Sayin goodbye.......

[Karren H]

...... To my beautiful nails!!! Sigh.... Going to clip them off... Just to keep peace in the family. My wife noticed them last night. Don't know how she couldn't since I accidentally jabbed her in the arm with them! Lol. Dumb dumb!! But it was a fun couple weeks with them nice and long... Taking those vitamin D supplements really helps!! 4 coats of matte clear polish!! They feel amazing!! Ohh well!

Here's what they look like. - http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/270310_10150230215452051_714332050_7879006_4478824 _n.jpg

Just wondered is anyone else able to fly under the radar with their SO and how long does it take for her to notice?

[JustWendy]

Karren, you have great nails - everyone is going to notice. But isn't that the point of having great nails - you want people to notice? Unless, of course, it's your wife's new divorce lawyer. ;)

Wendy

[NathalieX66]

Whew! I thought you were dissappearing for good. Lol! This forum would be an awfully dull place if you did.

It's always hard to give up something you've worked at. I'm not a fingernail person, my lifestyle is too rugged, and it's hard to play guitar with long fingernails.
I do get pedis, though not in deep summer when I'm out in sandals everyday. July/August is off-season for me.

[Eryn]

She's objecting to that length? What does she want, cut back to the quick?

Sorry, I understand the need for marital harmony, but those nails are well within the range for well-groomed men! Mine are about the same length, but not nearly so good looking due to years of nail-biting.

[Meredy]

She's objecting to that length? What does she want, cut back to the quick?

I agree, I let mine grow longer than that, and I never tought a thing about it. that's the length I start biting them :-)
I may have to reconsider now that I see how nice they look!

[Lady_Chaos]

I just started to grow mine and polish them. I have a lot of work before mine look as good as yours (did... sorry).

kind of weird to clip them, see if you can just trim them off and keep the clear coat... worth a shot.

[Cynthia Anne]

That title made me a little sick to my stomach! It scared me so! You have beautiful naiils and hands Karen! Sorry to here that they must go! WOW! What a week! First my hair now your beautiful nails! I don't think I can handle anything else this week!:eek::love:Hugs!

[drag n fly]

I paint my toe nails...not bright colors, but pale pinks...barely noticeable..My wife noticed...doesn't like it...but accepts it...She doesn't know about the other side of me (Jackie).
I visited the Physical therapists office this afternoon..Two of the women who work there know of my prediliction...It's fun bantering with them..They like my toes..
Karren..love your hands...lovely smooches Jackie

[karynspanties]

I would have thought that she would have noticed your breast growth. How are you keeping that from her?

[sissystephanie]

My nails have been that length for many years. My dear late wife would have had a temper tantrum is I had them any shorter. And mine are always a shade of pink!!

[Iloveacrossdresser]

Introduced my SO to a nail buffer the other day! He thought it was magic, loved the look of the shiny nails!

[Eryn]

Rather than clip them, why not file them back a bit and see if that will suffice? With your tips like they are, any amount of filing will make a visible difference. As you said in the other thread every one of us is in a closet of some sort, but I didn't expect yours to be a nail closet! :)

[Karren H]

She's objecting to that length? What does she want, cut back to the quick?

Sorry, I understand the need for marital harmony, but those nails are well within the range for well-groomed men! Mine are about the same length, but not nearly so good looking due to years of nail-biting.

In a family of nail bitters.... Mine look amazingly too feminine for her taste! :(

[Nicole Erin]

My heart is wrenching, I am choking on my own tears.

[lil red]

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Sorry for your nails going bye bye! I would be just about puking if I where in your shoes.

[Niya W]

At first I thought this was joke. Karren leaving us is like the all 7 seals being broken.


Tell your wife you want to make your nails like this
http://www.flickr.com/photos/26619412@N08/3961767252/in/photostream
http://www.flickr.com/photos/26619412@N08/3961767194/in/photostream

[RADER]

In a family of nail bitters.... Mine look amazingly too feminine for her taste! :(

Karren; Tell her that they are just rite size for picking ones nose. LOL
Rader

[Karren H]

That title made me a little sick to my stomach! It scared me so! You have beautiful naiils and hands Karen! Sorry to here that they must go! WOW! What a week! First my hair now your beautiful nails! I don't think I can handle anything else this week!:eek::love:Hugs!

