How hard is it to learn to speak in a feminine voice?

[Loretta]

I know it requires practice, but how hard is it to learn?
I have nothing but time for the next 5 days. Is it possible to learn the concept in that small amount of time? I can practice whenever, but I need to get the technique down first.

[Alexiz]

Hehe, I wish it was possible in only 5 days. I think that'd be a miracle of sorts.

There's plenty of websites and instructional videos out there on how to get started. Candi's videos on Youtube are the ones I enjoy the most. Melanie Speaks offers a lot of great advice, and it's unnecessary to buy her dvd/cd... all the information you need is listed on her site.

Be prepared for a lot of patience. Some claim they achieved a femme voice within 2 months... many others stated that they had be able to reach it in 6 months. It all depends on your dedication and effort. For some, it's a physical obstacle, as their voice box doesn't allow straining to a larger extent. Always take your time with things like voice modulation, you don't want to cause permanent damage. You'll probably hear that all over the place when you look into it more deeply.

[Nicole Erin]

To look into the videos like candi's or if you bought melanie's or whatever, what you get is 10 minutes of babble for each one minute of info you can actually use. If you watch Candi's videos, be prepared for 20 minutes of babble for each minute of useful info. All the good advise is buried in incoherent babble so by the time you get to it, you are likely to miss it. Just cause Candi passes or got DD implants doesn't make her a good teacher. It just means she is fun to stare at.

So let us cut to the chase of the basics -
1) get over your nervousness and feelings of silliness. Now. this is the biggest roadblock.
2) Learn to really get a feel for what goes on in the throat when you cop a loog, or gargle, or change your voice to it's deepest tone or falsetto. think about what it feels like. concentrate on this.
3) Work on restricting the lower part of the throat, but not too forced. this will kill the bass tones that make a man voice male.

You will have to practice different tones, feeling the muscles, and yes you will have some flaws at first. Once you can learn to control your throat muscles when speaking, especially the lower ones, you can work on fine tuning your voice.

Now me, my voice may or may not be perfect but it has yet to give me away like on the phone or whatever.

How long does this take? Hard to say, perfecting it can take months yes but getting a starting point should not take more than a few days. It needs not be perfect to at least use it.

Just don't talk like a drag queen or talk "soft" and think that is an excuse for a femme voice, it is not. Talking soft or quiet? Ever heard of a quiet GG?

[StarrOfDelite]

Good advice from Nicole Erin. Just wanted to add that you need to be prepared for anything. For me, at least, the hard part is to use my feminine voice instinctively. When I am concentrating, have a chance to pick out what I want to say, and form the thoughts in my mind before I speak them, I'm pretty good. It's when something unexpected happpens that I lose my voice. The other day I was out in a store in sandals and a sundress, and stubbed my toe on a protruding table leg, peeling the toenail back about 1/2 inch, and extracting a lot of crimson fluid. I burst out with a baritone expletive. Neither feminine or ladylike, but although it did startle and offend a couple of other shoppers, it made the hurt a little more bearable. I think there's a scene similar in "My Fair Lady" when Eliza bursts out in a spate of Cockney guttersnipe language at a tea party when she loses her temper about something. I'd have to say the Acid Test of feminizing your voice is whether you can curse in a woman's tonality and inflections when you're reacting to something spontaneous.

[Stephenie S]

I know you will hear otherwise, but I would say a year should see you on your way. All it takes it practice, which you know already. Actually it will take you MUCH longer than a year for you to get to the point where your voice it doesn't need any more work at all. But you should be comfortable in a year or so.

Listen. Listen to women. Listen to the radio. Talk like them. Repeat what you hear a female announcer says on the radio. Don't just do it once. Do it continually.

Get over yourself. Yup. You are gonna sound silly to yourself. But others don't know that. When you meet other people, they have no idea what you sound like. So just show them. They'll accept it. People always do, you know. Nobody says, "Hey! You have a funny voice." while they shake your hand. (maybe later, though, huh?) Think! Lot's of people have funny voices, ESPECIALLY women. Lot's of women have funny voices. Nobody cares. That's life.

DO IT ALL THE TIME! The ONLY way to find your feminine voice is to use it ALL THE TIME. Go full time, at least with your voice. Unless you are REALLY talented (like CandiFla), you will never find your feminine voice while you are slipping easily back into your comfortable "guy" voice whenever it's convenient.

