How do your children address you

[Sandra]

I was quite shocked the other day when heard a comment about a TS who told her daughter when she call her father dad, I'm not dad my name is...... it is as if she is saying I'm not your dad anymore.

Nigella has always said she is Amy's dad and that will never change....


EDITED

I am sorry but the FtMs slipped my mind...Felix thank you for posting....

FtMs please jump in as well.

[Felix]

Well hya after a long absence due to my surgeries.

Good thread ..... My son calls me Mum still coz thats what I am but I must admit I'd love him to just call me Felix, one day maybe :) but Ill never force him to. Its hard but then its not easy for him either and I always take that into consideration. Before I went on T I found it hard but once on T it was easier although at times it did mess with my psychi. Now I've had my GRS its not so bad although it still gets to me at times. My friends think its hard for me but I just explain like I have here and they get it usually :) xx Felix

[thechic]

My Kids address me as dad,even thought it does corse some awkward moments they are my babys after all am there dad,would not have it any other way,though i have told them to just turn the volume down when saying dad.

[Sandra]

Felix thank you for replying, I had edited my post to include replies from FtM's, as the FtMs did slip my mind and for that I am sorry;

Thechic...love your reply, as for getting kids to keep the volume down, I bet you have a hard time doing this :D

[Felix]

Hey no worries hun at all it didn't even cross my mind :)

Lovin the turn the volume down thechic, Ive tried that too coz my Son sometimes forgets when we are in public still ;) x Felix

[GypsyKaren]

I have always been and will always be "dad", that's something I don't want to ever change and I made sure they knew that before I had my SRS.

[ReneeT]

Good topic! I ill be letting my teenage kids in on the " secret" soon, so thi is helpul

[Kaitlyn Michele]

i am their dad...they call me dad..

when out and about, they call me kaitlyn..

[LitaKelley]

My daughter calls me dad, and even when out in public, she still SCREAMS.... 'DADDY... DADDY' as loudly as possible, lol... I'm not going to ask her to call me anything else, but I have requested that she lower the volume when out in public.

[arbon]

She switches back and forth between Dad, "T", and Poppy a lot. In public she tries to stick with either "T" or Poppy.

[RachelOKC]

My two year old calls me Daddy - that's fine with me. I'll admit to mild embarassment at times when I am out in public with him and not dressed like most other daddies, but it's not a big deal. I'm not pretending to anyone that I am not trans so they can just deal with a bit of something unusual. Besides, when I am with him, I've never heard anything but a kind word from strangers.

Sometimes TG acquaintances refer to me as his mommy. I find this to be somewhat annoying even though they really just don't know any better. I correct them and tell them that while I may be his biological parent and look female, I am not his mommy.


My daughter calls me dad, and even when out in public, she still SCREAMS.... 'DADDY... DADDY' as loudly as possible, lol... I'm not going to ask her to call me anything else, but I have requested that she lower the volume when out in public.

Heehehe...yep. "The DADDY DADDY DADDY" has no doubt made me turn bright red a number of times but it doesn't show under foundation. :)

[Jorja]

My son just turned 30 and my daughter is 28. When alone they still call me dad sometimes. Most of the time they call me mom or Jorja depending on the situation. At least they aren't calling me an old senile bat, yet. :)

[Melody Moore]

To my kids I am their father, so I understand that to them I will always be their 'Dad'.

But I don't think asking your child to call you by your new name is saying to them
that you are no longer their father - I think it's a trade-off we would like to make
with our kids so they don't embarrass you & themselves if you were out in public.

[Dita_B]

My son (he's 39) introduces me to others, like friends or complete strangers, as:

"This is Dita, SHE'S my Dad"...

And my grandson, he's 4 years old, calls me:

"Opa Dita"...

I find both ways very cute and I am proud to be addressed that way...

:love: Dita xo

[ReineD]

I can't obviously add to this thread, but I've just got to say it is one of the most heart-warming, cutest threads I've ever seen in this forum.

All you moms and dads are absolutely wonderful!

:love:

[Kathryn Martin]

My children (31, 30 and 27) call me Papa, they always have. They introduce me as Kathryn, my dad. My grandchildren call me Papa Kathryn, or Grampa.

[noeleena]

Hi,

As we have 3 grown up's K, 33 , she has 4 children 2 girls 2 boy's .. N. 35, he & S have 1 boy ., C 36 , he & K , have, 2 girl's 2 boy's .

K will allways call me her Dad, & so does N & C , We have 9 grand kids as you know under 13.down to 6 weeks .

Dejarn 8 y 8 m , calls me grandad some times Mom or noeleena or Nana.

At a camp we were at of about 40 people we were helping put up a large tent & if Dejarn could not see me she would call out ....grandad .... were are you . & i would say ....im here..... & as most people were women they were looking for this grandad. who was no wherre to be seen . till they twigged , after, who i was. most we had never meet before, & as i was takeing charge of the tents we both got to know others pretty soon ,

For me i have no problems how im called so when people call me no-el or noeleena or dad / nana, it's still me , i did say you call me what ever.

...noeleena...

[Sandra]

Some great replies :) thank you



To my kids I am their father, so I understand that to them I will always be their 'Dad'.

But I don't think asking your child to call you by your new name is saying to them
that you are no longer their father - I think it's a trade-off we would like to make
with our kids so they don't embarrass you & themselves if you were out in public.

Hmmm from the comment that I heard, it was a case of don't call me dad at all, and TBH I don't think making a trade off with your children would suit every body. I would also think that if you are out and about with your children then they accept you and would not be embarrassed to say dad, maybe this trade off is more to save embarrassment for "dad"

[Melody Moore]

maybe this trade off is more to save embarrassment for "dad"
I did say that didn't I? :daydreaming:


I think it's a trade-off we would like to make with our kids so
they don't embarrass you & themselves if you were out in public.

Oh, and the way my brats have been about my transition? (fuelled mostly by their mother/my ex)
there is no way I would want to spend any-time with them right now until they learn to grow up.
One day hopefully they will figure it all out. But right now they need time to come to terms with it.

They are old enough to start being a lot more mature about how they are dealing with it. My kids are
all adults now, aged 18, 22 & 26 years old And I can tell by how they are reacting to my transition they
are deeply embarrassed about it.

[Sejd]

My daughter sometimes introduces me to her friends like this: This is my Transparent. but she also calls me Dad, which is perfectly OK. My two sons calls me Dad as well. How could it be any different - Duh, I am their Dad ! :0) and NO, I'm never going to have a baby!!!!!

[ReineD]

Transparent! I LOVE this. Thank you so much! I'll remember this for future ladies in FAB. :hugs:


(sorry Sandra, I couldn't contain my enthusiasm) :hugs:

[DanielMacBride]

My eldest (she's 22) calls me Dan, and the rest of the kids call me Mum but always use "he" (which is quite amusing watching it confuse the heck out of their friends at times LOL!) I have been working on trying to get them to just say "Dan" or something non-gender specific in public, but it's hard when they have all grown up knowing me as Mum (the youngest often forgets, which won't be a problem when we are out in public with my partner because she has already said that if they say "Mum", she'll just answer for me :D) but my 20yo son has come up with a fun solution, he just calls me "Parental Unit" lol :D

[Sandra]

my 20yo son has come up with a fun solution, he just calls me "Parental Unit" lol :D

Love it :D...............

[Debglam]

Mommy Dearest! (Sorry :o )

[KateConnors]

My wife and I refer to ourselves as parental units too :-)

We use Maddy for me, but so far this has only confused our 18 month old who thinks that we're both Mummy.