Out...............

[Kelsy]

The last ten days have been emotional to the extreme. amid tears and laughter
with surprising acceptance and painful rejection I have told everyone in my immediate family that I am transsexual and I am in transition. The responses have been unexpected and some predictable. My Mom was sweet and supporting. My boys were understanding but confused and tearful. My daughter rejected me out of hand and vowed I would never see my grand children again. My wife's parents have been supportive as well a her brother, my sister inlaw is having real trouble processing the whole thing. many others friends etc have been told! I am emotionally exausted
and need to absorb it all. My computer crashed a week ago and my phone broke so comunication has been difficult. I'm feeling a little numb and need to take my camper and disappear for while.

It is done and everything begins new, everything has changed!

K

[Jenny Doolittle]

Wow, Nothing like telling it all at once. What is your wife's position, one of support I hope. I will pray for a strong support system from those close to you.

Jenny

[Jeanna]

I think I would be taking my camper and disappear for a while too. You are brave and I wish you all the best.

[Kelsy]

I would have prefered to come out a little at a time but because of where i live if I told one person everyone would soon know and rumors would get out of hand. I wanted the people I care about to hear it first from me with some accurate info.

[Inna]

Kelsy, a wonderful thing has happened in your life, You were born once again, but this time you shall be YOU!!!!

I know I have been there, it almost seems unbearable but some invisible force makes us go on and get closer to the truth. Those who misunderstand you now may still return with love, time does work in truths favor, on the other hand, there might be those who shall be lost for ever, but believe that it is not because of you, but their own insecurities.

Your computer crashing and malfunctioning phone sounds to me that life is helping you to cope with overload and your perception of taking some time off is right in line. Go for it babe, listen to the wind caressing the soft leaves, it has much to tell you, look up upon the starry sky they carry wisdom of universe we are all part of, feel your soul, at last you shell soar free without burden and sorrow.

Love, Inna

[Melody Moore]

Well done Kelsy, it's tough work just mustering up the courage to take such a leap of faith,
but you really sound like you haven't done too bad at all really, you had to expect some of
the negative & confused reactions you got, but give it time and once the dust all settles
the hopefully some of these that can't understand or accept this now will become more
supportive.

I just made this post here (http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/showthread.php?158066-Options-for-mild-femenization&p=2567882&viewfull=1#post2567882) and in it I talked exactly about this and taking this leap
of faith and here is part of what I wrote and I would like to share it with you too.


Like you I suffered living in fear about who I really was, and for me that was for all my damn life.
So once I let the real me out of the box, and set myself free there was no way that I was ever
going back to living in a cage. The fear that held me back was mostly based around rejection &
while some people, mostly my family have rejected me, I have learnt who my real friends are &
who really loves me. My pyschologist once said "The best way to find out who your real friends
are & who really loves you, is to transition" & I guarantee there are no truer words ever spoken.

But here is the thing about facing up to these fears, I took that leap of faith and at the end of it
I have landed squarely on my feet, even though I did suffer a few bumps & bruises during the fall.
Now I am free of the fear and the bonus in all of this is that over the past year I have made so
many new good friends it just blows my mind! And I did this by getting involved with my local LGBT
community as a stepping stone to helping me merge back into society with a group of friends that
accepted me 100% as the person I truly am. I live in a normal household & share with other straight
people now and live a normal life now as a woman. before I took this leap of faith one year ago, I was
doubting that any of this was at all possible, but here I am now living my life for the first time ever &
I know that reaching this point has had it's moments where I had some doubt if I could get there.

Maintaining your personal faith & self-confidence is the key here & the only way that you will get through
this is by setting yourself the goal & keep battling until you get through them - stay focused & let nothing
else ever become a distraction to your reaching your goals. it sounds selfish, but at the end of the day the
greater majority of people are going to find you a much better person because of it. There comes a time in
everyone's life where the most giving of person has to reclaim something of themselves. Good luck with it all.

:hugs:

[arbon]

What a huge thing to do. I hope you are able to get some rest :)

[Jay Cee]

Brave girl! I see the wisdom of telling everyone at once. I've been contemplating telling one of my sisters, but then came to realize that no matter which one I told, word would spread. Even if I swore her to secrecy. <sigh> I agree with Alexia - the phone and computer issues may not have been just a random thing.

[Aprilrain]

So who's going camping Kelsy or "that guy"? the best part is that you did what you needed to do and now its up to everyone else to decide what they want to do.

[Melody Moore]

I've been contemplating telling one of my sisters, but then came to realize that no matter which one I told, word would spread.
It was the same with my kids, where I only told the eldest daughter & my other 2 kids knew about within 30 minutes.