The memory of that stubbed toe, Starr, should be enough to allow you to remember to keep your "guy" voice hidden. Me? I stopped using that sort of language. I decided that I was a lady, and ladies don't talk like that. In retrospect I am glad I did.

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[Kendra Sue]

Not too hard for me. I have been called mam and mistaken for my spouse on the phone many times

[PrettyFlowingGown]

its hard for me cause i have a stutter. i try to whisper if i'm talking femme, it helps me with the harder words

[Ava McGhee]

Similar to kendra sue, not very difficult for me at all; a man got the wrong number and reached my home phone instead of his wife's number and actually mistook me for her until I said "DUDE, ya got the wrong number!" Then again, I have been practicing for a few months now. Apparently it's paying off. :p

[kelsey12]

I guess it depends on where you are all ready are it took me about
4 months to be called mam on the phone, and I was using my new
Voice 24/7 so practice practice practice

[Engendered]

3) Work on restricting the lower part of the throat, but not too forced. this will kill the bass tones that make a man voice male.


It's things like this that I've never been able to follow in instructional vids. I wouldn't know how to restrict the lower part of my throat anymore than I could choose which side of my stomach to digest food with. :)
It's the physical aspect of it that always gets me. It's like trying to teach someone to whistle if they can't. Putting your lips together and blowing sounds like good advice, but ends up in a lot of blown wind and not a lot of whistle. There's a definite "knack" to feminizing your voice, and I haven't quite found it yet.

[linda allen]

Just remember, GGs have been talking like they do their entire lives. You're not likely to master it in a few months.

What have I observed about the female voice? Typically, females talk faster and say more than a man would. If I'm sitting with three females, I might as well shut up and listen, I'm not going to get a chance to speak unless they ask me something.

[Ava McGhee]

It's things like this that I've never been able to follow in instructional vids. I wouldn't know how to restrict the lower part of my throat anymore than I could choose which side of my stomach to digest food with. :)
It's the physical aspect of it that always gets me. It's like trying to teach someone to whistle if they can't. Putting your lips together and blowing sounds like good advice, but ends up in a lot of blown wind and not a lot of whistle. There's a definite "knack" to feminizing your voice, and I haven't quite found it yet.

If you place the thumb and fingers of one hand on either side of your trachea, kinda like you're pinching it, you should feel your adam's apple bob up every time you swallow. What helped me was practicing swallowing and not allowing my voicebox to lower... Learning to do that lead to me learning how to constrict my throat. Hope this helps...

[Stephanie47]

It may be easier to learn American sign language and wear a cervical collar!!!

[Shelly67]

Hmmm something to think about for sure . The voice we all own , be it deep , booming , whatever certainly seperates us all in our own unique way . Perhaps theres one simple way to attain a more femanine vocalness ? Speak slowly , lower the volume ( dare I say it - cease cussing and swearing ) and try to keep thing calmer perhaps ?? Maybe no matter the nationality , it may make us sound slightly gentler ....... not quite gentile . I dunno .
I love hearing peoples voices , theres simply nothing better than hearing a polite well spoken person . Joanna Lumley , Carrie Fisher are perfect examples . Husky , deep , very authorative , sexy , and attention grabbing . perhaps there is something to be learnt here - my wife has often remarked I sound less harsh when dressed and nattering away . Maybe it's something to do with being relaxed . She also spoke of the hilarity watching me cuss the television whilst enfemme watching football .
Needless to say that has ceased - football in man mode only now .......
I adore accents too - Russian , Icelandic , German , the sound is almost hypnotic .
Which on reflection of this thread makes me smile thinking of voices , how we alter them and speak differently today .
There seems to be a fashion in the UK at present , the youths speaking in a manner almost like every statement is a question . The tone of the voice becoming higher as the sentance becomes either more important or at an end . I think it's known amongst some as " upspeak " or "Chavfrican" - a loose speaking " street "style mimicking an almost west indian tongue . It ( well to me ) sounds rather daft to be brutally honest . No wonder we also have a culture of NEET . I bet every UK person on here , whilst in a queue or public place has experienced a skin crawling moment hearing people speak in upspeak .
Innit ?
Speck !
Peace out .



I beg your pardon ?

Good thread

[linda allen]

It may be easier to learn American sign language and wear a cervical collar!!!

Or get one of those buzzing voice box things people who have lost their vocal chords use.

[lindseycdg]

I find making your voice a little nasally helps too!