Danni Renee
07-29-2011, 10:21 AM
I wonder if it is time to tell the kids. I came out to my girlfriend, ex-wife, and mother - all successfully. I am back from overseas and will now have shared custody of the kids and I can choose to hide everything when they come to see me or be who I really am.
I have went shopping with my youngest daughter (8) and bought myself some clothes while she was watching. I also bought some bedroom accessories with both my youngest and oldest daughter (14) present that was clearly feminine (hot pink to be precise). My oldest has seen my belly ring and noticed I shave everywhere.
So I am trying to decide if and how I should tell the kids. I really want to and not just for my own reasons. My oldest daughter is into anime and manga (Japanese cartoons and comics respectively). She asked yesterday if she could get her hair cut like one of the boys in one of her books. I told her it was okay if she wanted to but I wanted her to do it before school started so she could change it if she did not like it (I do not think the style is very complimentary to her face). I have bought her an anime costume that she wanted that was a male costume. I think by telling her about me that it will put her at ease with her own issues (she is very shy outwardly but has a mind of her own and does not care about what others think, mostly).
My youngest is carefree and a very prissy tomboy (she was playing with worms while wearing a dress and makeup the other day - and this is the norm) and I do not think it would phase her in the slightest.
What are your opinions on telling them and how should I approach it if I do. Thanks.
Danielle
I have went shopping with my youngest daughter (8) and bought myself some clothes while she was watching. I also bought some bedroom accessories with both my youngest and oldest daughter (14) present that was clearly feminine (hot pink to be precise). My oldest has seen my belly ring and noticed I shave everywhere.
So I am trying to decide if and how I should tell the kids. I really want to and not just for my own reasons. My oldest daughter is into anime and manga (Japanese cartoons and comics respectively). She asked yesterday if she could get her hair cut like one of the boys in one of her books. I told her it was okay if she wanted to but I wanted her to do it before school started so she could change it if she did not like it (I do not think the style is very complimentary to her face). I have bought her an anime costume that she wanted that was a male costume. I think by telling her about me that it will put her at ease with her own issues (she is very shy outwardly but has a mind of her own and does not care about what others think, mostly).
My youngest is carefree and a very prissy tomboy (she was playing with worms while wearing a dress and makeup the other day - and this is the norm) and I do not think it would phase her in the slightest.
What are your opinions on telling them and how should I approach it if I do. Thanks.
Danielle