--ADULT--How many of you are like this?

[TGMarla]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?

[Foxy Lady]

When my wife and I make love I often fantasize about being a woman.

[arula]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?

This is a very interesting question! Dress like a boy ,do like a boy. Dress like a girl, do like a girl. When I dress girl, I want to do everything a girl does, up to and including. I had considered myself hetero when I was young, Oh boy! not any more!!:rolleyes:

[Bobbie Lee]

I am with you Marla, I often fantasize about being female when making love to a female. I dont think you can put it on a scale of transseuality, at least I can't. Bobbie

[Dragster]

I think I'm the exception here. When making love to my wife, I don't fantasize about playing the female role, but I do fantacize about wearing female clothes (especially tight ones like corsets, and restrictive ones like 5" heels, and very tight skirts), being forced to, being tied up wearing them etc.

Tony

[Jeanette TS]

As it's been so long i have forgoten what lov or sex is but Ye i always think that i am a girl. That is why most T girls like to have there partner on top to feel that they are in control of you. that is what i have found out form other girls i chated to.

Jeanette

[MarinaTwelve200]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?

I suspect its a variant of AUTOGYNOPHELIA---from the greek" self-love- woman." Its classed as a "non homosexual transsexualisim"---where a hetro male is in love with the female side or version of himself.

Characteristics of AG include it is found in hetro males, usually older, 40's and beyond in age, (As opposed to Homosexual TS which is exhibited in much younger ,men--the traditinal transsexual) AGs are usually the types that, when they do, transition in later life--after the kids are grown.

It is said to be really a "highly internalized form of Hetrosexuality"

[Brianne_bc]

I hav moxed thoughts about this.... Ide love to be female, a lesbian of course, there are so many really good toys for women, and not many good toys for men, but then we have our own toy dont we... For kicks Ide love to have breasts as well as my penis, all the playthings.... Ide also love to have a pretty crossdresser to play with ;)

[freshfrankie]

I'm a heterosexual male but a submissive lesbian female. Great possibilities but it really cuts down the dating pool. Hugs!
Love
Jeannie

[Helen MC]

"I suspect its a variant of AUTOGYNOPHELIA---from the greek" self-love- woman." Its classed as a "non homosexual transsexualisim"---where a hetro male is in love with the female side or version of himself.

Characteristics of AG include it is found in hetro males, usually older, 40's and beyond in age, (As opposed to Homosexual TS which is exhibited in much younger ,men--the traditinal transsexual) AGs are usually the types that, when they do, transition in later life--after the kids are grown.

It is said to be really a "highly internalized form of Hetrosexuality"


Thanks for that useful info Marina.

I guess I fit that bill to some extent. I am of that age group, Hetereosexual, the idea of any sexual involvment with men is a total turn off for me. When I was married and had sex with my ex-wife she always went on top and took the active role and felt that I was being fuc**d by her not the other way round and I enjoyed it that way. She was a bit of a tom boy type and I sometimes used to think of us as being in a Lesbian relationship.

I do not want to have sex change (Gender Re-assignment) surgery but have always felt that were I to have ever done so I would have then become a Lesbian as I would have wanted to have sexual relations with women not men. Hence I am happy to keep my male genitalia, get my sexual thrills from Crossdressing , (I get a real turn on seeing myself in the mirror dressed in one of my female personae), and if I find another compatable and sympathetic GG to have sexual relations under her and taking the passive role.

[Rachel]

I've always done things in a girlie way when I'm en femme because it seemed the natural thing to do. When i started wearing my sisters clothes and loving myself as I wore them I always lay in the position of a woman It felt beter that way and felt like a girl

When my ex wife and I made love it was best for me when she let me wear her panties ( and sometimes her bra and slip too) and she said she enjoyed the feelin of being in control.

Now when I'm en femme I have a strong desire to be made loved to by a man, even though until recently I was 100% hetrosexual. Now I have released my bi side
and feel that wn femme I need to be entered but as a woman. So far I have given 'O' wwhen en femme and it was soooo good for me (and my partner enjoyed it too!!)

Crazy? No just another part of being a woman and doing as many girlie things as possible. That probably explains why I enjoy wearing a pad in my panties on certain days of the month.

