Purged my boy clothes!

[Genivieve]

I have to keep this brief for the moment but I had a really stressful semi breakdown! Now that it has somewhat passed it's a little funny. My crossdressing at home is an unspoken fact yet there is a shame to it. Family always refers to my girl clothes like a porn stash.

I opened up in very soft ways to my sister (who dated a gender dysphoric for 3 years) and to my girlfriend. In both cases I was treated with hatred flat out hatred.

Last week my family kept threatening to go into my room an toss all my belongings out because they'd like me to be "more ordinary" that's how they stated it.
I agreed to work with them and spent days clearing my space, moving my work equipment, and clearing out old clothes.

However, no matter how hard I worked every morning as I made my coffee I had my mother get in my face cuss and call me disgusting. 3 days into this repeated bashing I lost it. I grabbed all my boy clothes kicked the window open and threw them out.

There's a history to this of course. My mon would dress me all day when I was young. In later years she took the habit of vandalizing my room when she was pissed at something (often it had nothing to do with me). So I struck myself before they could. Haha. I had to wear girl jeans and a teeny hoodie until I got my senses back and bought some guy shirts.

I will never understand the anger directed my way.

[Cynthia Anne]

My deer friend! It sounds to me that it's time to move on! If you can't get a place of your own, perhaps you have some friends you can stay with! No one needs to live it that type of enviroment! Best wishes for you! Hugs!

[Annaliese]

It is one thing to be treated by strangers that way but by family, as soon as you can get out of there.

[Dawn cd]

You are 34 years old. Why are you letting your family treat you like a child? Even if it has nothing to do with dressing, you need to find a place where you can be who you need to be.

[Genivieve]

Sound advice. I was a working artist up until this year and moved back home once jobs disappeared.
I thought it was a kind move on their part but the price was high.

[kimdl93]

I guess every form of refuge has its price... but sometimes that price is too high. You should not subject yourself to such abuse. Find a way out - even a monastery would be better than living in that environment.

[Gaby2]

I guess every form of refuge has its price... but sometimes that price is too high. You should not subject yourself to such abuse. Find a way out - even a monastery would be better than living in that environment.
... perhaps a convent would be more appropriate!:straightface:

As a low-paid musician myself, I have found it hard to make ends meet, since leaving my ex-wife's salary and the house we built some two and a half years ago...
but somehow things always work out, as I'm not afraid of "scraping and scrounging".
Your family's behaviour is appalling, to say the least!
Take care of yourself!
:hugs:Gaby

[Genivieve]

I want to thank you all. I was hesitant to post but I tend to get very real advice here nonsugar coating as well as support. What did people do before this forum!

I will likely pack up and have to take a hiatus from dressing too. There has to be middle ground somewhere.

[joanna4]

"If there's anything you need, I won't be far away" :)

[Anna Bee]

Completely unfair and I'm sorry that you have to be subjected to that :(

[juno]

Until you can move out, wear a T-shirt that says "MEAN PEOPLE SUCK". When they are mean, point to the shirt.

[whowhatwhen]

If they touch your property get the police involved, if they're going to be asses to you then they deserve no less.
+1 Wishing you well.

[TGMarla]

Sounds very disfunctional. You have my sympathy.

[t-girlxsophie]

that old adage is true here "you can choose your friends,but you cant choose your family" your folks sound particular nasty and spiteful.I hope for your sake you can find a solution that suits you

Sophie

[Chickhe]

With family like that you don't need enemies. And if you are an artist, you think they would understand your unique creativity! Its a double opportunity: motivation to become self sufficient and to find a better place to live!

[Tina B.]

I'm sorry families can hurt there own like that, I hope you stay safe, and find a better place to life, no one deserves that. And she ain't no girlfriend, if she's on there side, dump her! After all you deserve to have someone on your side.
Tina B.

[Karren H]

Until you can move out, wear a T-shirt that says "MEAN PEOPLE SUCK". When they are mean, point to the shirt.

Or "You'd. Wear this tee shirt too if you parents were A$$ Holes!!".

Money or not I would just leave.

[Pythos]

I am especially confused about the sister that dated a "gender dysphoric" (funny I thought we were just humans with a twist :) ), directing hatred at you.

Your mother is sick if she is really and truly directing such hatred at you. Councelling is what SHE and your sisters need, that is for sure

[Domyjeans]

Sad story, I agree with Dawn cd, at 34 years, you don't have to listen your parents like at 10 years old.

[Wendy_Marie]

Sound advice. I was a working artist up until this year and moved back home once jobs disappeared.
I thought it was a kind move on their part but the price was high.

I understand about feeling grateful for the kindness but one shouldn't have to repay kindness with Blood or the Proverbial Pound of Flesh......Keep you chin up girl.

[NV Susan]

Sorry to hear all the negativity your family is giving you. You may have to put your cross dressing aside for a while to keep the peace. Remember you are living under their roof and it sounds like they want to control your lifestyle.

With that said, get out as soon as you can.....and enjoy your life. :hugs: