Come out to a family member today :)

[karlas dream]

This has been a great day.... for the first time I have told someone I class as family someone very close to me.. I was so worried I was feeling sick.. but all was good she was happy and even was giving me advice... I feel like a big big weight has been taken off me...

[Inna]

Awesome to hear, acceptance is the grandest of them all

[Megan-Louise]

Way to go babe :) enjoy it and the confidence will soon flow to help tell others xx

[Kaitlyn Michele]

i'm very happy for you!! I know how that feels...

all the best to you and your family!

[Frances]

It is nerve-racking the first few times. After a while it becomes incredibly easy. The shock and surprise, however, remains the same for every subsequent person told. I fine-tuned my script over time and could anticipate the reactions from the people I was telling. It wasn't quite entertaining, but almost.

[Starling]

Karla, I've been surprised myself at how relatively easy it's been for me so far. Of course, I haven't gone full time yet, so most of my friends haven't had to get used to the new me in 3D.

:heehee: Lallie

[Melody Moore]

Hi Karla, I think every single TS person on this site knows the feelings you go through when you come out & I
especially agree with what Frances has said here. Coming out to someone for the first time is a very hard thing
to do & I know that feeling of relief when you do. But as Frances pointed out, after a while it becomes incredibly
easy to do. If you think it is a weight off your shoulders coming out to one person, then wait until you have come
out to everyone, even if they do happen to reject you. That was the most liberating experience of my life.

If people don't want to try & understand & support me, then they ultimately don't want me to be happy & they
would rather I keep living my life as a huge lie. So I don't need people like that who don't appreciate the level of
courage, integrity & honesty I have attained in my life. It is no loss at all losing the bigoted people out of my life,
instead, I found my life has flourished with more friends & a bigger social circle than ever before. Once you have
finally transcended your fears, then people will gravitate towards you because they want something that you have.
Good Luck & keep us posted here as you move forward. :hugs:

[danielle40I]

I was initially hesitant to add a response to this thread by virtue of being cd as opposed to trans. To be sure, the journey of a TS is filled with permanace as one aquires the physical to more precisely coincide with the spiritual. That being said I find empathy with reaching out to a family member...not so much to make another aware of the person that you are...but as an afirmation to yourself that you are truely the wonderful person you are and desire share yourself with others. In my own way I understand that self afirmation as I too, a few years ago, shared myself with two very supportive cousins. For me the experience was cathartic and so very clensing. I believe, in my own way, I feel your joy Karla. Thank you for reminding me of another positive step for me.

[Hope]

Good job!

It never gets "easy" but every time you do it it gets easier. And then one day you don't have to do it anymore.

[Alexiz]

That's great. I've been reading a lot of stories of people coming out today.... makes me jealous XD

Situations make it so that it's not the best idea for me to go and tell everyone, otherwise I would. There are some more important things at hand.. but I'll get around to it eventually!

Things will definitely start to look up for you. Having even one person on your side, someone close, makes the biggest difference. I'd kill (not literally) for someone like that, within my immediate family. A better future awaits you! c:

[Rianna Humble]

This has been a great day.... for the first time I have told someone I class as family someone very close to me.. I was so worried I was feeling sick.. but all was good she was happy and even was giving me advice... I feel like a big big weight has been taken off me...

Hi Karla, I know exactly what you mean about being worried sick, but congratulations on overcoming that and telling her! :bighug:

It definitely makes it easier when the person you tell has such a great reaction, so I m really pleased for you!

Even after a year full-time, I don't know whether it really gets any easier, or whether you just get used to the worry.

[karlas dream]

Thank you everyone... I have not told my mum or dad as yet I don't think they would take it very well... I am going to tell them soon and then the it is up to them I am sick of living a lie, and it is now time to be who I was born to be.. not what they tried to make me :) I am still the same person but I now have boobs and wear make up oh and like to dress different.. and not to forget walk, talk.. lol this will be a fun talk when it happens................

[kelsey12]

Okay I remember the first time I came out to a family member she seemed to be as excepting as she could be more along the line of supportive but that changed she ended up rejecting me people change I would never wish this on any one but it does happen this is the just off my experience I have some family that is supportive and will remain supportive just know things and people change hope it works out perfectly for you

[karlas dream]

In the past hour I have told my Sister about me... the feeling I have from that is so good.. I want it more and more its a bit like a drug the feeling right now I am on top of the world :)

[thechic]

Awesome to hear,best of luck,It gets easier the more people you tell.

[karlas dream]

It all went wrong 2 days after I told my sisters.. they turned nasty on me to the point I was told I was ill and needed help also was told i would be killed if I told anyone else.. thay said lots more that upset me so much for a bit.. questioning my self and then I snapped out of it and give them as good as they give me... I feel a lot better now after standing up for myself this is something I have never done with anyone.. and it feels good :) I love my sisters and I know it was a shock for them but the did act like kids and they know that I think now... well I hope they do

[Rianna Humble]

I'm really sory to read that they turned on you like that. Do you know what changed to make them behave in that way?

[karlas dream]

Yes They went to a spiritualist church and someone told them something.. so I guess a ghost changed there mind.... the more I think about it the more it makes me laugh.. lol

[Starling]

I'm glad you're able to see the humor in their response, Karla. Let's hope your sisters will learn to relax and enjoy all the ways we have of being human.

:) Lallie

[Aprilrain]

I love how people go to church to commune with god and come out slinging arrows at everyone else.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

karla

your families acceptance or lack of it will impact your quality of life

you did a great thing by standing up to them. they need to know this is a real and serious matter..it's not a whim, its not a phase, its not a "lifestyle choice"... in their minds they may feel like they are helping or protecting you by saying these things...they may feel they can actually change your mind, so by giving it back to them, i hope you made it clear this is very real, and if they want to help you can show them how ..

in any case, be prepared for LOTS of bumpiness with family. it's just the way it is.

it does feel wonderful to finally stand up for yourself and i'm happy for you on that!