Rachel. XXXXXXXXXXX

[Deana_CD]

Thank you Marla, all this time I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I love closing my eyes and imagine that my wife is making love to another woman when we are together

[Olesha]

I mainly dress when I'm with Krista my GG. Making love for me is strictly male/female. The dressing is just something I need to do.

[Sandra H]

Hi Girls.

Now that I live alone I have been making love to a very sexy woman, her legs look great in sheer tights, her breasts are nice and firm, she looks very sexy in her matching bra and panties. The only thing I could say is bad about her is when she gets ready for bed there is more of her on the chair, than there is in bed, her name is Sandra LOL.

I fantasize about making love to a sexy woman, but I also fantasize about me being made love to by a man or group of men, mind you in real life I am straight and would run a mile if a man should make any sexual advance on me. But that is the idea of fantasizing we can be what ever we want to be in our fantasizes.

[Michelle108]

I ofen fantasize about being a woman when making love with my wife. I find it a great turn on.
I don't think you can put a transexuality definition on it, though.

[ginafaye]

im always at least dressed in lingiere.....and she always takes the dominate role ............calls me you know some of those not so nice names but fun in the heat of passion...........

[Andi-Girl]

Marla-
you are not alone, more and more when my Wife and I make love I find that I think I am a real woman making love.
Andi

[Carlacd]

Hell, i just want to make love. Wether it be dressed or not. Wife dealing with the dreaded men-NO-pause.:mad:

[Nlenro-nu]

Hi! I'm Nlenro-nu I feel the same way. Most Macho Males have been rude and nasty towards me! Made me uncomfortable being male. I started crossdressing on a dare! Back in High School! I liked the clothes so much I was off and on about it! when ever I thought no one was watching I'd crossdress! Nowadays it don't matter who knows as it's not as Taboo as it
useto be! If a Macho male asked to have intercourse with me I say no!
But if Male that crossdresses as female I might be interested! As long as I can be dressed as female too! I went out with one of my sisters once while
dressed as a female. It was ladies night at a local Bingo. Strictly ladies night. Males showing up as Males were turned down. I goofed today I went
outside in my Male clothes but had forgotten to take off my make up! No one said anything!

[Rachel Ann]

I'm straight ... but when I'm making love ... I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?
I think that most of us do, at least sometimes. I also think that many non-TG men also sometimes do the same.

Fantasies are cool because they don't carry labels - it doesn't say anything about you other than what your dreams include. :cool:



I suspect it's a variant of AUTOGYNOPHELIA---from the greek" self-love- woman." Its classed as a "non homosexual transsexualisim"---where a hetro male is in love with the female side or version of himself.
I don't like that term much because it is often used as a "diagnosis" by psychiatrists who are unsympathetic to TG/TS patients' perceptions.

[jo_ann]

crap, I definetely fall into this category.. funny, last night my wife just asked me what turns me on, I just said "i dunno". truth is I get turned on by fantasizing being the woman all the time (and lesbian porno) :-), but I was fearful in telling her that. I guess I should tell her if it's normal for a CD'r

[Rachel Ann]

I guess I should tell her if it's normal for a CD'er
Well, it can be "normal" for any man. I usually cop out with "it depends" to questions like that. That's at least true.

As far as I know, fantasies and dreams still have no "abnormal" or forbidden zones.

[Sedona]

crap, I definetely fall into this category.. funny, last night my wife just asked me what turns me on, I just said "i dunno". truth is I get turned on by fantasizing being the woman all the time (and lesbian porno) :-), but I was fearful in telling her that. I guess I should tell her if it's normal for a CD'r

Same here. Fortunately, I'm out with my moderately unaccepting GF, and I've had a few uncomfortable exchanges like this with her. I've definately fantasized about being a gg when having sex with her, and admittedly, it gets me extra revved up. But, alas, I'm always with hairy legs, and having just pulled my boxers off.

