Amazing Day

[theresa]

Hi. I've been transgendered from my earliest memories of life but never was sure where I fit on the "TG spectrum", if there is such a thing. I have been very comfortable with my TG life, moving back and forth between both genders on a regular basis. I'm open to an accepting wife and generally have a good life but over the last couple of years have been battling increasing frequencies of depression when I have to be in male mode. Last week I finally met with a therapist specializing in Gender Identity to try to understand what appeared to me to be an obsession of some sort. After talking with her for awhile she feels strongly that I have been transexual since birth. I was somewhat shocked at first, but also felt relieved and thankful for what I suspected was true. The longer I thought about the thought of being transexual, the more at peace I felt in having an idea of who I am and what I want.

Obviously there is still lots of therapy ahead, self searching, learning, understanding and decisions to be made before anything happens. I'm very excited but very scared at the same time. People I love will be impacted by this. There are hard times ahead I know and this would be difficult for me and others in my life. There is still a long way to go and the idea of transitioning is new to me.

There isn't anyone to talk to about this, except the therapist, at this time. Since some of you may have been through similar feelings and experiences, I was curious what advice any of you might be willing to pass along.

[Melody Moore]

Hi Theresa, it sounds like your bell has just gone off and you finally have found your true self
when you start to experience this type of peace. And like you, the more I thought about it,
& the deeper I dug into it, the more everything was making a lot more sense to me why I have
always felt the way that I did.

But you are off to a really great start with a very supportive partner and I think that is one of
the hardest hurdles to overcome to begin with. So you couldn't really ask for anything more.
I personally believe that your journey will be fairly smooth while still having the odd occasional
moment because it sounds to me like you have already worked through many of your issues.
So well done and I hope things go really well for you from now on :hugs:

EDIT: As for advice, I would recommend that you start with facial hair removal, voice training
& growing your hair out if you already haven't. If you are working then obviously there will be
some things you will have to start preparing for there. Learning about your legal rights & find
out about the requirements for changing your name etc in your state as this information is
handy to know if & when the time comes. If you haven't come out to all your family & friends
then this is something else you also have to start thinking about as well. I would also start
looking for a good doctor with experience in managing hormone therapy as well. If you don't
know one, ask your therapist if there is anyone they can recommend. But if you can't just
start calling up any endocrinologist & ask the receptionist if their doctor(s) have experience
in dealing with transsexuals.

[Kaitlyn Michele]

you are not alone theresa in what a friend of mine called the "arc".. if you consider that a big part of everything you've done in your dressing life was about dealing with being transsexual, that can put things into perspective.. and your statement about being more at peace as you think about this is a really good thing because keeping your head on straight and feeling good about yourself is a huge part of your success in the future (its funny how that last statement applies to life in general but how often i forgot it when i started dealing with this head on)

it may seem obvious , but lots of things will change as you look down this path, and you should gather as much info as possible..

hair removal is a great bit of advice...there are alot of details that can impact your quality of life, and there will be many surprises thrown your way.. working through your thoughts with your wife is a big part of what happens next too...