Yeah!!! Bad week all the way around!


I would have thought that she would have noticed your breast growth. How are you keeping that from her?

She hasn't said anything about them... They grow a lot slower than nails.... Bigger but slower!

[Leslie Langford]

...... To my beautiful nails!!! Sigh.... Going to clip them off... Just to keep peace in the family. My wife noticed them last night. Don't know how she couldn't since I accidentally jabbed her in the arm with them! Lol. Dumb dumb!! But it was a fun couple weeks with them nice and long... Taking those vitamin D supplements really helps!! 4 coats of matte clear polish!! They feel amazing!! Ohh well!

Here's what they look like. - http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/270310_10150230215452051_714332050_7879006_4478824 _n.jpg

Just wondered is anyone else able to fly under the radar with their SO and how long does it take for her to notice?

Yes, I get that too from time to time - that, and a steely, flinty-eye squint and stare from across the dinner table when she suspects that I might have plucked my eyebrows too much or - horror of horrors! -actually waxed them to make them more manageable. :eek::doh::heehee:

[Danni Renee]

Karren,
Maybe you are attacking this the wrong way. Have you tried scratching your wife's back and a massage? Maybe then she will see the benefits of maintaing long nails...

Danni

[boardpuppy]

I agree with Danni and longer nails work real good for scratching the SO's back, maybe it will buy you a repreve (a little longer nails) instead of losing them all together.

[Karren H]

Don't they break in your hockey gloves? Mine used to.

A friend of mine is coming in from out of town Sat and giving my wife and me pedicures...yay!!!

Since I started taking vitamin D supplements they don't break at all. And I always wear mechanics gloves when working around the house.

[docrobbysherry]

My HANDYMAN has similar nails, Karren! I think your SO is a bit TOO DEMANDING!

Or, maybe I better check for heels and hose in my handyman's pack?! Eeek!

[dilane]

My late wife was fine with that length. Although I didn't color the tips and just buffed the nail, no polish.

A girl I date isn't so tolerant...wants manly nails cut to the bloody quick as far as I can tell :)

[Eryn]

In a family of nail bitters.... Mine look amazingly too feminine for her taste! :(

Well, tell her that hers look too masculine and demand that she get acrylics! What's sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose!

BTW, that's a joke, as in humor! I don't want to start a flamewar!

[Debglam]

Karren,

My wife HATES!!!! :devil::devil::devil: long nails in general and on me in particular! This is one thing I can live with to keep the peace however. I haven't tried these (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?155633-Fake-Nails-Tip-Stickers-(Sally-Beauty)-Now-What&highlight=) yet but falsies are probably the way to go!

Hi Niya! LOL! :heehee:


At first I thought this was joke. Karren leaving us is like the all 7 seals being broken.

[Karren H]

Karren,
Maybe you are attacking this the wrong way. Have you tried scratching your wife's back and a massage? Maybe then she will see the benefits of maintaing long nails...

Danni

She has never been one to give one or want one in return! Sigh.... And I forgot one biggie!! Without my thumb nails I can barely type on my Blackberry!! Ekkkkkkk

[ReineD]

I'd be happy with that length too, for my SO. I don't know if I should tell her that I think her nails are too long. Her nails are twice as long as yours, and she keeps them rounded, not square like yours.

I keep telling myself it is none of my business. But each time my boys come I hope they will not notice. :p


Hmmm. Vitamin D supplements. Thanks, I'll try those. My finger nails are awful, they keep breaking and splitting. They always have. I gave up on them years ago. Toe nails are good though.

[DebbieL]

Well, tell her that hers look too masculine and demand that she get acrylics! What's sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose!

BTW, that's a joke, as in humor! I don't want to start a flamewar!

Actually, this is a really good point and should be taken seriously. Women have been working for years to have the right to act more and more like men. They have tried to reduce the pressure to always be beautiful and have to spend all of their time getting glammed out when they have other things they would rather be doing.

When a woman insists on dressing like a man, keeping her nails, short, not wearing make-up, not getting her hair done, or not doing any kind of hair care, wears plain loose clothing, and so on, she needs to remember that these were rights and freedoms that women didn't have even 40 years ago.