[Lacy75]

Yeah,i have never been attracted to a man.But i am always imagining that i have female parts.I want to be a woman,but i also want to be with women.I get these strong feelings that i can only describe as feelings that are where only women should have feelings.And the sexual feelings i get from it blow away any that i ever had being treated and thought of as a man.I am not sure if there is a word or term for a guy who is like this.I just mark it off as just another screwy part of my personality!
Lacy

[shea]

It seems that most of girls from here including myself has dreamed of becoming lesbians :angel: I love to become lesbian when fully dressed and eventually I will have SO someday, I'll ask why don't you think of me as a woman and make love each other? I think being lesbian is one of the greatest feminine feeling we would ever want to have.....I don't know why I have this , but when I see same women making love, it felt so peaceful :Peace: inside of me

[Sam-antha]

I have read this thread through twice at least wondering just where I fit in, only to decide that I do not know.
As Male, I am male, in charge and penetrating.
In my male mind I am not really in that state, perhaps because it has been sooo looooong since I was orgasmically involved with another.
Dressed I definitely have other ideas, and they are definitely not male in nature.
The problem is "Do I wish for a female partner, a TV as I am, or a male partner. (Not a hairy one please)". I fantasize over each, and that can take a lot of time, pleasure and energy. But I still do not know what I want mostest. Am I getting the best of these three actions ?
Suggestions and thoughts please before I get into the state of starting a thread on this confusion.
Am I bi-curious or penetration curious ?

[miss_billy]

It seems that most of girls from here including myself has dreamed of becoming lesbians :angel:

I don't! If I was a woman i'd be hetrosexual because as a guy I fantisize and have have sexual experiences with guys, (unfortunatly not when dressed) i'd have loved that.:rolleyes: So i'd be hetrosexual insted of who I am now and that is obviously bi.:D

[erica12b]

sex whats that, i dream of there being another person(lol) , most of the time i want a gg to do me as a gg is that strange

[Jasmine Ellis]

Um, well, I have no wife, no girlfriend, I don't want a boyfriend, so, it's me on my own and well, do I need to say anymore? The ones who has wifes and can dress as they like good on you. The one's who can make love and dream how fantastic, just wish I could be. Dreams, how lovely darlings!

[Keri]

Only problem with "being feminine" while intimate with your gal is that she may want more than "just another gal" could provide, if you get my meaning.

My gal doesn't mind (actuall enjoys, from what I experience) foreplay while we're both sensually attired in silks and satins, but "prefers" that I doff the lingerie before I "get physical". OK deal, eh? ;)

[heather_nouveau]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?
Marla:

You are definitely not alone with this fantasy; I know I often share a similar fantasy. Don't know if there's a name for it or not.


Heather

[HaleyPink2000]

Can the Government Tax us for this type a sex? Mental!! Thoughts!!Dreams!!

Are these type thoughts shared by our GG's?


Woooo Questions!

Haley:)

[Bonnie D]

When I'm with my wife I am all male. I don't know how things would be if my wife knew about Bonnie and allowed her into our sex. I'm sure things would be different but she doesn't know so it's hetero and I don't fantasize otherwise while having sex with her.

When Bonnie comes out and gets dressed then she loves being with a man or men, she has also been with another cd alone and with other men. She likes to play and satisfy. She hasn't been with a gg but I'm sure she could. Also when she's alone, dressed or not, she fantasizes about being with men.

When I'm male I'm male, when I'm female I'm a ****.

Me as a whole; I'm physically strong, emotional mentally, calm, quiet, sensitive, artististic, ... a male / female balance. Of course some may say I'm not balanced at all.

I'm getting off topic here so ... I'm bisexual but almost like two separate people.

Bonnie

[emanon]

I guess I'm with a minority, at least from what I've read here. When I'm making love to my dear wife, imagining being a girl has gotta be the very farthest thing from my mind! However, I sometimes imagine being dressed, especially in lingerie, nylons, and heels.

For me, as with Olesha, making love is strictly male/female. No lesbianism or any other --ism involved. I'll avoid any other comments, as I don't want to offend or piss off anybody.

Emanon

[Imogen_Mann]

I'm not gonna answer this, it's to damn complicated to explain.

I will say that... whenever I am having sex, I usually prefer to be underneath who ever I am having it with, be they whoever, but it's not always... Just my preferance, and the urge can easily be overcome.

Ok... so maybe I am gonna answer it afterall.

