I'm Having a bad day

[Connie D50]

Work was not fun today major fight with my partner, and A landlord . As I often do I go to this site to get my mind off of my current problems (and it has never let me down) I read the most current post (always fun) and then I go to the picture galley. Today I went thru the boy mode girl mode pictures everyone looks soo good. It did make me feel sad (must be the frame of mind I'm in) I looked at the pictures and thought to myself how great this site is for the young people. And yes for me also howevr I'm 55 and on the down side of my looks. If I had this site 30 years ago I would have been out in the world (and on the town) as Connie 30 years sooner. Sorry for the downer post

To end on an upbeat note I got 2 new dress in yeserday from my on line order can't wait to try them on.

Connie

[kimdl93]

I know exactly how you feel about the passage of time and what a great resource this site is for all of us. And I'd love to have skin that was 20 years younger!

[bridgetta]

it is the art of illusion.. it is art.. no matter the age... there is always room to invent .. try something wild !!

[suzy1]

Sorry you are feeling a bit down Connie.
You can always count your blessings. In your case two new dresses, yes?
And 55 is still young you know.

Have fun, SUZY

[Kittyagain]

Connie, the best news about getting older, everyday life gets smoother. Slip on the new dress then spin in front of the mirror. That is the aspirin of our life.

Kitty

[Diana Bain]

I'm coming up on 59...how many new dresses is that? Then it will be on to the wonderful sexy's (looking forward to sexy-one). Connie I hope you enjoy your new dresses...and a better tomorrow!

[Jamiegirl1]

Totally agree with you,I am 53 and if I was in my 20's when I started crossdressing,and had this forum also,my life would probably be a whole lot different than it is.....

[Jessica Ames]

I hope this is helpful. When more mature members post about the worries of age, it helps the younger ones put it in perspective. I have a new friend who is a member here, that is a little (teeny-tiny bit...haha) older than I am who mentioned wanting to help others at whatever age/stage they are at. We all have experiences that we wish we could have more control over, whether be it time passed, mistakes, missed opportunities, etc, but we can only use it to better ourselves and share with others to help them in their own journeys.

[Jessica86]

I agree. I envy the knowledge of the wiser members on here. There is no voice like the voice of experience. If it wasn't for your words and others, people like me would never have had the opportunity and guts to come out. For that, I say thanks. I hope this helps your days get a little better.

[Sophie86]

When I was 38, I already thought I was getting old, but ten years later I look back on that age with nostalgia. Rather than feel sad about not being 38 anymore, though, I think I should enjoy 48 as much as I can. That way, when I reach 58 I won't be looking back thinking how much time I wasted. :)

[Gaby2]

Well Connie, I hope you are coping better today.
I always wanted to be "older" for some reason.
And now that I am, I'm delighted.
Of course, I've noticed the "negative" changes like wrinkles, but they don't really worry me that much.
I'm relieved to have hopefully gotten over a cynical phase, which coincided with the upheavals in my life in the past few years.
I must admit that I work hard at trying to be pleasant when in company.
As regards young people - for me they are like good musicians... an inspiration!
:hugs:Gaby

[*Vanessa*]

Hey Connie - I sure you've started changing your mind after reading the inspiration posted here. Strange read though, it seems that the youngest that have posted sound the wiser and all thank the older for sharing their lives :) sweet!

I am lots older then you and just posted an image of myself today. Let me tell you this was a gigantic hurdle for me. It truly is the strength of many that help us.

Put one of those new dresses on and spin around the room - you look fabulous !

[sabrinaedwards]

In general, aging can be a negative thing. Fortunately, it beats the underground picnic! The internet and other means of communication have been a blessing to us more sequestered ladies.

[Leslie Langford]

I'm one of the older CDers here (63 years young :eek: :heehee:), and the way I see it, most of us really have only two good shots in our lives at passing relatively effortlessly as females:

1) When we are in our late teens or early 20's, our faces are still smooth and wrinkle-free, our beards haven't fully matured yet, and most of us haven't packed on the extra pounds often referred to as the insidious "middle-aged spread".

2) The second time is in our 50's and 60's, when our beards are greying and easier to cover up, and our GG counterparts have begun to undergo menopause and are starting to show more masculine attributes as their bodies adjust to those hormonal changes. These include more peach fuzz on their faces and hair on their upper lips, putting on weight (and often losing their formerly well-defined waists in the process), deepening voices, and their feet getting larger.

At the risk of attracting the ire of some of the GG's who post here, I have to say that it appears that this is often accompanied by a sense of resignation, whereby they just "go with the flow" and no longer bother trying to make themselves look attractive or sexy. This includes generally wearing their hair shorter and in an often mannish style as well as dressing in baggy, nondescript styles including the infamous "granny" panties, "mom" jeans, shapeless tops and jogging pants, flip-flops, and generally "sensible" shoes. In other words, the very antithesis of the way we crossdressers like to dress - and rail against - wishing that they would still prefer to dress like that as well.

All of this makes "passing" and/or blending in relatively easy in our age bracket, because even if we are not picture perfect in our presentation, the bar is not set that high anyways. Not to be unkind, but how passable are/were Julia Child, Janet Reno, Susan Boyle, Margaret Thatcher, and Golda Meir?

That said, even if we older CDer's missed the boat the first time around, we now have a second chance to make up for lost time. In my case, I am taking full advantage of all the opportunities now before me and have been out in public en femme more times (and far more successfully) over the last 3 years than I ever imagined possible - and what a wonderful ride it has been! Like so many others here who have also finally screwed up their courage and taken the plunge, the rewards have been incalculable.

If anything, the world is a far more accepting and open-minded place than it was in our youth, which makes crossdressing in public and being treated just like any other woman far more pleasurable than it might have been back in our youth anyway. It may have been a long wait, but it was definitely worth it, looking back.

It is often said that youth is wasted on the young, and what we older crossdressers have going for us is both the ability to blend in easily with the women in our age bracket, as well as the life experiences that have given us our self-assurance as well as our sense of style. And truth be known - rather than being an object of derision as we typically fear, more often than not we up the ante for our fellow GG's.

That's certainly the impression I've gotten, based on the number of compliments that I've received from GG's on my wardrobe choices, accessories, and of course - shoes! :thumbsup:

[Tina B.]

Connie, hope things have gotten better, both the partner and the landlord in one day, seems like sometimes life just piles up on us. Oh, thirty or forty years ago, would love to of had the INTERNET. you know the old saying "if I only, I knew then what I know now!"
Tina B.

[CindyT]

I feel your pain! I'm 54, so hard to fit into some of the clothes that I love so much! I too wish had the body I had in my 30's! I don't let anything get me down though, I see women my age who are in a lot worse shape than me! Gives me inspiration!!!

[RachelRICD]

I am 67 and have had more great experiences out and about in the past 3 years than in all my years of crossdressing (I started when I was 10). I have a job where I work as a woman everyday, I have a great wife who tolerates my "hobby" and I go out without incident whenever I want. There are some advantages to the "Golden Years"...LOL