I remember when our school was voting to let girls wear pants to school. Prior to that they were only allowed to wear skirts, and the skirts had to be no longer than knee length and no shorter than 6 inches above the knee.

The deal for boys was that since girls got to wear pants when it was cold, the boys could wear shorts when it was hot. When it started getting hot, I wore a pair of cut-off shorts. The gym coach told to of the big jocks to drag me face down across the asphalt pavement to rip up my legs, then take off my shirt and pull me by my legs face down to rip up my chest. It was a message to any of the other boys at school, "conform to the uniform (long pants, loose shirts, flat sneakers or oxfords) - or else".

Every once in a while, when I'm out as Debbie, all glammed up, wearing my skirt and heels, and I hear some teen-age girls getting the giggles, I'll turn around and tell them, "I had a wife, two kids, and I haven't missed a child support payment, remember that when your macho boyfriend gets you pregnant and then doesn't want to acknowledge that you even exist, or spends your rent money on strippers and hookers".

Ironically, my daughter ended up marrying a soldier boy, who had a big problem spending too much money on strippers and hookers. My ex hated him, and started asking Amanda if she wouldn't be better of like a guy more like me.
:D

[Karren H]

My HANDYMAN has similar nails, Karren! I think your SO is a bit TOO DEMANDING!

Or, maybe I better check for heels and hose in my handyman's pack?! Eeek!

I'm the only handy person around here!!

And here's my latest nail puller "cliper". With sheared nails!!

http://photos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/264975_10150230336692051_714332050_7879968_3297380 _n.jpg

[juno]

I read that the proper length for males is "no more than 3mm". So, I showed that to my wife, and she doesn't complain if I keep them at about 3mm. Sometimes I "forget" to file them back until they are 4mm. Yours are less than 3mm, so keep them going!

[docrobbysherry]

I give up, Karren! What is it?
Dam! My guidance TOLD ME I'd be GLAD I went trade school one day! I never listen!

[Niya W]

Hey after the Jessica Who incident who could blame me for thinking it was joke at first. I could see Karren doing lots of things like accidentally going on a date with a cut guy/girl or accidentally spending $5,000 on a boob job. Hey i t was buy one get one free. You don't to look weird with one super boob. Besides Karren is not a quitter , although she might look cute wearing red on horse and . Oh wait not sure she is the war kind of chick.

[Jamie Burton]

I've been keeping my nails that length (sometimes a bit longer, sometimes a bit shorter) for a long time now - only recently starting keeping clear polish on them. My wife notices but hasn't really commented on it. To my eyes, they're not too outrageous - I see a lot of guys with nails that long. You've taken better care of yours then most of them, though.

Maybe the length is okay but give the polish a rest for a while?

[Meredy]

I'm just going to grow my nails (maybe clear laquer) instead of eating them from now on.

[Andrea's Lynne]

I would have thought that she would have noticed your breast growth. How are you keeping that from her? Heeheehee! Honestly, Karen ...glad it's not you who's going!!!

[Tara D. Rose]

Oh thank goodness karen it was your fingernails. I thought you were saying goodbye to all of us here on cd.com. If you can live without your fingernails, we can too, but we can't now would feel the same if you left us. I was about to come to your house and ask you , what are you thinking? But then I was releived to know it was your fingernails. When you cut them off, can you send them to me ?
>>>love & respect.....Tara

[Karren H]

I give up, Karren! What is it?
Dam! My guidance TOLD ME I'd be GLAD I went trade school one day! I never listen!

You mean my 1892 Sampson Bulldog nail puller? Lol

http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/269589_10150219759242051_714332050_7763930_2566791 _n.jpg

[Patrice_CD]

i'm going to have to trim mine this weekend as well :( not looking forward to it. They look sooo pretty right now.

[Brenda456]

My wife doesn't mind my nails as long as they are frequently scratching her back!

[Eryn]

Karren, show your wife my nails and ask for a stay of execution!