Dressed and wishing I was female ? Yes, but only on those few very rare occasions that I had been part of a homosexual coupling. when I am with GG's (God bless 'em) I dont ever want to be female (dress like one, yes, be one NO)... It's just not cricket !

Hope that made some kind of sense.

XX

Jayme.

[suzy]

Oh yes......I love to fantasize that I am involved in a lesbian relationship when making love. It enhances the sex.

I have also fantasized about being involved in a threesome with my wife and I and a strange man. It is always exciting.....

I just love to fantasize.....doesn't everyone???;)

[dawnmcdaniels]

yupers I fall into this category as well.....not always but most of the time. But thinking further I am still anatomically the male when fantasizing while making love although I fantasize about having breasts and a womans body shape (ie rounded figure, heels and nails and stuff). wehwe thats confusing.

[Falcor]

My wife only want's to have sex in the dominant[her terminolgy,for on top],my half slip hitched up,my legs apart,her legs wrapped around my penis,no complaints from me...fal xx

[Paula UK]

i deffinately prefer sex as a girl!!! fortunately my GF likes this too so we have great fun in that dep't! to be treated 100% as a girl during the intimate times is truely wonderfull, taken "from behind" as a women is fantastic and to be spoken to as a dirty girl is amazing!


paula xx

[LisaRaye]

I always think and fantasize about being a woman/lesbian when makeing love to my gf. I wear lingrie for her and enerything she takes controll of me but I am not submissive just normal name calling that all. Its feel good when she treats me like a girl. If the name Roxxy came up in one of her conversation with one of her friends, and they say who is that?, point blank she would tell them that my girlfriend. and I love being her girlfriend. Its weird how it goes but with fun it is.:) :)

[KatieZ]

It's been so long since I've had sex I've forgotten which one gets tied up. :eek:



Hugs

[MsJanessa]

I have had many fantasies, and almost as many real encounters with both men and women---with men, I'm always dressed and made up--despite that I always take the active role---I suppose it has to do with Me wanting to dominate males---don't really feel that way with ladies--that has more to do with mutual pleasure--with a guy its all about Me---I don't really care whether they *** or not---with a T-Girl---depending on the girl and how attractive she is to Me--its really more about mutual pleasure---as far as the fantasies go---well I'm always the Queen of the Universe in My dreams---:dom:

[uknowhoo]

Count me in, Marla. I fantasize about being anatomically female while making love to my wife, probably about half the time. She's not aware of this. All she wants is her verile (sp?) man on top of her and in control, and that's just fine too. :rolleyes: Tammi

[HaleyPink2000]

Seems many people dream all kinds of dreams. From being a Train Engineer to Jet Pilot. Does this make us different than anyone else? No! Just means we are very Human! Not different, not some subterranean thing. But the same as everyone else. Would you think yourself different because you did dream of fighting a bear or swimming the Atlantic?
No! Point made! I find that I dream of many things, even day dream. Does that make me Gay or Strange? Does that make me a Jet Pilot? No! Well, guess I will not be going to the airport, HUH?

So for those of you that have thought of doing it with a Man or being a Woman doing it with a Woman. Does that make you Gay? Hmmm? I believe the answer is the same. NO!

I often dream of sexual scenarios of my past life and future. Does this make me different than anyone else? Hmmm, NO! Well, that’s correct I feel that I am no different than many here, and else where in this big world. Hmmm, normal HUH? Well, like yeah!

Ok, you’re here for the same reason the rest of us are here, HUH? Yeah! So since we are Sisters in the same blood so to speak. We do many many things the same. Have any of you done anything different than your Sisters that had went on before you? Hmmm, NO you say? Well I believe that there are few new stories in this world. Just new listeners.

Are you a New Listener. Maybe? But one thing we all have done correctly is to come to this forum and find out the answers. Answers that listeners need to hear.

Dream in your night time. Dream during your days. But, be who you really are.

I’m a Heterosexual Cross Dresser, very married. I feel lucky that I am. Yes, I might dream of many alternatives. Would I really want to do them? Maybe not, HUH?

Love to you all!
Haley

[Kath]

I've always viewed myself as a totally heterosexual male. However, when dressed I have fantasized about being had by a male but this is totally a fantasy. I don't think I could go through with it.

