Intertwined
08-21-2011, 10:50 AM
My wife is not in a good emotional state of mind right now.
It’s not just my CD, its bills going up, income going down, issues with her prosthesis, and health issues with our daughter.
When it comes to the CD, she seems most bothered, right now anyway, by people that do not know I CD, but have gotten some sort of clue or hint, and then ask her about me. She tells them that they have to ask me.
Some of my friends and a few of my family and all my co-workers know I CD. I believe my wife wants me to come out to everyone, I think she believes that one, the questions then would be directed towards me not her, and two, it would relieve the stress for her, of which friends and family are going to stop being friends and family if they find out. Get it over with so to speak.
Now of course, I am hoping to sit down with her today, and make sure that this is what she wants me to do. I will not take this step without clarifying it with my wife and daughter.
I have prepared a letter that I will e-mail to those that have e-mail, ground mail the others, and probably delete my Marsha Facebook page, and do a short status update on my Marshall page, and place CD in my interests in the profile.
+ + The Letter (still fine tuning) + +
I would like to share something with you about my life because it is important to me that you know this.
I have only shared this with a few family and friends thus far, but I think the time has come that everyone should know this.
I am what most call “a cross dresser”, I prefer “genderqueer” or “androgynous”.
I am sorry for not sharing this part of my life with you sooner. For years I have thought about letting everyone know this, but, I had to learn to accept myself first. I had to learn that it is okay to be who I am. I had to think about how best to let everyone know this because I was afraid that I would lose the support of family and friends.
The reason I am choosing this time is because, by not letting everyone know, I have put my family and friends that do know, in a difficult situation, especially when they are asked questions about me, by people who do not know I am androgynous.
This is not a recent thing for me, I have been this way since as early as 8 years old, and possibly sooner.
No, I am not gay, that is usually the first wrong assumption.
No, I do not want to be a woman, nor do I even want to look like a woman. What makes me most comfortable is mixing the masculine and feminine looks to come up with my own unique look. This unique look matches my “Gender Identity”, how I feel inside. My gender identity is not fully male, neither is it fully female, I feel equally both.
I am the same person you have always known, I am just being honest with you about how I feel about myself.
If you have questions about me and who or what I am, please ask me! The worst thing anyone could do is to make assumptions, or to ask someone else questions about me. I am the best source of information about myself, and as many of my friends and family will attest, I will not hesitate telling all about myself when asked.
It’s not just my CD, its bills going up, income going down, issues with her prosthesis, and health issues with our daughter.
When it comes to the CD, she seems most bothered, right now anyway, by people that do not know I CD, but have gotten some sort of clue or hint, and then ask her about me. She tells them that they have to ask me.
Some of my friends and a few of my family and all my co-workers know I CD. I believe my wife wants me to come out to everyone, I think she believes that one, the questions then would be directed towards me not her, and two, it would relieve the stress for her, of which friends and family are going to stop being friends and family if they find out. Get it over with so to speak.
Now of course, I am hoping to sit down with her today, and make sure that this is what she wants me to do. I will not take this step without clarifying it with my wife and daughter.
I have prepared a letter that I will e-mail to those that have e-mail, ground mail the others, and probably delete my Marsha Facebook page, and do a short status update on my Marshall page, and place CD in my interests in the profile.
+ + The Letter (still fine tuning) + +
I would like to share something with you about my life because it is important to me that you know this.
I have only shared this with a few family and friends thus far, but I think the time has come that everyone should know this.
I am what most call “a cross dresser”, I prefer “genderqueer” or “androgynous”.
I am sorry for not sharing this part of my life with you sooner. For years I have thought about letting everyone know this, but, I had to learn to accept myself first. I had to learn that it is okay to be who I am. I had to think about how best to let everyone know this because I was afraid that I would lose the support of family and friends.
The reason I am choosing this time is because, by not letting everyone know, I have put my family and friends that do know, in a difficult situation, especially when they are asked questions about me, by people who do not know I am androgynous.
This is not a recent thing for me, I have been this way since as early as 8 years old, and possibly sooner.
No, I am not gay, that is usually the first wrong assumption.
No, I do not want to be a woman, nor do I even want to look like a woman. What makes me most comfortable is mixing the masculine and feminine looks to come up with my own unique look. This unique look matches my “Gender Identity”, how I feel inside. My gender identity is not fully male, neither is it fully female, I feel equally both.
I am the same person you have always known, I am just being honest with you about how I feel about myself.
If you have questions about me and who or what I am, please ask me! The worst thing anyone could do is to make assumptions, or to ask someone else questions about me. I am the best source of information about myself, and as many of my friends and family will attest, I will not hesitate telling all about myself when asked.