Outed by my wife to her best friend.

[Christine1954]

I have been out to my wife for a while now and thought everything was going well.
I fully dress usually only one night at the weekend, but change every evening into one of my silky nightdresses and heels. I have brushed off several comments from my wife that I am pushing this too far at times because generally she has been accepting. What I failed to see was that she did not want to upset me by asking me to be her man more often and that she was suffering. We finally had a long talk and reset the limits but only after she had confided in her best friend. My wife explained to me why she felt it neccessary to talk to someonelse and expected me to be angry with her. I could not be angry with her, but I was with myself for not recognising that she was suffering.
I have been with my wife and her best friend at our home today and nothing was said about it. In fact her friend appeared to be totally unphased about it and we chatted as if nothing had changed. My wife assures me that her frend will keep my secret to herself and she would not have trusted anyone else to talk to.
I have learned to be more appreciative of my wifes feelings and that I must not let this activity run away uncontrolled again.
A word of warning to other CD's with tolerant SO's!!!!!
Christine. :o

[Eryn]

Well, you trusted your wife, and your wife trusted her friend. One wonders who her friend will "trust" with this juicy little tidbit? After all, the friend has nothing to lose by outing you.

This is one reason I encourage SOs to join the forum and get involved with the GGs in FAB. It is unfair to expect our SOs to keep this secret to themselves and it's much better for them to share it with SOs who are in the same situation and who understand the value of anonymity.

Eryn

[ReineD]

I'll echo Eryn. Please do encourage your wife to join here. After her first 10 posts, she can apply to join FAB. The instructions are in my signature, and also on the site's index page under "announcements", next to the FAB forum.

Even though my SO told me in the very beginning and I was immediately supportive, I also felt a need to connect to other women in relationships with CDs. :)

[BLUE ORCHID]

Hi Christine, That could sure be a game changer keep us advised.

Orchid

[DonnaT]

I've told mywife she can talk to anyone she wishes. Nothing for me to be embarrassed about.

[NyssaF]

My wife has confided in her best friend a couple of times. Her best friend has become a very good friend of mine, too. She sees absolutely nothing wrong with the cross-dressing. That's really good, since it has helped my wife become even more accepting.

[Erica Thorn]

I agree with the others, see if you can get her to join here! My SO didn't have anyone to speak to either before joining here and she hated it... apparently she loves it here and our relationship has been getting better since she started chatting with you guys ;)

[RylieCD]

My Wife is a memeber here and on the FAB forum but has also said it is not the same has talking to someone personnally. and I think it is someone who is not part of this lifestyle already. I have told her that she could share this with her BFF if she wanted but she felt that her BFF may share it with others which we do not want at this time. Sometimes the actual physical conversation helps more than typing here.

[kendra_gurl]

Christine: you have taken a very big step in recognizing how your activity has made your wife suffer and I applaud you for taking the steps necessary to help her. I hope you can see now how MODERATION is the key and she needs her husband more than you need Christine every night