But! I'm afraid that I could easily enter a "lesbian" relationship with another CDer. I've never had the opportunity and probably never will but it has been a strong fantasy. I think my heterosexuality might jump right out the window if the opportunity ever presented itself. Guess it is one of those "you have to be there to ever truly know" things.

Hugs, Kath

[Lauren_T]

I feel a special kinship with the kind of woman who enjoys being feminine not to attract men, but for the pure enjoyment of girliness and girly things - and among them is where you find the ones who also savour femininity in others...

I long ago figured out that that's the reason why such a high % of my girlfriends were bisexual - it surely wasn't my rugged masculinity! :eek:

[Cesco]

Labels are difficult to overcome sometimes. I fantasized for years about what it would be like as a woman and my homosexual fantasies have me always as the submissive. My ex-wife and all previous girlfriends have been extremely dominant (quite male like) and not particularly positive in nature.

I am hetero and thoroughly enjoy the pleasures of a woman's body, yet am thoroughly confused at this point in my life.

Thanks to this site, maybe I will get good information and I can thrill in dressing and acting as a woman.

Your help in the future is greatly appreciated.

[StacyP]

I suspect its a variant of AUTOGYNOPHELIA---from the greek" self-love- woman." Its classed as a "non homosexual transsexualisim"---where a hetro male is in love with the female side or version of himself.

Characteristics of AG include it is found in hetro males, usually older, 40's and beyond in age, (As opposed to Homosexual TS which is exhibited in much younger ,men--the traditinal transsexual) AGs are usually the types that, when they do, transition in later life--after the kids are grown.

It is said to be really a "highly internalized form of Hetrosexuality"

Danged....messed up my day, now I something new to go research.......

Hetro, well, the ex's on top and control was always nice and toys with straps was always on the mind but never made to reality.

But after 15 years alone, again, now it will take a very special woman to get into my life and the odds aren't looking good now and in my area of the world.

[StacyP]

Seems many people dream all kinds of dreams. From being a Train Engineer to Jet Pilot. Does this make us different than anyone else? No! Just means we are very Human! Not different, not some subterranean thing. But the same as everyone else. Would you think yourself different because you did dream of fighting a bear or swimming the Atlantic?
No! Point made! I find that I dream of many things, even day dream. Does that make me Gay or Strange? Does that make me a Jet Pilot? No! Well, guess I will not be going to the airport, HUH?

So for those of you that have thought of doing it with a Man or being a Woman doing it with a Woman. Does that make you Gay? Hmmm? I believe the answer is the same. NO!

I often dream of sexual scenarios of my past life and future. Does this make me different than anyone else? Hmmm, NO! Well, that’s correct I feel that I am no different than many here, and else where in this big world. Hmmm, normal HUH? Well, like yeah!

Ok, you’re here for the same reason the rest of us are here, HUH? Yeah! So since we are Sisters in the same blood so to speak. We do many many things the same. Have any of you done anything different than your Sisters that had went on before you? Hmmm, NO you say? Well I believe that there are few new stories in this world. Just new listeners.

Are you a New Listener. Maybe? But one thing we all have done correctly is to come to this forum and find out the answers. Answers that listeners need to hear.

Dream in your night time. Dream during your days. But, be who you really are.

I’m a Heterosexual Cross Dresser, very married. I feel lucky that I am. Yes, I might dream of many alternatives. Would I really want to do them? Maybe not, HUH?

Love to you all!
Haley


Very, very well put
gotta find someplace to save to for the future.

[Khriss]

... I have a vivid imagination...fatacy's abound...
passive-aggressive..shades between +++
though I've always retained my original parts..
no "ovr-endowed" or wish "it" were off rants...
my own boobs would even ...be a "hobby" I do'nt need-- ;)
I'm a "transvestite" or MtF crossdresser perhaps...with options !?

I wish my emulation of femmininity..could garner a shared appreciation someday.... a rather small wish ... I hope...?

[Charlene Marie]

OUUUU Marla, good question. Absolutely I think about being made love to as a woman. My wife is really square however and her getting on top of me is as kinky as she'll get. I think its perfectly natural to want to take the submissive feminine position, considering our particular feminine fantasy. I've experimented with toys also, even the ones designed for women, its like the best of both worlds and a incredible rush.