[DAVIDA]

Jean is one of the most accepting people that I know.:thumbsup:
The only thing that she really doesn't like is if my nails get long.
Not to mention polished!:eek:
She thinks that polish draws attention to my big "man hands".
I really like having polished nails, but it is a small sacrifice in the long run.:)

[Keely]

Karren I don't think your nails were too long.
I just filed mine back to that length.

[Maddie]

Karen

It never fails I just get back from having mine cut back and filled and she says "those nails are too long"

what's a girl to do

[Gerrijerry]

[Just wondered is anyone else able to fly under the radar with their SO and how long does it take for her to notice?[/QUOTE]

it is not the lenght that she is really complaining about. She knows that you are a CD and that is what she is really noticing. Anything you do that even hints of your femine side showing will be a problem. You have been around this room long enough to know that once a non accepting wife sees anything all hell breaks loose. I don't know what you can do about it since so many have had the same problem and found that it was her way or the highway. We all live with that to some point. Loving our familly, against being happy as a CD or TS. I wish I could be more upbeat about it. For now at least as you said time to cut your nails.

[lynn_lynn]

my fingernails are nasty.. :( but my toenails make up for it in cuteness.. :D

[VioletJourney]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

:huggles My condolences.

[TxKimberly]

My daughter in law was kind enough to tell me that my wife told her that the number one biggest thing about my cross dressing that pisses her off is my nails. They have been fairly long for quite a while and more often than not have clear paint on them. I use my guitar playing as an excuse, but of course my wife knows better. . .

[BLUE ORCHID]

I'm the only handy person around here!!

And here's my latest nail puller "cliper". With sheared nails!!

http://photos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/264975_10150230336692051_714332050_7879968_3297380 _n.jpg

welcome to Karen's house of pain.
Oh That looks so painful.
But a girl has to do what she has to do.

Orchid

[BLUE ORCHID]

My wife doesn't mind my nails as long as they are frequently scratching her back!

That was the only thing that saved my nails they are the same as karens.

Orchid

[suchacutie]

Karren, those nails are shorter than my father's, for heaven's sake!

I am in the camp that, if anything, maybe filing them a bit shorter might be all that is necessary.

One thought: I know that after a couple of coats of matte finish, the "matte" gets pretty glossy. Is that maybe the real problem?

tina

[Claire Cook]

Well, MAYBE there is a positive spin to this. Now you don't have to worry about breaking them when you're working on the cars...

[Inna]

Noooooooooooooo! Karren those are such beautiful hands and nails, I wish I had such feminine hands. Leave her!, if she can't live with your nails then she's not worth it :) OK, OK, I am kidding, but really, what do you have to do to live this life in pretend peace, sometimes is hard to reminisce about the days gone by when I had wife, lover, friend, but then when I truly start to remember the pain and anguish it took for it to work, because of me, now, I am free and must say, would never, ever, evvveeerrrrrrr, commit my self to such a lie again.
Love your beautiful, former nails, Inna.

P.S.
You know, they grow back:devil:

[Intertwined]

I wish I could give some helpful advice here, but, if it bothers her, It Bothers Her.

For the past couple of weeks I have been letting mine grow out, usually they are torn to the quick. And for the past week, I have had a translusent gold polish on them, with a sparkle top coat.

No complaints so far, from home or work.

[BillieJoEllen]

My nails are always that length or longer but not as nicely groomed. My wife is always after me to get my haircut. I like it long. Its not down to my shoulders (although I'd like it to be). I recently had three inches cut off and she didn't notice. I thionk she'd like me to get a buzzcut but that ain't happening!

[TGMarla]

*Schniff!*
:cry:

Like Nicole Erin, I'm all choked up!

Man, way to fly under the radar!

Ah, well....you can immediately start growing them again. Sigh. Life is unfair.

[Genifer Teal]

I'm sure it has long since been explained in this thread but I have to ask, is that picture before or after clipping them? They don't look long at all by my standards. The fact that she is homing in on a small detail might be signs of larger issues lurking underneath. The tipping point of many arguments in often not the underlying cause. Keep the peace and watch out for what may lie ahead.

