not having the experience of waking up for more than a few days without someone next to me. Maybe this will wear on me as time goes by but right now, I am at peace knowing that there won't be a significant other in my life in the foreseeable future. There may be "someone for everyone" and I have certainly had three someones that I married and subsequently divorced but maybe I am just not in a position to have another somone.

I also bought my "girl" car yesterday...a 1995 el dorado. Comfortable and reliable and fits into my garage. I have decided to keep my truck, too but will use my girl car to shuttle my younger kids back and forth to their mom's and going out on Friday's. My truck will be my going to work vehicle.

Debglam
07-02-2011, 09:06 AM
Good for you Christy! I offer you bread & salt as a (virtual) house warming gift :) and wish you all the best in your new home!

Thanks for keeping us informed.

:hugs:
Debby

AllieSF
07-02-2011, 09:08 AM
Congratulations for another major step in your life to being you. I have come to discover that being me really has little to do with my newly found mental freedom and TG/CD lifestyle. It has more to do with being yourself, accepting who you are and not worrying too much about what those that matter may think. I did not say ignore those close ones, but I do mean we all need to live our lives for ourselves. Doing that makes everyone around us better too. Regarding your worry about negative reactions, I do believe that those are just another series of life's trials, tribulations and hopefully lessons to assist us to move forward in life to accomplish whatever goals that we have. Good luck and enjoy your new home, life and freedoms.

Tomara
07-02-2011, 09:20 AM
Congrotulations Christy ,
I wish you all the best in your new home and your new life !!
Tomara

Jay Cee
07-02-2011, 09:25 AM
Wishing you all the best, Christy. I'm sure it wasn't an easy path to choose, but it was the right one.