[deobra d]

I'm new to the forum but will contribute my thoughts.

In me there is a switch...when dressed as male I'm hetero.When dressed in my female attire I am F**ked up.Want to be with girls,want to be made love to by a man or another cd.But when I see a transexual with breast and penis in my male mode I'm head over heels in love and could be very submissive to a package like that!!

Deobra

I didn't get this:eek:(round mouth) by eating square meals:p

[Rachel Morley]

OK call me boring if you like, but I NEVER fantisize about being a woman when making love. I always think of myself as a male...ok a feminized male....but a male all the same.

As far as fantizing about being an anatomical female or maybe being with a man....ewwww!!!!!:thumbsdn: :thumbsdn:

Boringly, totally straight...sorry!

[RenaCD]

Marla Very good Question! Haley Great Response! Can I stick something new in this Post? what makes us all think that our partners are not also having their own Dreams and Fantasy's. Aren't we all being a little self centered?
Isn't that what going on every time they pickup a racy novel? Is it that in our spacial nature and in our late-tin honesty we are willing to think about it and talk about it with our girlfriends? they all talk about with their girlfriends and even Mothers and Sisters. Why is it different for us?

[karen marie]

great response rena,
it's perfectly allright to have fantasies.
hugs,karen.

[joni-alice]

love the honesty of this post,
so I'll just add yes,:D
hugs
j-a

[janice4ever]

I'm with you. When making love to my wife, I imagine I'm the girl and this hunk of a man is making passionate love to, Sometimes it feels so real that I achive my pleasure too soon, wishing my dream would last longer

[dawnmcdaniels]

Making love to my wife.......What a concept!!

[Kadence_Lynn]

It has been awhile since I posted on here, but this seemed like the perfect place to start.

When dressed I want to be made love to like a woman in a lesbian relationship with my wife. I have fantasized about having sex with another crossdresser or transexual though and would probably jump at the chance. I have never been attracted to men but have always adored females in every way. It is really frustrating at times, wondering where I fit inside the spectrum of sexuality and transexuality.

Kadence

[HaleyPink2000]

OK, to my Sisters. I think that even if you look in the mirror, and what looks back is not exactly what you might day dream about. It's what you feel inside that matters. I want my Sisters on here to remember that when they look at another CD. Be nice and not degrading. You and the other person both have feelings. We all feel pretty in a nice bra and matching panties. But just because maybe my makeup is not quite correct, or maybe my skirt does not go with my blouse. Remember, in my mind I might feel pretty, and very femme. But only if a person asks you, should you comment, and most of the time please do so in private. Not to everyone in the TriEss meeting. I have been to Meetings where one CD tells another, things that you know are hurtful. Please don't be that way.

Per this thred, I don't want to cut down anyone for their dreams. They are their dreams. So please, try to be atleast that diverse to except everyone on here. I sometimes might have trouble with some things. But I try to remember that it takes all of use to make up this world. It would be real dull place if we were all alike, and had the same dreams all the time.

Haley:)

[ashley]

When every I make love I always think about it as a woman. It just feels to be the right thing for me.

[Lotte L]

Hi Marla,

As a man heterosexual, as Lotte lesbian. Sometimes when I have sex with my wife Anna suddenly Lotte is in charge.

Hugs,
Lotte

[PattiL]

Hi Marla,
Absolutely I do. It's nice to know there are others out there who do the same.

[AlisonNC]

What a relief..I thought I was wrong for feeling that way but when I have sex with my wife I would love to exchange places. I want to be the one in the lingerie and experience "it" from the other side.

[CarmenG]

my wife gets on top from time to time and i think she feels when i begin to behave like a girl when she is in that position. at that point she quickly gets back on the bottom..... maybe one day she finish on top....:(

[Dana]

During my early to mid teens when I was trying to sort this whole thing out about being a crossdresser ~ I had experiences with other teen males that were ~ gay. I'm not gay. I'm not even Bi! But, I had to go through what I went through to get to where I'm at today. Had to sort it all out!

Gay men are into men ~ and I can tell you they don't like men that like to dress in women's clothes! You think women get upset about your crossdressing get with a gay man!