Here is a sad pic:

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["Mary"]

They don't seem terribly long. Too bad. But it's important to keep the peace and accommodate our loved ones. I take a high dose of Vit D and still have very thin, weak nails :(

[Karren H]

I'm sure it has long since been explained in this thread but I have to ask, is that picture before or after clipping them? They don't look long at all by my standards. The fact that she is homing in on a small detail might be signs of larger issues lurking underneath. The tipping point of many arguments in often not the underlying cause. Keep the peace and watch out for what may lie ahead.


It was before.... But on the positive side my wife has been in a great mood since she saw they were trimmed!! That makes the pain a bit more palatable... Kind of.

[Stephanie47]

Karen, those nails are not long. Maybe the wife is envious??? The only time my wife tells me to cut my nails is when I stab her at night with my toe nails. Getting older makes it a little harder to bend down and cut them.

[diannecourtney]

A family of nail biters. Oh well how long did it take to get such beautiful hails they looked better than my Kiss French tips. Good night and good luck.

[Inna]

I know a bit about pleasing others by own cost. Never worked, never will. Regret, compliance, repression, burden they all are ingredients of selfless conformity but never, never heel the soul. You can stifle and send, such to the abyss of self and exist on with pretense and colorful charade of life wonderful. Yet you your self, will die inside a little bit, each time and suffocate the spirit which is YOU.
I am sorry to write such dark account of seemingly mediocre incidence, but these are not mediocre by any standard, these are glimpse into our hearts, our souls, our true selves.

I hope you will have your nails back soon, as well as freedom to be, just simple YOU, loving, beautiful, wholesome, feminine YOU :)

[Debra Russell]

I have had long-er nails as long as I can remember and keep them pretty much like Karrens -- they do split, brake and chip very easely as they are quite thin but woulden't know how to function without them -- they do command a lot of attention just to keep decent -- sorry Karren but like hair they will grow back, buy your wife some time at a nail salon, maybe she will understand and quit bitting :devil:

[Tess]

How much vitamin D? My nails break as soon as they get a little longer than normal. The toenails are OK but my finger nails are fragile.

[Karren H]

How much vitamin D? My nails break as soon as they get a little longer than normal. The toenails are OK but my finger nails are fragile.

Started out ar 50,000 iu per week for a month then 50k per month. Perscriptiion. Now doing 2,000 a day otc. Really helps since we don't see the sun much.

[ChristineM]

She's objecting to that length? What does she want, cut back to the quick?

Sorry, I understand the need for marital harmony, but those nails are well within the range for well-groomed men! Mine are about the same length, but not nearly so good looking due to years of nail-biting.

About that far out is when my wife starts complaining. She considers about half of what Karren's showing as maximum for a man's nails.

[AliceJaneInNewcastle]

I'm sure plenty of people here won't believe me, but this is my nails as they are all the time, regardless of whether I'm in boy mode or girl mode. If you look closely, the polish has grown out a bit because it's 2 weeks since I last had my infills done. The nails are currently a little over 1/2" (13mm) past the fingertips. Yes, the backdrop of the the photo is this thread. :)

http://farm7.static.flickr.com/6138/5939547419_0030d915a8.jpg (http://www.flickr.com/photos/alicejaneinnewcastle/5939547419/)

I get the occasional woman compliment me on my nails but I've had no hostile or negative comments since I started keeping them long and painted at xmas. If I can get away with these in the masculine industry that I work in, you don't really have an excuse Karren! :p

[Karren H]

I love your nails Alice!! I'm always lurking on your FB page looking at them when ever you post new ones! Lol. Mine are starting to grow back but I'm kind of glad I clipped them back. The son and I spent al weekend going through his tools and then the van O2 sensor failed and I would have destroyed them!!!!

[AliceJaneInNewcastle]

I've worked on cars, computers, house, household furniture (eg cutting a sheet of thick perspex to make an overlay for the desk that my 3-monitor computer is on), gardening, putting up about 44 metres (45 yards) of steel fencing, etc. with long nails. I admit that the fencing did some damage and I moved my infill appointment forward a week (from 3 weeks to 2) to get the chipped edges fixed.

I'd have no trouble replacing an O2 sensor with my nails how they are, except that I don't have time to do it so I pay someone else. :)

[minalost]

My nails are that long or longer. Occationally the wife will say "you're nails need to be trimmed again." Then I'll file them back a little and we're good for a few more months.