I did not find the experience all that un-pleasuarable. The control, the manipulation, the way that you could lead a man around by the neck of his shirt! The thing is, I wouldn't reciporcate.

The problem with men is that, I just don't like men! I just don't! For most men, almost all of them ~ its "Wham! Bam! Thank you, Ma'am!" I don't like their attitude! I don't like their smell! I don't like the hairness! I don't like their maleness!

But, I like ~ nay ~ I love femininty! I love women! I love thier skin, their touch, their tenderness, their emotions, thier attitude! The thing is about women is that in our society, ~ they can be masculine (Spell that Tomboy) and still remaind feminnie!

That's not an option for men! Which is total BS!

Me? I'm part girl! Deal with it!

If you've got a problem with that? That's what it is! Your problem! Am I a lesbian trapped in a man's body? You bet!

[Deborah]

When i was married i had to fantasize i was the female or else i couldn't finish the task. ;)

[terza]

i do enjoy all-female porn as much as the next guy.

i have a hard time stretching my mind to be female
anatomically -- its hard to be the woman, even dressed
as one, when i'm using my ****. and another thing is
that i like to be very aware of my physical/sensory limits
to the sensual experience -- how our bodies fit in
different positions -- and not to leave the parts i do
have ignored while exploring for parts i don't have.

on to resolution...
so to resolve my female fantasy, i'd (at times) experienced
vicariously through my lover's (female) body. in sex, she
is treated in the manner i would have desired. unfortunately,
sometimes the realisation of my fantasy gets too rough on her.

alternative...
though, after a few discussions, giving into a passive
role sounds do-able, i have yet to go through w/ becoming
the receiving end of a sexy blonde, my former wife..... for me, it is alot easier to be passive in
private fantasy than in reality where interaction is
uncontroled and dynamics shifts constantly. and when
trying to get into balance, i'd impulsively become
active/controling.

[Lawren]

Yes, Marla. I have done this quite often also. I have gone as far as wanting to take hormones to develope my own natural breasts to improve my perspective/performance/sensation during sex.

[Lilith Moon]

Yes, Marla. I have done this quite often also. I have gone as far as wanting to take hormones to develope my own natural breasts to improve my perspective/performance/sensation during sex.

My understanding is that taking female hormones will reduce or eliminate your sexual performance and sensation. :confused:

[Lawren]

I decided a long time ogo that hormonws weren't for me anyway. Too many possible side effects.

[bobbie]

I too find myself fantasizing when making love with my wife, and myself. I don't know a name for it,but I find myself getting lost in it more and more. I imagine myself as my wifes female partner, or sometimes switching roles with her. As a child I used to imagine that when I was older it would be a great thing if on a daily basis I could decide to be a woman or a man. I have always wanted to experience the feelings of a woman. My wife has indulged me some with dildos and other sex toys, but dressing en femme has not happened yet. I am hoping one day she will have the courage to feel comfortable enough for me to do this.
Hugs and smiles,
Bobbie

[sweet_penny]

of course, isn't this the point beyond dressing feminine, being feminine, making love like you are feminine, I mean it is all part of the same package. and I believe the true goal and reason to crossdress.

I think this is where some cd'ers get frightrened, I mean femininity is very powerful and is what drew us in in the first place right?

sweet_penny:doll: http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/images/smilies/doll.gif

[MarieTS]

I don't often disagree with many of the posts, but I was suprised so many did not think the desire to be feminine during the physical act of love was TS. This was one of the first questions I was asked by my psych... "Do you, and if so how long have you imagined yourself, dreampt or desired, to be a woman? And do these feelings surface and exist during sex and masturbation? Yes, gals-- he said that can certainly be a significant indicator if it is a consistent pattern/desire. It's not the whole enchilada mind you, but it can be one important piece of a very large puzzle.

[Keri]

[QUOTE=Lauren_T]I feel a special kinship with the kind of woman who enjoys being feminine not to attract men, but for the pure enjoyment of girliness and girly things - and among them is where you find the ones who also savour femininity in others...
QUOTE]

Couldn't agree more! I feel that gals who "enjoy being feminine just for the pure enjoyment of girliness" are the most likely to understand/empathize with our enjoyment in being feminine too. I'd not enjoy being "with" a butch type lez, I guess that makes me a closet lipstick lesbian in that I'd like both lovers to be sensually feminine.

[joanlynn28]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?
Yes I am in that same situation my only problem was that I told my wife that I felt this way too. Not the thing to do. She saw my online activities last week, I was trying to find out where she was getting her information from about our common so called problem in her words. Now that she has left me I guess now I can pursue becoming a anatomically correct female in all her glory.

Joan Lynn Thomas

[Sweet Susan]

I'm curious. I'm sure there are a lot of girls like me out there. I'm straight heterosexual, but when I'm making love to my wife (or to myself, for that matter), I often fantasize that I'm making love as an anatomical female. Is there anyone else that does this often? Is there a name for this? Where does this lie on the transexuality scale, I wonder?


I've done this so many times I cannot even begin to imagine how many times. It is perhaps my second favorite fantasy. I have no idea what it means, and I have no way of figuring it out. I do know that I have other fantasies that run along these lines.

[Michellefcd]

I do have that fantasy sometimes and my wife always knows when I am in "girly" mode.

[Darlena]

When you take a walk on the wild side you are in terra incognito if you aren't ready to face the fact that your femme side is dying to get some fresh air and breathe. Be ready to deal with the duality of your nature and just accept the outcome. It's easy for me to say, I know, because I could and should be considered a Bi-sexual. If I met the right man now I could be happy the rest of my life being on the bottom. And then again, if I met the right woman I could be alright with that as well. But I think my chances are probably better with a man. Love & kisses,

[NikiRayne]

excellent thread!! yes as niki I am Female in every aspect. i want to be and do everything as a female, we all strive to make ourselves as female as possible with clothes and makeup, I try my hardest to be that female.;)

[Kirsten41]

More and more as I make love to my wife i would be like to be the woman recieving it. I love to have my legs open when on top as i swivel my hips around. It feels so good as if I was the one recieving it. Or when see is on top i have my legs open, but you have to be careful with it. Go nice and slow. It just feels so good and........right.

Love Kirsten

[AndreaRose]

When I'm in male mode I find the idea of sex with another man unappealing to say the least. But when I'm dressed the thought of having a sexual encounter with a man is something I fantasize about. The idea of being put in the complete feminine role is very exciting but I really don't think it's something I could ever go through with.

[dawnmcdaniels]

I don't know TGMArla ...I have never made love to your wife....LOL

[RhondaLynn]

As a man, I have never found any attraction to other men.
As I accepted Rhonda as part of me, I thought of meeting w/ others like me, not necessarily for sexual means, but to see what it would be like for Rhonda to interact with another CD. Never happened (yet), not sure how the roles would work out.. hmm..

I've had sex w/ GGs as Rhonda, and found that with a GG, Rhonda is a dominant lesbian. It was enjoyable, but Rhonda's mostly a submissive femm persona, so it's not as much her as it is Lynn who is the dominant lesbian inside us.

I used to think that if Rhonda were to be with another man, it would have to be another femm CD, but as Rhonda's matured, I've accepted that as a woman, she can find desire for a man, and could have sex with a man (the right man) without posing any confusion as to our collective sexuality. After all, there are 3 of us here, Rhonda, Lynn, and the guy who pays the billls. There's no reason that we all can't do our own thing and not still get along.

[ronda]

When my wife found out i cd the sex stopped but i do want to be a woman
when making love

[Miriannah]

I almost exclusively fantasize about being a woman who is with a man, however I am attracted mostly to females. For others, I suppose your sexuality would depend on who you envision your partner being:

If you see yourself as a female with another female, then you just love women that much. Otherwise, (like it or not) I'm almost positive there's a degree of bisexuality involved. In a world where the brainwashing of "right and wrong" gender roles didn't exist, nearly everyone who has fantasies like that would have some degree of bisexuality.

Just my beliefs, anyway.

[ericalynne]

definitley feel like a woman when i make love. i so want to experience sex as a woman. like many of your lovely sisters i often fantasize, when dressed, that i a a total submissive woman having sex with a man

[Lauren415]

I love haveing sex in a female sub role, the girl i am sleeping with right now we take turn who is sub, very fun.